Seriously? Would you consider breaking a relationship over someone flashing boobs? Have you never been to a beach in the Mediterranean? Many / most people are topless. I grew up like that and boobs absolutely don't bother me.
Feeling insecure is something one has to work out with oneself. I don't see the harm in looking. If three men were to do show me their bums all of a sudden, I wouldn't know what to do and probably just giggle silly and say "yeah"! Flashing is just rebellious behaviour, not a proposal for anything. His reaction wasn't either an agreement to meet later. I don't see the harm in looking. Are you telling me you actually don't look at all? No celebrities, actors, that hunky model from the JD sports shop, whatever? You don't see someone and think s/he is hot, without actually thinking anything beyond that? Because I do, men and women, I can appreciate when people are pretty, handsome, sexy, hot, whatever. It doesn't mean at all that I'd go with any of them and I don't compare my DH to any either. It's just looking. Is the problem that he said something in front of you? So the problem is that he hasn't hidden it? I rather have honesty in my relationship. We can both comment on people without sounding like we are looking for an affair, just saying one had a piercing is an observation, a factual one. He didn't say how her boobs were perfectly formed or made any comment that compared anyone to his current girlfriend. I don't see why porn is an issue either, for those who mentioned. It's just foreplay, it's not cheating! It's not desiring anyone else and staying with second best. It's just fiction, consumed as fiction and usually discarded as soon as the deed is finished. There's no contact or real communication. What about manga / cartoon porn? I think forcing to hide behaviour because of one's insecurities can only lead to the OH being accustomed to lie and have a split personality (with the lads Vs with the girlfriend). I rather have it all in the open. Don't get me wrong, I'm insecure, I had children, my body is nowhere where I'd like it, I get jealous if I see someone at his work that looks amazing... But I know it's my brain giving me a hard time and unless I'm hormonal, I can just shake it off and tell myself that all I need is to diet and do exercise. Too lazy though. Unless it's something that happens all the time with specific people, secretism and all that... I think one should relax a bit. Nobody is cut to the shape we want, there's always flaws eventually, it's us who decide how bothered we are by those flaws and whether is a big deal or not. That one for me it isn't, but I see many of you are clearly affected by that.