To not lend DS2 a quid?

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DS2 (16) gets £15 pocket money a week. He doesn't work and spends all the money straight away on energy drinks, doritos and cigerettes. Because of this, he then has a habit of asking to "borrow" money in the week so he can go out with friends. I've tried to teach him budgeting skills, advised him to save £5 a week for unexpected invitations etc but he never does.

He's just waited until I got in from work tonight to ask to borrow £1 so he can "get a drink" whilst out with his mate later. Realistically it is probably to buy a cigerette off his mate.

He's been home all day and done nothing at all. Kitchen was a shit tip when I got in and poor dog was locked in kitchen alone as nobody can be arsed with him when me or DH isn't here.

So I know it's only a quid, but AIBU to say "no, sort your act out"?

If he doesn't do his chores/help around the house and/or he spends your money on ciggies, I wouldn't give him any money at all personally.

Teach him budgeting skills by reducing his pocket money to a fiver a week, never giving it to him until the jobs are done and then refusing to give him any more.
He really is treating you like an ATM without being responsible for putting anything in the account!

Do some of you not realise the cost of things? What's a teenager going to do with a fiver a week?

Pain - a teenager can learn that he/she needs to get a part time job to earn a bit more if they can't manage on a fiver a week.

YANBU. I have vivid memories of my mother refusing to 'lend' me 50p when I 'needed' it. Heh, I thought she was so evil but looking back I was horrendous with money and I understand why she did it. Still am pretty bad with money tbh. You really shouldn't have mentioned the ciggies, was obviously going to get a bunch of 'I would give him it if not for cigarettes' and such. The point isn't really what hes spending it on, the point is he cannot budget and (I assume) constantly asks for more.

The money would stop immediately if I though my DS was spending it on cigarettes.

Do some of you not realise the cost of things? What's a teenager going to do with a fiver a week?
I have 2 teenagers who manage just fine on that.
And if they were spending money on cigarettes they would get nothing. I wouldn't fund that. They're not really "doing" anything if it's being spent on smoking.

My DM did the same as you with the CM payments from my dad but for different reasons. So in the 1980s I got £15 per week pocket money. But I had to pay for everything. Buses, clothes etc.

I worked hard helping out around the house as my DM was a single parent and worked full time so my DSis and I cooked and cleaned.