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To use the disabled loo when I'm with my son?

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RestingBitch · 19/05/2017 17:06

My sons 9 months and obviously still in his pushchair. The majority of the time it's just me and him when I go into town/visit places. When I need the loo I get an attack of conscious, I normally use the disabled loo so I can bring him in with me.
Can't use a regular loo as I can't get him in the cubicle in his chair. Don't want to take him out of his pushchair and plonk him on the floor as the floors are manky and he will eat whatever is on the floor. He'll also probably try and crawl under the gap and interrupt someone else. Don't really like the idea of leaving him in his pushchair whilst I nip in the cubicle, so providing there isn't someone waiting for the disabled loos, AIBU to use them? I'm usually in and out and so far I've never encountered anyone waiting for one, or the impatient rattle of the door. If I am being unreasonable, short of pissing myself what's the options?

Not a troll, and don't work for any newspapers :).

OP posts:
Waltermittythesequel · 19/05/2017 22:04

Synyster you can't blame the OP for someone being a cunt about her shopping bags!

Sirzy · 19/05/2017 22:07

How many times do we have to have the "what if a disabled person was in there? "Argument"

That has been covered over and over again. Another disabled person using a facility designed to help them does not excuse selfish people using it when they aren't disabled

umizoomi · 19/05/2017 22:15

But 'I need to go when I need to go'

chicken2015 · 19/05/2017 22:22

Im confused as to where i should go toliet when i have baby with me in pram ive always used disabled toliet as pram is able to fit in and i cant leave baby other side of toliet door

mirime · 19/05/2017 22:24

Carriers aren't the solution to everything. When DS was very young if he was in the carrier he wanted to feed. Even if he'd just had a feed he'd instantly want to feed again. After a couple of months he was fine so I used the carrier until he was about 6 or 7 months when it became cripplingly painful to carry him any further than the 2 minute walk to Tesco's and back. Traipsing round a city centre with him in the carrier was not going to happen.

Can't we just have better designed toilets for everyone, preferably with a hand dryer free area for those of us with children who are terrified of the damn things.

OvO · 19/05/2017 22:24

If people can't figure out how to have a pee without using a disabled toilet I'm not sure any of you should be left in charge of an infant.

I know that's rude but reasonable gets you nowhere.

SynysterGates · 19/05/2017 22:25

I m confused
Wher do i take my dd, in a wheelchair
Do i que with the prams now?
Or can we just jump que for the toilet that disabled people campaigned for?
Wtf will happen with the changing places toilets, will parents be using them as the changing table is bigger?

umizoomi · 19/05/2017 22:27

Most people like privacy in public toilets. It's not rocket science to work out that prawns don't fit in normal cubicles. So you either sit on the toilet with the door open and pram in front of you or use a bigger space

umizoomi · 19/05/2017 22:28

Prams not prawns obviously

OvO · 19/05/2017 22:29

Prawns fit in fine. They're pretty small. Wink

Take the baby out the pram. Yes of course it's a bloody hassle trying to pee carrying a baby. But it's a couple of minutes of hassle for you. Big deal.

twelly · 19/05/2017 22:30

As with all things that are in short supply the demand may exceed the supply, but this is not always the case, if there was a long queue and no one was queuing for the disabled toilet it would in my view be perfectly acceptable for that to be used by those with young children. There are people who need access and the extra space but not everyone with a disability does. Need is relative to all and therefore each case is different.

IshipTomHardysohard · 19/05/2017 22:33

Stop being a precious petal op Hmm

No one will try and take your child while you have a wee in a toilet.

As I said in my last post there are ways to go to the toilet with a pram.

So funny aibu? Yes op you are, no I'm not! Haha

You decided what you want to do next time you need to go, use a disabled toilet. Maybe you come face to face to a actual disabled person, try explaining to them your actual shite excuse of why you needed to use the toilet.

Sparrowlegs248 · 19/05/2017 22:36

Most disabled loos have a babu change so no, yanbu.

SynysterGates · 19/05/2017 22:46

why dont you campaign for better facilities op?
you know start a campaign. spend years getting what you need

oh hang on
you won't cos your problem is so temporary

ItsNeverSunnyInWales · 19/05/2017 22:46

According to cctv, It took 2 minutes for Jamie Bulger to be snatched. You carry on leaving your babies outside the cubicles whilst you wee/poo/change sanpro whilst there's an empty safe accessible toilet that you're entitled to use, and pray you're not one of the unlucky ones.

chicken2015 · 19/05/2017 22:52

Ive never had a problem ive always let disabled people go in front but when ive thought about it, not sure ive ever had too, 95% of time the nappy changing facilities are in same place! and think it is crazy to attempt to hold a child while going to toliet its also not very hygienic!

OvO · 19/05/2017 22:54

Jesus Christ.

Kpo58 · 19/05/2017 22:55

Please use the end cubicle and leave the door open with the pushchair facing you instead.

You obviously live in a place with large toilets. Most places round here, if you try taking a pram into the normal toilets, you block all the cubicles and the sinks if you try to leave the pram outside of the cubicle that you have wedged yourself into.

ittakes2 · 19/05/2017 22:55

YANBU - I always took my twin pram into toilets if I needed a wee. I never came out and found a disabled person waiting. Most disabled toilets have baby changers and changing two nappies took some time - still never came out and found a disabled person waiting.
Some places only have one toilet and this is a disabled toilet - does this mean only disabled people can use it?

chicken2015 · 19/05/2017 22:56

If people can't figure out how to have a pee without using a disabled toilet I'm not sure any of you should be left in charge of an infant.

I know that's rude but reasonable gets you nowhere.

Ovo
.... rude wouldnt be my first thought, completely over the top and uncalled for.

chicken2015 · 19/05/2017 22:58

*unnecessary not uncalled for

OvO · 19/05/2017 22:58

I'M over the top. That's brilliant. Grin. Thanks for the laugh.

SynysterGates · 19/05/2017 22:59

ItsNeverSunnyInWales please never ever ever let your child out of your sight ever just in caseHmm

chicken2015 · 19/05/2017 23:01

Telling someone they basically shouldnt be left to be responsible for their own baby because they use a disabled toliet, when a lot ive been in has had changing facilities in, is not over the top?!

OvO · 19/05/2017 23:04

No, it's rude. Not at all over the top. How the hell do people manage the care of a baby if they make having a pee into such a bloody drama? Valid question I thought. Rude way to ask, or even mention, but not over the top.

Especially given some of the ridiculous over the top reasons given for using the disabled loos.