To tell the mum's at nursery to fuck off

[Queenofthestress]

Every single day during drop off I get the dirtiest looks because I play with DC1 during the wait for the doors to open, half the time it's not even playing, it's catching him before he shoots out the door and is off before I can even turn dc2's pushchair around to run after him.
They know he's SN as they're in the same group and have heard me and his teacher talking about appointments or its come up in conversation yet I'm still getting dirty looks as if to say how dare you play with your child

Would it be unreasonable to tell them to bugger off with their shitty looks?

X post. Seriously I'd just ignore anyone else and concentrate on dropping off as painlessly as possible!

Oh enjoying that q for quinoa is so true! Let's count in Mandarin! I've actually heard parents say that. Makes me want to kill them. Instead I invite their kids for playdates and feed them white bread (which they love)

Sometimes just need a boot up the bum to get me back to reality Ecureuil

Can't see them being annoyed at you playing with your child.

Can see them finding it annoying if it's indoors/small space and you and your child are being loud (even you say he has to be told to use his indoor voice).

I don't think SN comes into it if I'm honest. I think you're being a little over sensitive. Keep playing with your child but be mindful that not everyone wants to hear every detail of your play.

I don't really get this. This is a case of paranoia is it not? To think that all the other parents are scowling, glaring or casting dirty looks at you seems quite odd.
Have you tried smiling? or a smile and a 'hey'? I don't think an entire group of Mum's would all ignore you if you did any of that?
You shouldn't tarnish all of them before you've tried, that's not fair.

Bloody hell, some people actually announce their kid knows a different language for the sake of showing off? I'm lucky if I can get a few words in English!

Are you being overly loud while playing with your DC? You know, one of those mums who like to let everyone know they're such a great person connecting with their child while the dis-interested mums are too busy chatting and ignoring their kids.

I think you're being paranoid. If everyone else is still and quiet and your ds is doing whatever, then he's just something to look at while waiting.

I've already established that I'm being over sensitive Delilah

Yup Queen it's a massive thing. They are twats.

I got shitty looks for talking to DS2 as we went round the supermarket when he was a baby. How on earth do babies learn to talk then?

I think shesaysso has it. You're showing off with loud parenting aren't you!

Some people are so precious. They looked at you. Get over it.

It's just one mum I was thinking it about, not all of them, if it was then even I would know I was being paranoid, I wasn't to sure if I was being oversensitive or not which is why I posted

enjoyingscience,

"...oh look timmy! We know those numbers in mandarin, don't we! Timmy! It's the letter Q! Q for quinoa and quiescent. Tell everyone what quiescent means now Timmy..."

You mean mums as in plural, not mum's.

Oh yeah, I'm totally showing off my perfect peekaboo skills DoNotBlameMe

I'm literally either playing peekaboo with him or pointing out what the letters on the wall say

This is performance parenting, I bet you wouldn't do it with the volume on high at home. It's annoying. If DS can't handle a wait turn up dead on time or bring something for him to do while you wait, even if it is watch cbeebies on a phone.

Actually I do it at home, the shops, on the street, any where and everywhere because he still jabbers 75% of the time, he's classed as non verbal by the speech therapist because you can't understand him at all which most of my mum friends at school know because they've seen me do it walking to and from school, I doubt that's performance parenting

"I bet you wouldn't do it with the volume on high at home. It's annoying. If DS can't handle a wait turn up dead on time or bring something for him to do while you wait, even if it is watch cbeebies on a phone."

Have I misunderstood? Are you telling the OP that she shouldn't be interacting with her kid in public?

Why would anyone actually dislike you playing with your child? Ade you suggesting that all other parwnts at your nursery don't?

I walk down the street singing nursery rhymes, guess I shouldn't be doing that in public either

I've already said several times over that I realised I was being over sensitive about one particular mum and needed a kick up the bum back to reality

Lowdoorinthewal1

I'm literally either playing peekaboo with him or pointing out what the letters on the wall say

This is performance parenting, I bet you wouldn't do it with the volume on high at home. It's annoying. If DS can't handle a wait turn up dead on time or bring something for him to do while you wait, even if it is watch cbeebies on a phone.

Jesus, so you can't play with your child or chat to them, without it being 'performance parenting ' - you really have the wrong idea about what that is!! (and frankly sound like a bit of a doofus)

Nope, but she can sit him on her lap with a book and point at letters together in that. Or, play a game of hiding a toy under a cloth. Either could be done quietly without the other mums even knowing what was going on.

It doesn't fit together. Peekaboo is a game to play with children when they are developing object permanence. This occurs at around 8 months. Letter recognition would be an appropriate activity between 3 and 4. Why would you be doing both? Why would either activity be loud?