To ask my neighbour to not put her bin out at 11pm

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Because it's noisey as fuck and wakes me up. She gets home normal evening time so plenty of time to do it beforehand

Some people are irrationally "my way or the highway" on both sides of this debate!

Surely, as with most things, communication is the blindingly obvious solution.

Have a friendly conversation, let her know it wakes you and wonder very politely whether she could do it earlier. If she explains politely that foxes get dirty nappies/ meat scraps out of her in and spread the rubbish (or whatever) if she does it earlier she is of course reasonable in her reason for doing it as late as possible.

Early morning is very sensible if it's windy or foxes are a problem - people just need to talk to one another in a friendly way if things neighbors do causes them a problem. If there is no good reason most people will accommodate, if there is a good reason most people will say...

the sad thing is not the amount of selfish and ridiculous comment on this thread, it's AIBU after all, but the fact that these people do exist in real life an make their neighbours' life a misery. See all the thread about horrible neighbours. It's depressing.

Sometimes I feel like im a fool for always thinking about how my actions affect other people
Same here. My Mum made a point of always making me aware of how my actions impacted others yet on a lot of threads I feel like I'm a freak for giving a shit.

Just because legally people can make noise between 7am and 11pm does not mean they should. 11pm is late for many people and there is no way I'd do something noisy outside past about 9pm. OP may "only" be woken up once a week but that's 1 time out of 7 that her sleep is disturbed for unnecessary reasons. No need for it.

Is it that loud though? We always put our bins out very late Sunday night.... surely it can't last more than a few seconds?!
Noise really travels at night so it will be louder than you think, especially depending on the acoustics of the area. Also, "a few seconds" is enough to wake people, who then may have trouble getting back to sleep.

Omg it's only 11 pm and she is doing nothing at all wrong. YABVFU

Gosh 11pm is early bed time for us and wouldn't think twice about it but will now Incase you are my neighbour

If someone is doing something that disturbs your day to day life, then you don't need 'credit' to approach them

Not saying you do. I'm saying you get diminishing returns each time it happens though.

I have huge sympathy for the noisy neighbours type threads (been subject to some noisy bastards) but putting the bins out at 11pm is fine. It takes a minute, it's not that loud, there are loads of reasons it can't be done earlier sometimes (foxes, wind, people using your bin, v. early collections etc plus more)

I work unsocial hours and sometimes put my bin out late at night because it's too early to put it out before I leave for work. It actually didn't occur to me that it might disturb anyone because it takes about 30 seconds. And I'm a very considerate neighbour.

Whataload and Brexit you can tie yourself in knots trying to second guess what mayor may not annoy or disturb your neighbors unless you know the ins and outs of their routines intimately though.

You can always get it wrong and be constantly on tenterhooks if you try to second guess everyone's sleep/ wake pattern and thresholds etc.

Wtf don't people just talk to one another on an ongoing basis?

Whatever you do don't send some horrendous self righteous note using the phrase "much needed" or "hard earned" or "hard working" open the lines of friendly two way face to face communication!

shiny you only get demonising returns if you only speak to your neighbors to complain and demand. If you open a dialogue and make sure you listen to them and any minor issues they might have, or tiny things that could make their life pleasanter, as well as demand they change to accommodate you people become more likely to want to be helpful, not less!

Deminishing not demonising :o

cloudchasing it's not the same. I have seen many times one of my neighbours taking out his bins in his suit the minute he was home to do it as early as he possibly could. That's fine, no one expect him to leave work early for that.

It's the horrible entitled rude attitude "11pm is early for me, 5am is late for me, so screw you, who cares if I wake you up" which is nasty and completely unnecessary.

Yes, taking the bin out is that loud, I would wake up my own kids by doing mine. Unless you are physically not here, there's no valid reason to be antisocial, you are just being selfish. It's just very unfortunate for the people you wake up.

Yanbu.
My ndn used to have two separate companies collecting their bins (Waste/Recycling/Food) two separate days every week. One collection lorry used to come between 6.30am-7am and unsettle my young dc. It used to annoy me but I put up with it. They eventually had their own child and they requested the collection company to come much later as the lorry was disturbing their dd. Problem solved

Oh don't get me started on why the bin men love putting the empty bins across all the drive ways, meaning a pile up of cars stopping in the middle of the road to move their bins out of the way so they can drive onto their driveway.

Single parent here with ASD son and very clingy daughter.

The last time I tried to put my bin out around 9pm, it took me longer because of the weight and pain, and it was the week both bins needed putting out (recycling and garden) I thought both DCs were sound asleep. By the time I'd come back in, DS was wide awake in tears, DS had shouted me but I hadn't heard as I'm deaf in one ear, woken his sister, she'd rang grandma in hysterics asking where Pixies had gone convinced I'd done a late night runner 😂

I now make sure they're definitely doubly asleep before I take the bin out so that dont happen again.

Also, yes as a pp said it's the last thing in my routine too. I dont think 11pm is too late.

About neighbour credit. I understand all about wanting to appear reasonable, but what can you do in the face of cunts?

I complained to my absentee neighbour on Monday about her new tenant who called me a fat fucking bitch and an arsehole because I refused to let Virgin Mobile dig up my property to lay broadband cables for him without any notification.

She was initially apologetic but later sent me an officious email from Singapore saying that he really needed it for his important job and she was 'formally requesting your acquiesance'. Fuck right off.

Yanbu - my neighbour works nights and you hear him dragging it out at 4am every monday

talk to her about it, some of these yabu responders obviously don't have young kids and neighbours like yours

Why don't you ask your neighbour to not do it so late and if it's not possible, why don't you put her bins out for her when you do yours? My neighbours and I always put each others bins out.. having never discussed it

We put ours out late, probably 11ish. Can't do it when we get home because we have to put the bags on the pavement and then we tend to forget until one of us is going to bed.

We make an effort to be as quiet as possible, but the alternative is partially blocking the pavement at a time when there are still a fair amount of people out. The neighbours all have a drive they can stick their bags on the end of but our garden and garage have a different layout.

It's not unreasonable to ask it's not unreqsonable for her to have her reasons why. You can't presume she's just being an arsehole without actually knowing why she does it.
I honestly dont see it as antisocial it's a bin. However I did wake to my toddler who wasn't best pleased the bin men had woke up and started shouting at the window to them lol that pissed off both me and toddler lol

Isn't it the law that noise can be made up until 11? Or have I got that wrong?

YABU, it's not that loud is it. One of my neighbours takes his out really early on bin day, while everyone else takes them the night before. I wouldn't dream of saying anything to him. Also bin day falls on my day off work, the one day I don't need to get up early

I put the bins out at 11pm. They can come the next day any time from 6am to 9am, so much easier to do it then. The house next to me has a man in his early 70's who lives there, so no young kids. If I am honest, I don't see 11pm as late unless you have very young children.

Perhaps you could offer to put it out for her?