wedding etiquette

[Sunshinegirls]

I am going to a wedding in a few weeks and have bought a black dress, my mother is horrified and has informed me that you shouldn't wear black to a wedding as much as you shouldn't wear white. I've never heard of this. Is it a thing?

'You do not wear black to weddings because someday, god forbid, you might actually WANT to wear black to a wedding in order to show your disapproval and your deep grief over somebody's ill-advised nuptials, and no one will know that this is what you intended because there will be a roomful of women in LBDs dancing barefoot to "We Are Family" and your grand gesture will be for naught.' dressaday.com/2005/05/30/rules-for-dresses-at-weddings-not-rules-for-wedding-dresses/

One of the dresses I wear to weddings is black with white spots all over it. I accessorise it with a green shrug & shoes.
The other dress is black with pink flowers. I accessorise it with a pink wrap, fascinator & shoes.
I like the dresses, look good in them & think the colour I am wearing is going to have no effect on whether the marriage is successful or not. Most of my friends seem to wear black to weddings too.

"The dress that ILookedintheWater has shown really does look funereal though."

Just wear what you like, OP. I can't even remember what people wore to my wedding!

No black or green.

you might actually WANT to wear black to a wedding in order to show your disapproval

brilliant link, this is so funny!
In real life, most people would just not go if they really disapprove.

What I find a bit puzzling is the amount of people who seem to believe that anything is suitable for a funeral as long as it's black. I am still not convinced

I've worn red to a wedding before.

I also wore a black and gold dress, but this was to a winter wedding (New Year's Eve in fact) that turned into a NYE party. The grooms didn't seem to mind.

Ilookedinthewater hahaha! It's quite like that! Same hair too. It's my kinda look

Black is fine, ask the bride to see if it would bother her.

I wouldn't wear all black to the ceremony, sorry op. If you're only going to the evening reception then all black is more acceptable imo.

All black tends to look like you disapprove, all white/ivory/cream like you're competing with the bride.

Black and white together or black/white with a coloured pattern is fine imo, my cousin wore a gorgeous black and white dress to my wedding and looked great, the same dress in all black or all white would have looked like she was sending a message.

Unless you know for definite that the bride and her family won't be offended then I'd wear the dress but wear a bright chunky necklace and bright accessories with it to break up the black.

TBH I don't even like black with a pattern for a wedding. There are so many other colours out there so why go for black at all?

I'd go for black any day because: that's the most flattering colour on me, and there's endless choices.
Unless I am the mother of the bride/groom (and still a few years to go), I never buy an outfit just for a wedding. My lovely black dresses are perfectly suitable for many occasions.
No one actually cares what I am wearing, as long as I am not showing my boobs/ knickers and I wear a smart outfit. Jeans and tshirts are a big no. A nice dress if fine (white etc.. excluded)

I hate pastels and bright colours on me, they don't work with my skin tone. No one even really noticed my friends wearing black at my own wedding.

Again, it's the Royal Family thinks it's ok, it's good enough for working class people like me!

Never been "correct" to wear black or white to wedding

I've worn this dress to a couple of weddings, usually with black straps sandals and a pink pashmina.

I'd rather somebody wore a black dress to my wedding than a white one!