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To think he must be on chatsites

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:07

I have been in a long distance relationship with him for over a year.
He say he loves me misses etc.
In the early days of our relationship he was still on the chatsite he met me on and I created fake id and he flirted a bit with me.
We did seem to get closer as our relationship went on and he has been coming every weekend to see me and he texts and video calls me in the week.
He promised some time ago that he would stop going on the chatsite and I didn't see his profile on there again although I am aware he could have changed his id.
The other day we was searching for a place on his phone and I noticed that a couple of chatsites came up on his phone.
I questioned him and he said he isn't on chatsites no need because he has me.
He said the only reason they where in his search history is because his boss was asking where he had met me and he was showing him links.
But if that's the case why was he not just showing him the one he met me on.
What you think mumsnetters.

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TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 24/05/2017 09:11

I think he still uses chat sites. But then again, it sounds like you do too.
You flirted with him with a fake ID, and also said that you "didn't see his profile on there again", so you must have been there yourself.
It's not necessarily a bad thing; perhaps he just enjoys chatting, just as people enjoy being part of discussions on MN

user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:17

Yes was deliberately on there looking for him

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Smeaton · 24/05/2017 09:23

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:29

what the relationship had already started

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BitOutOfPractice · 24/05/2017 09:31

How did she lie at the beginning? I'm confused.

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AyeAmarok · 24/05/2017 09:37

Not a good relationship. No trust there. Best to finish it and go your separate ways.

user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:42

I have grown to really love him that's my problem now

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:44

What the hell should I do.
Without going into detail I have sacrificed a lot for him and done so much for him.

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:44

Yes I may be a fool I know.
Please go easy on me

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:46

He always talks nicely about me says I am great lady etc.

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:47

I cant give him up without something solid

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Smeaton · 24/05/2017 09:48

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:48

Do you understand what I mean I cant give him up without having soldi evidence that he is up to anything.

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:50

God smeaton I don't know.
I just like him so much but he hasn't done that much for me.
But I have always believed he loves me and that's all I was bothered about.

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Smeaton · 24/05/2017 09:52

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:52

I have always respected him for taking the time to travel over a hundred miles to see me on Saturday after 6 long hard days at work.

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:53

What if he is just chilling and talking but not meeting

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 09:54

I don't believe he would have time to meet anyone he works 6 days.

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 10:04

Well obviously I can be 100%certain but he has called before now from his workplace and he texts me roughly at times he is on breaks.

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 10:05

that should say I cant be 100% certain

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 10:06

how do I make sure this guy is sincere about me

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user1495612673 · 24/05/2017 10:08

he comes to me on Saturday evening looking like he has been at work.
Dirty hair, dusty and sometimes stains from building materials on arms

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