To think he must be on chatsites

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I have been in a long distance relationship with him for over a year.
He say he loves me misses etc.
In the early days of our relationship he was still on the chatsite he met me on and I created fake id and he flirted a bit with me.
We did seem to get closer as our relationship went on and he has been coming every weekend to see me and he texts and video calls me in the week.
He promised some time ago that he would stop going on the chatsite and I didn't see his profile on there again although I am aware he could have changed his id.
The other day we was searching for a place on his phone and I noticed that a couple of chatsites came up on his phone.
I questioned him and he said he isn't on chatsites no need because he has me.
He said the only reason they where in his search history is because his boss was asking where he had met me and he was showing him links.
But if that's the case why was he not just showing him the one he met me on.
What you think mumsnetters.

OP, I'm sure you've posted about this guy under another name and he was treating you terribly then too. He is absolutely still on chat sites and you deserve better.

You don't trust him that is obvious. I couldn't be in a relationship without trust. Stop wasting your time.

I think on your previous thread it was more or less unanimous that this guy is married and you're the weekend entertainment. Harsh but I fear true.

I have met a couple of friends and his parents are overseas.
I have seen his facebook not much activity.
I have been to his place as well.

Does his name start with G op?

why just ?

Just sounds like a position I have been in with similar lines given, ldr, driving up after 6 days work, dirty to prove it, calling me a lady, .

how do I make sure this guy is sincere about me

He's not.

He's on chat sites, trying to get fired into other women. This relationship doesn't have a happy future. You know this.

They all do and I have never said no.
We watch movies, go to the shops together.

Have you given this person money?

But do you think its okay for a guy to just chat and chill without meeting.?

No I haven't given money.

I'm just trying to think of a situation where a boss asks his member of staff where he met his girlfriend. I can't. Then I try to imagine the member of staff taking out his phone and saying, "I met her on X chatsite, but I will show you several other, similar, chatsites, too."

WHO WOULD DO THAT?

On your other thread you said his parents were dead. Now they are abroad. Which is it?

I know imperial I feel like crying

I am in a mess imperial lets just say that

Okay smeaton

You sound very young to me OP and very insecure. You didn't trust him from the get go - that might be he's dodgy or it might be your issues. But in a year of 'relationship' (if you can call seeing someone for sex and shopping once a week a relationship) he has failed to allay your suspicions. Again, that could be because they are well founded, or it could be because you are paranoid. Either way the relationship is doomed. End it, forget about him, work on your self esteem outside of a relationship. Meet a nice man in a normal context who you instinctively feel is trustworthy, ideally somebody 'in' your world so you get to know his routines, friends, family etc and don't have to accept his rather outlandish excuses for why your contact is so partial and one-sided.

Seriously, this is dead in the water.

Im just not experienced with relationships.

Yes I am aware of this smeaton. I am enjoying the relationship to a extent and he is oblivious to what I am really like.

His texts consist of I love you, miss you, I am so respectful to you.
Always asks how I am etc that he hopes I am okay etc.