To not understand why people spend so much on weddings?

[malificent7]

Just been reading the hen do thread... that is before the actusl do.
Fair enough you can spend your cash how you want but i dont get why people want to spend thousands at the start of married life. Must be a status thing.
I rekon that a small intimate do would be lovely with a home made buffet and cake. A pretty dress dosnt have to cost a fortune.
But then im not married so what do i know?

People being "sniffy" about getting married in a Register Office, well, getting married in church and white is hypocritical if you are actually living together, which seems to be the norm these days. Possibly you are all talking about first weddings, if you have 4 kids a couple of mortgages and are middle aged it all different.

A wedding is a day- a marriage is a life.

But if no debt is incurred, it's no-one else's business - and if debt is incurred, it's only the business of those involved anyway.