My son has just started at a new school. The moment I arrived I was welcomed by the school mums, immediately added to their Facebook group and invited to all their get togethers. I've been having great fun. There's a group of 6 of us and we are all professionals.
I never thought anything of it until I bumped into my neighbour while early to pick my son up.
She has been trying to make friends in the local area for years and told me she has never once been invited to any of this groups meet ups and when she tried to talk to them they only talk briefly.
She says they only make friends with people withprofessional jobs and who they consider of their standard.
I didn't actually believe this so when I saw the group again I said I was going to invite my neighbour to which it became immediately obvious only certain people were welcome in this group. My comment was met with 'she's only your neighbour though isn't she, not an actual friend'. They then suggested she had a mild learning disability.
I think my neighbour is right. They only want professional class friends.
I dont know what to do now. Would I be unreasonable to stay friends with the group? Or would doing so when they seem a little snobby be wrong? I don't know if it's just wanting friends with similar interests and life experiences or genuine snobbery.