To wish I could sometimes see my friend without her baby?

[avocadosripe]

Hard hat on here!

Baby is 15 months and obviously when he was breastfed it was different. But now I think she's just in the habit of him coming everywhere she goes. As lovely as he is, it means we never get a chance to speak!

She has numerous people she could leave him with but I do think she thinks I'm as enchanted with him as she is and he is as I've said, a lovely baby but because of his age it does just mean every time I see her it's pretty much just a running commentary on what he is doing. She's also pregnant and I realised the other day that with two of them I just don't see how either of us can have a "proper" conversation at any point.

When there aren't alternatives it's different and you suck it up but AIBU to wish this little boy could sometimes be left with his dad or grandparents?

sprinkestar

What a ridiculous (and nasty) thing to say about jealousy of the baby.

You do knw the op has children of her own, right?

What a pathetic post sprinkle. There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet someone fof some proper adult chat time, especially if that's what you do a lot.

Having a child there totally changes the dynamic. My friends with children really enjoy meeting without them.

McTufty pardon the pun but it's not inconceivable that OP is a bit jealous - which is completely normal when you miss the times you had with your chum, when it was just one on one, when you had equal time for each other, when things could be more spontaneous.

The OP is venting - by her own admission - and she's letting out her reaction to the altered state her friendship's now in. One she didn't ask for. So to be upset is normal.

It's just whether you can accept the new world or not that'll be the acid test for the OP.

In what way is this a new world

That her chum is just seemingly living with baby stuck to her side forever...if that's the chum's choice (it wouldn't be mine personally) the OP may have to accept that or risk losing the friendship.

But as I said before to the OP mention going on a lady date, just the two of you and keep at it. If it becomes too much then maybe it's time to just fade a bit.

Legend - glad you got what I meant!

Purple - just because someone disagrees with you, there's no need to call them 'pathetic'. Did you mean to be so rude? I love meeting up with my friends without my DC but if the OP's friend doesn't, that's her call. Not much the OP can do about it!

McTufty - that's my interpretation. May be right, may be wrong. Thanks for feedback

"Did you mean to be so rude" is a worn out cliche. I think it is pathetic and pretty nasty to suggest that the op is jealous of her friend's baby.

Tawdrylocabruhaha

Thank you

sprinkle having had a chance to catch up on this thread I can see what you mean. OP in one of your posts you wrote that you now felt you were surplus to requirements which is different to missing having time with your friend just you and her. I know you also said you won't let it ruin your friendship, I hope it doesn't. It's not a horrible thing to say BTW, I can understand it's hard when things change a lot.