So daughter asked to be bridesmaid by sis in law to be. I've been asking for weeks re dresses - my daughter is not skinny and knew we might have to buy adult dress and get it fitted (she's not huge but has a tummy) I heard via family bride was loaning cause of DD's size saying she'd ruined the theme as they didn't have dress in size to fit and now she'd have to change her choice... and said nothing as I'm not supposed to know this convo took place!
Bride was out for lunch and DD who has aspergers and is aware of weight asked for gravy chips and I got her a small portion. Comment was later made that dress would never fit if I kept feeding her crap! Dress has now been chosen and it's from a supermarket is waisted so really doesn't suit and worse looks nothing like what a bridesmaid should be in and I think there will be child guests at wedding in dressier affair.. I've said I'm happy to pay just tell me what she wants but now we're at war over dress and I really just want to say forget the whole bridesmaid thing and we'll just go as guests and have fun as I don't want DD feeling like she's huge or ruined the theme or anything would I be UR to say this?!?