To want our DS to sleep in our room forever and ever and ever ....

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Ok, I know I am BU (probably)

He's only 6 months and we have agreed to keep him in with us (crib next to bed) til he is one. But i think this might be entirely for me because I'm so so so smitten with him 💕.

I'm also already worrying and a little sad that in 6 months he won't be asleep at the side of me when I wake up but will instead be approximately 15 footsteps away in the next room

I'm clearly a tad crazy. Please tell me why I should be moving him into his own room (or tell me not too, that's what my heart wants you to say!)

You'll probably feel differently about it when he's 17.

I know, I know he has to move at some point. Still, I feel better that others have been there too

(And I promise to be a very nice MIL. I'm actually secretly very normal and reasonable 😊)

I still share a bed with my 9 year old. He claims he'll never move out.

He can and does sleep in his own bed if I ask (if I'm ill I sometimes ask) and doesn't kick up any fuss.

He'll be a 6ft teen who has no interest in leaving his own room to interact with others soon enough so I'm happy for him to stay for now.

Hasn't it been the norm to co-sleep for years in pretty much every culture (and point in history) other than here and now? It doesn't seem to have done the human race too much harm

Any particular reason for your knobby response

Not at all. Just passing the time of day. etc.

I don't think it's just about sex, but intimacy in general. Having a space for just you and your spouse, a sanctuary where yes, if you want sex, you can, but equally if you just want to lie snuggled up and chatting, you can without having to worry about keeping it dark or quiet.

I think the Op is as cute as heck being smitten with her wee baby. Of course, he can't sleep in there forever, as you and your hubby will want smoochie time sometimes! But keep him in there for now, but do remember you may not be able to get him to settle in his own room if you're not careful, And he will need that later on. Certainly no harm for another six to nine months though.

Do continue then @multivac

@Blueskyrain - this is the reason, I know it is and I think it would be good, I just have to keep focused on it/be bloody braver

My son is 4 months old. My DM keeps telling me to move him into his room but I'm not ready to move him yet. He is a noisy sleeper so I might have to bite the bullet soon so I can actually get some kip!

I cosleep with whichever of my children want to. My 25yo shares my bed so we can chat, .
My 8yo sleeps with me most nights,
Horses for courses

I think my point was more that you shouldn't worry about it. There's no fixed age at which he must be sleeping in his own room.

At some point you'll feel differently or he'll fell differently or both. And the room will (presumably) still be there.

Keep him there forever. My pfb is off to Uni (he has had his own room for a while now though . Their childhood goes too quickly. And you can always shag on the sofa

My youngest still sleeps in with us sometimes, and she's nearly 11!

Do what you feel is right for you! Mine is 7.5 and shows no interest in going anywhere, although we kicked him out of our bed at 3.5 or so for helicopter sleeping crimes. He sleeps on a little bed in our room. In Asia, where we live, it's completely normal to bedshare/co-sleep, and in fact I was even once asked in a hushed voice whether or not it was true that Europeans put their babies alone in another room... "His" room is quite far, he's an only child and honestly it bothers precisely no one. As for the sex thing, he's the deepest sleeper I've ever met, and frankly I'm more worried about the neighbours on the other side of the wall hearing!

DS shared our bed until 3.8yo. He movedbinto his own room and own bed one very hot August night, slept right through and has never been back.

He comes and snuggles in when he wakes up at the weekend - and the dog joins us. She isn't a small dog and DS is now 5 and a half! DS can sleep anywhere - he camped overnight in his schoolgrounds last summer withour a squeak, slept in my dad's caravan a couole of weekends ago no problem. He doesn't need blackout blinds - this is a huge bonus! He wouldn't sleep anywhere but with us before 3.5, so all this is a lovely surprise.

Enjoy your snuffly baby OP.

Providing both parents can hack it, no reason not to continue longer ... anecdotally problems happen when a DH ends up endlessly sleeping on their own ...

Thanks everyone

So in conclusion ... he will sleep in our room forever and ever and ever and ever ...

DS slept in our giant bed until a few weeks before he started reception.

Newstateswoman - sorry only just seen your question!

In terms of positives DH and I have both found co-sleeping massively beneficial for bonding. For DH especially as he was at work long hours so enjoyed having the physical closeness overnight. I hated BFing DS1 but loved the sleeping together!

I should of added but DS2 had a pretty traumatic start in life with lots of heath problems and we really felt he needed the additional closeness at night. I absolutely believe co-sleeping made him more secure during that time. I had hoped he would grow out of it but as times gone on obviously it's now an ingrained habit but I feel that the overall benefit to the early days is worth a bit of hassle now. He's older so we can properly talk about it and I would hope resolve it without too much upset. I loved co-sleeping until around 6 months ago but it's just not working for us anymore!!

I moved all my babies in their own room when they were 2 or 3 months old and we all slept so much better, and I do like privacy with my husband.

Having said that, I agree with the poster above: from the moment they went out of the cot into a proper bed, they start creeping up and spend quite a few nights in my bed. It's lovely. As long as the babies are safe, do what's best for your family.

My now 18 yr old slept with me until she was 12 lols. She always started off in her own room but shortly gravitated to mine.

I'm just jealous of everyone here's massive rooms, no room in our bedroom for anything bigger than a double bed and it was a squeeze to fit the Moses basket in, when she could climb the sides of that (5m) she had to go into her own room so the cot would fit!

No way she can have a double in her room, worried we won't fit a single so hopefully she can be in a toddler bed until 4 or so when we may be able to afford to move.

Everyone in this thread must be a millionaire . Agree with the love of them asleep though currently sitting on the 50cm of floor space in her room watching her sleep!

I did just the same with mine. Precious times. Do whatever feels right for you.

@Splodgeinc - I just live in the north, property is pretty cheap here 😊

My DS outgrew his moses basket at 3 months. Yes he was ginormous. We could just about squeeze the basket between the wall and our bed, our room is totey! No chance of cot in there.