To expect a primary school to take DS his packed lunch

[MadAsFluff]

Name change as DS' school monitors MN ( I am not kidding). Today DS9 forgot his packed lunch so I took it to school at 9:30. Fast forward to just now when I picked him up, his class teacher spoke to me to make me aware that at 1pm ( 10 mins before lunch finished) his food was still in the office so he hadn't eaten much as there wasn't enough time left. She also kindly informed me that she had explained to him he needed to eat his lunch for energy even if he says he's not hungry ( He didn't say the reason he wasn't hungry was because he now felt sick - I'm not surprised!) I knew full well the reason he hadn't eaten was because he had put down for a packed lunch but then realised at lunchtime he actually didn't have any food so had just gone and sat outside and been too worried to ask ( this has happened before) my gripe is that this school refuse to take anything brought in by parents to a child that has forgotten it - Even food! The teacher said he was told it was in the office but he is adamant he wasn't told and actually if you think logically - had he known - when he realised he had no lunchbox he would have gone and got it. The teacher refused to accept anything I said and when I pointed out that every other school I know delivers stuff to the child's class she said it's the child's responsibility to remember their belongings. AIBU to be upset that they didn't take a 9yo his packed lunch. If not what do I do now? Leave it and seem like a ranty parent ( I wasn't shouty but was quite direct and did not back down or accept her reasoning) or do I write to the HT and clearly explain why it wasn't acceptable?

Sounds like you are doing a great job in quite difficult circumstances.
Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

I once got a phone call from the school to say that DS was distressed he'd forgotten his lunch. I replied that actually he'd forgotten more than this, he'd forgotten the day of the week and that he has hot lunch on Fridays

The office said that they would always feed a child, regardless.

My DS has forgotten his bag/lunch a couple of times, he had hot lunch and it's fine.

I can't believe how awful your school is OP, this should absolutely be stopped.

Put in a letter of complaint

it's not the lunch per se, it's the attitude. there is no job too busy where someone can't spare a few minutes to drop a lunch box to a 9yo. Shame on them. The fact your child is petrified of being punished for forgetting something is deplorable.

No wonder they monitor social media, they know they are a crap school with lots of people with good reason to complain. perhaps if they devoted the same amount of effort to being kind and effective rather than focusing all their attention on maintaining their reputation as a bunch of jumped up bullies, they wouldn't need to worry about comments.

Does the school really monitor MN? That is awful and hilarious! What do they need, check through the Local posts or the whole thing? Did they really ask MN to remove negative posts?

yeah.. praps if they spent less time on mumsnet, they'd have time to help kids have their LUNCH ffs.

I do understand about jumpers/gym bags etc, but this was lunch!

I'd expect the other office to deliver it to him - how mean!!

I work in a school office. Today I was the only one there. Through the day I have had lots of 'forgotten' things dropped in. 3 Swimming Kits, 2 violins, 1 PE Kit, 2 book bags, 1 reading records book, and about 6 packed lunches.

I took the swimming kids round to the class and while I was away from the office I missed the postman with a recorded delivery letter for us (won't get that now until after half term). The PE kit was collected by the child who came to the office to borrow a spare. The book bags and reading record I took to the classrooms at break time (we try not to disrupt classes by walking in during lessons), during that time no one answered the phone and there was an irate message from a parent who wanted to get an "urgent message to the teacher" (which wasn't urgent really but hey ho). The lunch boxes stay in the office until collected, the only one not collected by about 15 minutes into lunchtime I took to the hall and gave it to a dinner lady as there was no name or class on it (it had been left in the lobby while I was out of the office delivering other items).

I cannot 'ring the class' as classrooms don't have phones. No point 'emailing the teacher' as they would be TEACHING not checking emails.

I promise that we do our best but until you work in a school office you have no idea of just how much admin there actually is in a school.

Then of course there is the staying late because the person collecting some children has 'forgotten' and arrive one and a half hours after school finishes (and one hour after I stop being paid).

Oh and if a child has forgotten their lunch they DO come to the office and say "Mrs Bugger I've forgotten my lunch can you ring my mum/dad please". I then ring and the parent will either say they'll drop it in (in which case the child knows to come back at lunchtime) or they'll say they can't do that so we will organise a school meal for that child. In the past I have given a child my own lunch when they opened their packed lunch bag to find yesterday's wrapping still in there 😢

HP peuk there are no spaces in his year at DD's school. All the schools are full around here.
someotherfucker yy exactly!
Anyway I've told DS to always go to the office if he has forgotten anything just to check if it's there. Hopefully it won't happen again very soon
ketzele yes they check the local posts about their school and then search other posts to try and work out who commented. I don't think they actually asked MN to remove posts but they were asking if there was anything that could be done.