To have called her a selfish cow?

[Mrsknackered]

Little bit of a back story - we have a family a few doors down who drive me mental. The mum is very crass and has said some pretty offensive things.
I try and avoid her to the best of my ability but our 4 year olds are best friends (of course) so I put up with her for a couple hours a week so they can continue being friends.
Yesterday myself, my 2 DS's and my pregnant friend went to the park and cafe within the park - we bumped into neighbour in the park, she joined us.
4yo's playing nicely and my 5 month DS and her 1 year old were interacting, I noted her DD had a snotty nose but didn't think anything of it. She's met my friend before and knew she was pregnant etc.
I have just received a text from neighbour saying 'hi luv, kids have chickenpox rash today more are coming up by the minute' so I'm like 'oh no! Will have to let friend know. Hope they're okay, I'll keep an eye on mine' and then she's like 'yeah I took them to a chicken pox party a week and a bit ago but it's taken them ages to come up' and that was it. I'm fuming.
Why the hell did she not mention this before our children slobbered and climbed over each other? Before my pregnant friend held her DD?
I didn't reply because I was so cross and she sent another saying 'it'll be good for your kids to get it now' and I said 'no it's really inconvenient as DS1 has his primary school visit in less than 2 weeks and an audition for his hobby and DS2 has already been hospitalised three times in his 5 months with what should be little infections that his body can't fight. You selfish cow'
She's now rang me 3 times, I'm ignoring. The door will probably start knocking soon. I know I am probably being U but I really don't feel like I am!

The World Health Organisation has the vaccine on it's list of essential medicines. There is no excuse for the NHS not to provide it with the MMR jab.

There is no excuse for the NHS not to provide it with the MMR jab.

All right, if you say so - but they don't.

I seriously cannot understand why any parent who could afford it would not have their child vaccinated just because they would have to pay for it.

Well for starters, a lot of people don't even know that you could pay for it. I didn't know that a vaccine was available in the UK. I knew that other counties vaccinated routinely but I thought it wasn't available here.

Actually just seen this.
£80 per dose and you need 2 per child so £160 per child!

It's £120 per dose here. So £240 per child.

Although my Dd was hospitalised with chicken pox I'm a bit at the accusation of child neglect if parents don't get the vaccine...

I'm hosting an Ebola party next week, feel free to pop in, cake and fizzy pop provided.

If the NHS though it was clinically advantageous ,a cp vaccine would be given routinely to all.

OP I would be furious, she may just be too thick to have realised, though, as opposed to meaning to be reckless. I would consider keeping her at arms length really, who knows what other brilliant ideas she will get if she will knowingly expose babies and bumps to deliberately acquired cp without one single word of warning.

People are well within their rights to follow the NHS recommendations without being accused of child abuse, esspee, bloody obviously. Perhaps you are from some country where people budget for extra medical treatment as standard or something? Suggesting people are child abusers if they don't pay to go off the NHS vaccination schedule is basically mental and stupid.

The WHO has not accused the NHS of child abuse for not offering the vaccine to all babies...

I would be livid. She sounds thick as well as selfish. I would avoid her.

As a matter of interest, one of the arguments against the chickenpox vaccine was the fear it could result in an increase in serious cases of shingles, as older people would no longer have their immunity topped up by new cases of chickenpox in the community. Has this transpired at all in countries that introduced the vaccine years ago?

I have never heard of 'chicken pox parties'...what an odd idea!

YANBU- selfish cow is a lot more reserved than I would have gone to...especially with poorly infant, pregnant friend and an important school visit! All could have been affected by an inconsiderate person!
As pp said, perfect excuse to cut off! Difficult as DC friends and you live locally but just avoid, if a grown woman resorts to ' they could have picked up chicken pox anywhere' logic while you are upset...not worth relying on!

Aargh! Such people frustrate me! The baby contest voting...just rude!

pangalactic what kind of cake?

She is thick as shit. Thank goodness neither of my children have shown any signs of chicken pox so fingers crossed we've avoided it this time!
As if all of this CP drama wasn't bad enough, she recently came out with the most ludicrously racist comment, so I do just ignore her now. No smile/wave. It's a bit awkward because I'm trying to reduce the time that DS and her DS spend together as he says some pretty outrageous things for a 4 year old but DS1 so loves him

For those who are still watching this thread, DS2 came down with CP that very afternoon. Exactly 10 days incubation period.
He's very poorly but yet to see anything on DS1 he may avoid this time, we will see!

That afternoon I posted the update I mean!
More blistery spots are appearing every day :(

I don't buy the whole "he could have picked it up anywhere" bollocks either. Yes he could, but there's a world of difference between chancing something and deliberately risking it.

I mean, my 3-year-old would probably get across the road safely most of the time without me because it's quiet. Doesn't mean I'm going to let her. It shouldn't be someone else's decision to deliberately endanger your child.

Sorry op

Just want to say I hope your baby is ok and your pregnant friend. I'd be bloody furious. Have you had anymore interaction with the idiot who caused all this trouble?

What a nightmare OP

I can't believe some of the posts on here. I can well afford a vaccine. I will not be giving my children one unless recommended by a medical professional, not a few people on an Internet forum

There is a question over the vaccine, in that children who have the vaccine rather than the illness seem to be more prone to having shingles-which is often worse. That is one reason why they're not sure about giving it.

I don't think I'd give it to a young one-possibly if they haven't had it by teens, for that reason-and two of mine were really bad with chickenpox.

Your poor DS, hope he is not affected too badly. As for your neighbour, you can't argue with stupidity at that level.

DS2 is doing okay. We have been to out of hours today as a few of the spots have got infected and are pretty gross, so we have some antibiotics too. I kinda thought that would happen.
DS1 on the other hand has never even had a cold!
She came over to speak to me this morning when we came back from the out of hours and I just looked at her straight in the face and looked away. I have lost all patience/sympathy/anything for her!