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To want our DS to sleep in our room forever and ever and ever ....

126 replies

blue2014 · 19/05/2017 13:02

Ok, I know I am BU (probably)

He's only 6 months and we have agreed to keep him in with us (crib next to bed) til he is one. But i think this might be entirely for me because I'm so so so smitten with him 💕.

I'm also already worrying and a little sad that in 6 months he won't be asleep at the side of me when I wake up but will instead be approximately 15 footsteps away in the next room Confused

I'm clearly a tad crazy. Please tell me why I should be moving him into his own room (or tell me not too, that's what my heart wants you to say!)

OP posts:
psychomath · 19/05/2017 13:22

I'd have thought getting it on with a tiny baby in the room was ok anyway, surely? It's not like doing it in front of a three year old Confused

savagehk · 19/05/2017 13:26

Can't remember when we moved ours out, it was before he was 2 but probably after he was 18m. He was still feeding/waking at night so it was just easier. He was also in the bed with us, meant we all got enough sleep.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 19/05/2017 13:28

We had both our DC in our room until they were toddlers. They still sneak into our bed at 9 and 13.

liz70 · 19/05/2017 13:29

"I'd have thought getting it on with a tiny baby in the room was ok anyway, surely?"

We must have thought so, given as I was expecting DD2 when DD1 was 7 months old! Grin

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blue2014 · 19/05/2017 13:31

Oh no, I think you've all convinced me that I won't want to move him when he's 1 eitherSmile 

@flapjackfairy I absolutely get it, I've already cried about when he will love his wife/husband more than me HmmConfused

Love the stories of little ones still climbing into parents beds (and have started prepping DH that we need a super king!)

OP posts:
multivac · 19/05/2017 13:34

Our twins never slept in our room; but only because we didn't love them anywhere near as much as you love your baby, OP.

liz70 · 19/05/2017 13:36

I know, DD3, my last, is seven now. I don't know what I'll do when she stops wanting to get into our bed for a cuddle in the morning!

highinthesky · 19/05/2017 13:39

DD still sleeps next to me occasionally, usually when I'm too lazy to stick her in her cot.

I suffer for it though, I don't sleep well as she can rotate a full 360° in my bed and often smnacks / nuts me in the face in her blissful sleep Confused

NewStateswoman · 19/05/2017 13:40

multivac Grin

IloveBanff · 19/05/2017 13:40

"I've already cried about when he will love his wife/husband more than me"

Please don't be one of those MILs.

lupa123 · 19/05/2017 13:40

Do whatever you're comfortable with and whatever gets everyone the best night's sleep. DP and I have had separate rooms since DS1 was born (DP is a very light sleeper and I was bf'ing). DS2 slept in my bed for ages and now aged 4, although he starts off in his own room, he still regularly comes through to me. I don't mind since he just goes straight back to sleep again and isn't a wriggler (like his brother who I couldn't bear to have in my bed!).

ambereeree · 19/05/2017 13:42

i have my DD in my bed at 19 months. Its our room and my OH has been kicked out to his own room Blush

MinkowskisButterfly · 19/05/2017 13:49

I thought like you, then we had to move to a smaller house with not enough bedrooms due to circumstances, so she has now been in with us for 2.5 years and I need her in her own room!! One day ....one day! 🙏

miserableaboutbrexit · 19/05/2017 13:55

Not unreasonable at all!!
My youngest is 2.5 and he's still in a bedside cot next to me:-)! The other 3 are 6, 8 and 10 and probably more nights than not I have one or all of them in with me by the morning.
I love it, it won't last forever and then I'll miss them.
Do what feels right for you not what you think you should do.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 19/05/2017 14:05

My DS slept in our room until he was about 14 months old. Then he went to his own room where he started sleeping much better. YANBU to want him to sleep in your room for as long as is viable, but at some point presumably he'll sleep in his own room?

It doesn't make you any less smitten if he sleeps in his own room, you know...

Starlight2345 · 19/05/2017 14:09

Honestly the guidance is a minimum of 6 months not at 6 months old they have to be shipped out.

There are many reasons why a 6 month old is not moved..It may be they are sleeping well, no extra room, Parents don't want to.

Do what feels right.. Don't sweat the little stuff. Move when you are all ready

BettyOBarley · 19/05/2017 14:11

I'm the same, DS is 7.5 months now and I'm not ready for him to go yet. I just love waking up and him reaching out through the crib bars to hold my hand! Unfortunately he's now getting far too big for the crib and the cot bed won't fit in our room so the time is coming..sob!

WizardOfToss · 19/05/2017 14:12

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InDubiousBattle · 19/05/2017 14:16

We moved dd at aged 1. It was mainly dp's idea and I was reticent as she was still waking a few times a night and needing stroking back to sleep. Turns out we were what was waking her and she immediately slept much better and over an hour longer. Dp was insufferable.

Having a baby in your room must affect your sex life. I know that there are other rooms in the house but still. Ours returned to 'normal' after dd had moved out and I don't think it's any bad thing to want that. Seriously, we're only talking about doing it with the light on ffs, hardly a Roman orgy!

multivac my parents moved me out at 3 days old. I remember it well and still haven't got over it.

Fruitcorner123 · 19/05/2017 14:17

I disagree with flapjackfairy. I found it does get easier. I was sad to move my DCs but glad that we had eventually because we were disturbing them when we came to bed and they both slept so much better on their own. We moved both ours at 6months. Ever since then they have always come into our bed when they wake up on the morning and it's nice to have that morning cuddle but also not have to tiptoe round when we go to bed. We can also have the light on to read a book or watch a film in bed.

multivac · 19/05/2017 14:20

my parents moved me out at 3 days old. I remember it well and still haven't got over it

Rightyho.

2littlemoos · 19/05/2017 14:23

To the negative posters, please stop making it hard for people to be honest in their posts. Do we really have to question everything we post in case we offend someone!

OP, we co-sleep with 2yo and 9mo, fortunately we have a big bed!

Partly because we love them with us but also because 2yo doesn't want to go to her own bed yet!

ShowMePotatoSalad · 19/05/2017 14:25

There are virtually no "negative" posts on this thread...

LapinR0se · 19/05/2017 14:25

It's amazing how different everyone is. I couldn't wait to have my DD in her own room so I could have a bit of peace & quiet and didn't have to worry if my husband snores!

multivac · 19/05/2017 14:26

I'm definitely not negative. No, no, no.

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