wedding etiquette

[Sunshinegirls]

I am going to a wedding in a few weeks and have bought a black dress, my mother is horrified and has informed me that you shouldn't wear black to a wedding as much as you shouldn't wear white. I've never heard of this. Is it a thing?

It's very much a thing. Black is for funerals. Wearing black to a wedding is like saying you're unhappy about the marriage.

Yeah, you're not supposed to wear black. Sorry.

I think you can wear black if you accessorize with some colours and wear a colourful hat

It's a very well known tradition, but not everybody cares about it.

Personally I doubt I'd have noticed or cared if any of the guests were in black, but I know a friend of mine was very offended by a guest wearing a black dress with pink flowers on.

It is a thing but not as much as the not wearing white thing. If it's a fancy style and you accessorise with a bit of colour it'll be fine :)

No White/Cream/Black for weddings
Agree black is for funeral

I think you can do black BUT it depends on the dress? And what accessories? ( you need bright shoes/bag etc)

I wouldn't wear black myself to a wedding as it does scream funeral, black just isn't a happy colour and a wedding should be a happy day

So unless you know the bride very very well and are sure they'll be ok with it, you shouldn't wear black.

Entirely black? I didn't think it was a 'thing' any more, but easy to dress up with coloured accessories.

Lots of colourful accessories and you'll be fine x

My mother in law wore entirely black to my wedding........am sure she did it as a statement of her unhappiness about the marriage (me taking her little boy away from her ) didn't bother me then and 20 years on it still doesn't

No don't wear black! Unless you are horrifically sad about the wedding that is?

It's very much a thing, traditionally. Some brides would very upset. But some. It so fussed these days. If you know her well just ask.

Your DM is correct. No black, no white, no cream and no green (supposed to be unlucky!)

IMO there's a big difference between wearing unrelieved black, and wearing a black dress with brightly coloured accessories.

Dress it up with hat, shawl/stole/scarf, shoes, bag, maybe some bold jewellery, all in a vibrant colour like bright pink, yellow or red, and it won't look in the least funereal.

Hmmmm shit! I still have time to buy another, it is completely black so I suppose might raise an eyebrow or two. Bit gutted as it took me ages to find a dress that didn't make me look like a overstuffed cushion.

My mum is buying a black dress for my wedding. I helped her pick it. She likes my DP fine, it's just that she literally never wears any other colour. It doesn't bother me at all.

I also agree, you shouldn't wear fully black to a wedding. Maybe the black dress with some bright heels, shrug, fascinator and jewellery at a push if you can't sort another dress

Picture of dress please

(For no other reason than I'm nosey )

This is what she's going to wear.

I have never heard about green at weddings. Just don't dress like a bridesmaid or a bride or someone in mourning

Nice dress! I'm getting married in a few weeks and my mum is wearing a cream and black dress, her outfit is lovely, I helped her pick it. I think it depends how well you know the couple. If you know they are not going to give a monkey's then go for it, if you don't know them well enough to call it then I'd steer clear.

The issue of wearing a black dress to a wedding was extensively debated on this thread a few weeks back, you might want to read for opinions:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2934141-that-you-don-t-ask-guests-to-change-their-wedding-outfit?

Personally I think anyone would be mad to care about you wearing black unless there was some reason to think you were deliberately doing it as a statement of disapproval (which again I would never have thought possible until I read on aforementioned thread that some people would take it that way)

Were you going to put any other colours to it? A jacket or a pashmina might change it.

no green (supposed to be unlucky!)

This is getting ridiculous. I have worn green to the majority to weddings I've been to as it's a good colour for me, and have never once heard that it was supposed to be unlucky!