To ask my neighbour to not put her bin out at 11pm

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Because it's noisey as fuck and wakes me up. She gets home normal evening time so plenty of time to do it beforehand

My neighbour seriously annoyed me a few months back by complaining that I'd put my bins out the night before and the foxes had strewn it over the pavement. At 6am she was knocking on my door demanding I clear it up then and there. I ignored the knocking and she then cleaned it up herself and gave me a guilt trip when she saw me later for the fact 'she'd had to clear up my rubbish'. I then got a lecture about how I had to put it out before 7am but not the night before. I now set my alarm early on bin day to take them out at 6.45 to avoid the foxes but I still enormously resent the neighbour.

It annoyed me when the neighbours used to put their bin out at lunchtime the day before!

I think if you ask really nicely and explain the problem of it waking you up YANBU. But if you start things off being arsey with her YABU as I think it's 6 of 1, half a dozen of the other really. 11pm isn't particularly late to put bins out IMO.

Sorry, just read the last few posts.

Are people talking about putting out the bins once a week or fortnight here? It would be very unreasonable to complain if so imo.

But have I got the right end of the stick so to speak!

If it's such a problem for you why don't you offer to put her bins out for her at a time you see fit!?

Does she work in the service industry perhaps? I know when I was working in the restaurant I sometimes had to put on the washing machine at 11pm when I got home.

Thankfully my neighbours were very understanding when I eventually got a chance to apologise, but maybe she has a valid reason for doing it that late and you need to show a bit of understanding.

Be thankful you don't have noisy fucking ASBO neighbours like mine, who decided one morning after a big bender (in their house - all bloody night) that it was a great idea to start clearing their front garden. So at 5.45am there was scraping and banging and hosing and sweeping wet concrete. I wouldn't actually have minded if it made a difference to their shithole of a junkyard/garden but all they did was move crap from one side to the other. Drugs are bad mkay

MY MUm started staying up until 3am and sleeping in late,when she was in the last years of her life. She used to put the bin out at around midnight. I managed to persuade her not to, she honestly didn't realise that she could be disturbing neighbours. So she stopped.

My eldest DD (31) is a bit obvious to her actions, because nothing bothers her, so she needs the person who her actions are bothering to spell it out to her.

Rather than seethe, I think it's always worth asking.

Everybody I know just puts their bins out just before going to bed, so 10-midnight on average. It is just the natural thing to do as you want to make sure you include all the waste you are going to have in the evening.

11pm is not antisocial, OP I am intrigued, at what time in the morning would you consider it is reasonable to make noise (talking about taking bins out, not playing the battery obviously)?

Once again, sigh...

Is the bin thing happening every night or just on bin day? Thank you.

If it is just on bin day, or the night before, I wouldn't even notice.

Every night yes. Otherwise no.

YABU

It's just a bin being taken out, try being kept awake by an idiot on the opposite side of the street who plays very loud music every week from 5pm until 2am!

Do you put your own bin out? Offer to put hers out for her when you do yours. Explain politely why. Make a new friend at the same time.

Hardly a zombie threat

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Sorry OP sometimes I put my bin out at 11pm. Not often but occasionally. I don't think its any worse than people coming hope/ going out at that time and banging car doors etc. People playing music, cars driving past etc.

If she did it earlier someone else would moan she's left them out too early. It's once a week or fortnight. YABU.

I would have said YANBU except I got really annoyed that my neighbour putting his bin out the other night at 10.30 was loud enough to wake my DD (she stirred, not fully woke) and wondered why it was taking him so long. Then when I got up in the morning, I realised he'd actually come over to put my bin (full of stinking nappies) out since I'd forgotten and then felt like a total bitch. So now he has a free pass to put his bin out whenever the hell he wants since he's an absolute sweetheart and I was just being a mardy bitch. If that's your neighbours only fault, just be grateful that it's not something much worse!

Why don't you put it out when you do yours??

OP - maybe you could leave an anonymous note on your neighbours' bins explaining that you are feeling very uncomfortable about their behaviour? HTH

YAB (a bit) U.
You could ask her or mention that the bin noise has woken you up, but I don't think you can go down the route of 'you're in all evening so...'

I often remember things before I go to bed such as the bin or making sure washing doesn't get darker on. I'd be a bit taken back if someone told me I should do it at a time that suits them because I was in the house earlier.

OP- it might be a good idea to attach an anonymous note to your neighbours' bin explaining that you find their behaviour really disturbing? HTH

Sorry for double posting!! new to this website!!