To want our DS to sleep in our room forever and ever and ever ....

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Ok, I know I am BU (probably)

He's only 6 months and we have agreed to keep him in with us (crib next to bed) til he is one. But i think this might be entirely for me because I'm so so so smitten with him 💕.

I'm also already worrying and a little sad that in 6 months he won't be asleep at the side of me when I wake up but will instead be approximately 15 footsteps away in the next room

I'm clearly a tad crazy. Please tell me why I should be moving him into his own room (or tell me not too, that's what my heart wants you to say!)

I wish dd was still in with us! We felt we had to move her into her own room at 7 months as none of us were sleeping, especially as dh works shifts and needs to sleep in the day. We all used to do a lot of co sleeping, but as dd got older she just wanted to play. I still miss her being in with us and she's 11 months now, but at least we're all sleeping now! If dd still being in our room worked, then I would absolutely still have her in with us. Still, her little excited face when I come into her room is priceless.

6 year old and 3 year old in with me most nights! Well, 3 year old every night & the 6yr old goes to bed in his own room and then appears in mine at some point during the night. 6 months is nothing! Do what suits you

On holiday in Italy a few years ago we were chatting to an Italian couple and their 16 year old son, it transpired that the boy had slept in his parent bed until he was 14.....14 years that is, not 14 months.....

I have several Italian male colleagues and this explains a lot.

There's a bit in a book by an English teacher in Italy where he's trying to teach morning routines vocab to a 30 y o man and it turns out the alarm doesn't wake him, his mum does and furthermore they co sleep.

We cosleep here, DD is 7, DS is 5. I've separated from their mum, she's remarried. They find it soothing and reassuring. Usually asleep at 8, up at 6.45 with them. Never a problem here..😊

Both of our kids slept in our room (in their cot) until they were 3.

Still got my 4 year old in bed with me. He is wonderful to wake up to! Cheerful and no morning breath! My 11 year old still hankers after coming in too!

My son moved himself over earlier this week!
He's 5 months old.
I finally got round to buying the cot bed mattress and made up the cot bed just to do it. I put him down to see what he though (also cos he looked so cute and small in it) and he fell straight asleep. From then onwards he cried if he was put down to sleep in his crib in our room. The bedroom isn't big enough for the cot bed so that's it! He's moved all by himself!

DD is 17 months and very happily sleeps in her own room, I'd love to have her in with me though. The odd night when she's teething or unsettled and I bring her in with us are lovely 😍 Seems silly to put her with us when she's so settled in her own bed. Luckily I'm pregnant again so will soon have a baby in my bed room again.

I didn't have our three in our room beyond about 6 weeks of age.

I wanted sleep and that was what worked for us.

Do what works best for you and your family.

I couldn't sleep if they were in our room. Both boys have had their own room from day one back at home. Didn't stop us sitting in their rooms with them. And I still have to stop myself checking them at night and they are adult. I have bat like hearing so the slightest noise wakes me. Flyingboy and I were so attuned that I would always wake up exactly two minutes before there was any noise from him. Their first bedrooms were very close to ours. If they were ill, they came to ours. I remember Flyingboy aiming very carefully at my slippers when he was sick as in his six year old mind it was easier to throw them away than try and clean the new carpet!

Eldest is now just going to mow the lawn, youngest is helping husband jump start the car. I don't think there has been awful damage done to either - they are fab.

Do what works for your family - that's you, partner and children.

DS outgrew his moses basket at 4 months and we had no room for his cot in our room.

We invested in a decent baby monitor, it definately put my mind at rest with regards to him sleeping in his own room. If you decide to move LO to their own room I highly suggest a good baby monitor with video camera. It really will put your mind at ease a bit.

Ahhh @Flyingprettycretonnecurtains I love stories of grown up DS's

Flyingboy (eldest) has just made bolognese and has cleaned out skanky food bin and washed up. Has on cards to clean out outside mega skanky food bin tomorrow when he gets home from work. They lummox around the place like big wilderbeast but boys are lovely especially if you train them not to raid the fridge. My youngest - massive 16 year old still hugs me at every opportunity although he isn't as good at housework as Flyingboy but he does serve and wait at table very nicely as well as providing in house entertainment with his range of voices, characters and old man rants about stuff. It's all fun here!!

Enjoy your lovely squidgy boy.

Ahhhhhh  thanks @Flyingprettycretonnecurtains

We had DD in with us until 14 months (firstly next to us and then shoved in next to the drawers). It's still early days honestly. Once they are toddling etc, I found it better she was in her own room as we both slept better and I put her straight into a bed actually!!

Where does everyone get these lovely cuddly sons from? Mine flail around, grind their teeth and shout in their sleep. Last time DS2 slept in our bed he wriggled around so much he ended up inside my pyjamas with me!

Sorry haven't RTFD but why did you agree to move him to another room at one year?
Our DD is just over 2 years old and still sleeps in a cot next to us. don't feel pressured to move them into a different room if you don't want to

Haven't read the full thread but I kept ds1 in with me until 14 months.

Ds2 is still in with us at 22 months. We're in no rush to move him out.

One day they'll be moved out so why not enjoy them in your room if you're happy with it?

DS1 went into his own room at 2 weeks. Nothing to do with our sex life, whoever said that upthread . He snored like a pig and no one got any sleep.

DS2 stayed in our room until about 6 months. But most nights ended up in bed with me by about 2am. He still comes for cuddles now, aged 7.

I tried co-sleeping with DS1 too, but he hated it from birth. He just isn't cuddly like DS2.

@lucyandpoppy123 - no reason really, we are just "chat and plan everything in advance" type parents (silly I know because before he was born I had planned to have him off breastfeeding and in his own room at 6 months which is clearly the opposite of what is actually happening )

Our 13 month old ds is in his cot bed right beside me! I keep delaying decorating his own room so he can't move out. I'm going to keep him in our room as long as I can!

Still got a 4yo in bed with me now

Our DS was in his own room from 2 weeks. Our room is tiny (Double bed and 1 double wardrobe fill it), it was fine for first two weeks whilst DH was off work, but then DH and DS kept each awake so in end we moved DS.

lavei that reminds me of DS- he happily slept in our bed until about 6 months, then in his cot bed two months later. The second he was in his bed he refused to sleep next to us, no matter how much DP tried. In fact, he's 2 now and actively kicks DP out of his room- he's definitely my kid!