To use the disabled loo when I'm with my son?

[RestingBitch]

My sons 9 months and obviously still in his pushchair. The majority of the time it's just me and him when I go into town/visit places. When I need the loo I get an attack of conscious, I normally use the disabled loo so I can bring him in with me.
Can't use a regular loo as I can't get him in the cubicle in his chair. Don't want to take him out of his pushchair and plonk him on the floor as the floors are manky and he will eat whatever is on the floor. He'll also probably try and crawl under the gap and interrupt someone else. Don't really like the idea of leaving him in his pushchair whilst I nip in the cubicle, so providing there isn't someone waiting for the disabled loos, AIBU to use them? I'm usually in and out and so far I've never encountered anyone waiting for one, or the impatient rattle of the door. If I am being unreasonable, short of pissing myself what's the options?

Not a troll, and don't work for any newspapers :).

Redhead Well then your Dad needs to sort his attitude problem out sharpish! Because some of us 'seemingly able bodied' people have fucking CROHN's Disease!!!!!! And need to space to change our bags full of shit! If I encountered an 'ear bashing' from your lovely father as you threaten, then he'd be fucking screamed at! Wheelchair or not! Judgemental b**tard!!!!!

See my user name.

My child is now an adult.

Healthy, fit, very very fit.

But still shits themself if they can't get to the toilet on time.

And if you are twatting about in a disabled toilet because you have a baby with you and no disabilities and using the toilet AND HAVE NO DISABILITY my 19 year old will shit themself.

On a day out, with mates, for a bite of lunch, some shopping and you, with your pushchair, and your snowflake baby, you, YOU will have made my child shit themself.

I hope that makes you feel great about yourself.

Technically

*will have been responsible for

not have made

I'm so bloody angry about this. How very fucking dare you use facilities you're not entitled to? Don't you realise what you might do? It's hard enough as it is, especially for someone like my child who gets the stares and the "you don't look disabled" all the fucking time.

Goady nasty thread and it is full of disablist crap (pardon the pun) and I am disgusted that it's allowed to stand (I have reported)

I've been reporting since last night, mychild. Not a sausage.

Oh sorry ONE post has been deleted.

But everyone knows the time the goady threads start is late at night or on the weekend (friday evening to monday morning)

Goady fuckers know when to start threads. When HQ aren't around as much.

I don't ever report to the Night Watch because that's public.

This thread is a bloody disgrace.

What if the OP leaves her baby outside s toilet and someone runs off with her baby!

Of course you have to make sure your baby is safe when you are out shopping and you need to go to the toilet. And of course your baby is previous OP.

I haven't asked to go to the front of the queue because the disabled has been empty.
As I said - I am aware i shouldn't, but I took the easy option. I am not making excuses.

How many babies every year are abducted from right outside the cubicle in a ladies loo when the mother has the door jammed open with the pram while she has a pee?

I have never ever heard of one.

Babies don't go missing from public loos.
There are ways of keeping an eye on your baby whilst having a pee and not using the facilities intended to make life happen for others.

The safety issues is why i wont put put my baby other side of door not because "my snowflake" wont like it, i know which toilets to use when in own town( mother and baby) for example mothercare or john lewis, but will use disabled one if somewhere which dont have them, and no que, i spoke about changing facilities because i wondered if that would be wrong if a disabled person was being made to wait if person changing was using them? Im replying to this thread not to be goady i just have different view i was wondering how many times that has happened to u Mychild as genuinely would like to know but understand it may come across goady.

And shouldnt i be allowed privacy when using toliet so wouldnt leave door open

Of course the likelihood of your baby being stolen is INCREDIBLY slim but that doesn't stop the anxiety does it. And when you've got a newborn and feeling nervous and also bleeding profusely and need to change your massive uncomfortable maternity pad then it's not a great combo. I hope people have learned to think twice about using disabled loo after this thread but I really do resent this accusation that mum's are just floating in there all entitled etc.

I don't get privacy when I shit myself while waiting, do i?

I really do resent this accusation that mum's are just floating in there all entitled etc.
This is how i feel too

I have no issue with a postnatal straw woman with a week old baby using them while they are bleeding profusely.

Op must have mis-written her child's age

Are you saying that has happened? If i dont feel i can leave baby othet side of door, does that mean its ok if i wee or poo myself?

Well if you had the option to take the baby out of the pram and use the toilet, you'd be a bit stupid to shit yourself

The anxiety of leaving her to make me not able to

Yabu (sometimes)

If the place is totally empty then obviously its not an issue at all, but if there is even the slightest, slightest chance of someone coming in and genuinely needing the disabled loo, you've either got to put up with the cubicles or be ready to do some serious apologising.

I have a PFB and I'm not ashamed of it, whose baby isn't precious to them.

I also suffer from anxiety, where I constantly worry my baby might die. I can't help it, I hate it and wish I was rational.

If it's a choice between keeping my baby safe and letting you shit yourself then I'm going to take the latter. Sorry!

I agree with a poster who said that every situation is different. No one uses an accessible toilet thinking 'ha fuck disabled people', it's because they need to use it too. They might not have a disability but their circumstances at that time mean that they can't use a regular cubicle.

I am not able to hold a bbay and go toliet its that simple, ive done it once when baby was in sling and that was quick wee and im not able to put her in sling all the time as have bad back since giving birth, i would like to knoe how many times accident has happened to disabled person due to mother or father being in disabled toliet

justdont
Redhead did say her father had suffered a stroke. It's very common in these circumstances for the part of the brain that affects social niceties to be damaged, hence the loss of filter.

Lots of times chicken. Lots of disabled people have continence issues, even if they aren't fully incontinent.

I am a reasonable person im not thinking im entilited mummy at all, i want to be understanding and find a solution but ultimately that would me not going out as not another soultion for me