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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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Light69 · 17/05/2017 09:35

We shall find out if he has taken it on board or not this afternoon on his return. Dad with be out gardening between 2:15pm and his return to make sure he follows the appropriate route to this destination.

By the way dad thinks it is great that you all love him!

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ChasedByBees · 17/05/2017 09:37

YY to PyongyangKipperbang's suggestion of a diary. We're down the most recent history that you can remember, including knocking a coffee over your DH.

girlywhirly · 17/05/2017 09:49

I am appalled by the behaviour of the young bloke, and the NDN's attitude. I think a 6ft trellis the length of the wall, with thorny climbing roses planted. Obviously they won't be tall enough to do him any damage, but the trellis would be a visual reminder and barrier to this person with extreme memory problems until they grow! If he tries to climb it will not hold his weight and will break, and then you can call it wilful damage to your property. Eventually you will have some lovely roses to enjoy.

Keep hoping that eventually he will no longer have any need to visit NDN's house.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 17/05/2017 09:50

You have until 2pm to knock up a couple of signs like this with a square of card stapled to a stick. Put one at wall directing him down their drive, the other at corner of your garden pointing along pavement

Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.
Mouthfulofquiz · 17/05/2017 09:54

Did you get an apology for being called a Bitch? I do love your dad but I would definitely have gone round there myself to have it out - why give someone else the pleasure?! The day I caught two lads climbing on my dad's new car was one of the best days of my life! Closely followed up by some teenagers sitting outside my house with loud music playing in their car at 5am...

Eeeeek2 · 17/05/2017 09:58

If it happens again get your dad to have a BBQ on their drive!

CoraPirbright · 17/05/2017 10:10

Did your Dad tell the ndn what this scrote called you? I bet they're delighted to learn of how their dd's boyfriend treats heavily pregnant women.

Your dad sounds awesome btw!!

HappyFlappy · 17/05/2017 10:17

I am 100% sure dad will have broken the lad by the time dh returns

YES!!!!!

When I say broken I don't mean physically!

Don't spoilt it for me, OP

mothertruck3r · 17/05/2017 10:20

Perhaps tell him that you have security cameras filming your drive and if he comes on to your property again you will be going to the police as he will be trespassing and damaging your property.

He obviously has some sort of issues as he has been told so many times and still wants to do it. Perhaps he needs something serious like getting the police involved to show him it is not a joking manner. You could also threaten to contact his work (or contact them and let them know how he is behaving)?

justkeepswimmingg · 17/05/2017 10:28

Your dad is great! I have a feeling that the boy may have a condition of some sort, as this is definitely not normal behaviour. Especially as he went to do it again this morning Hmm.

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 17/05/2017 10:32

Your dad is awesome OP!

MsMims · 17/05/2017 10:37

Glad that your dad has spoken to him but may well be worth you going out and dealing with it yourself (knowing your dad will be just around the corner for back up if needed). Otherwise, he may just revert to his old ways once your dad has gone.

libbyliz83 · 17/05/2017 10:43

Can your dad be my dad too please? He sounds ace!

annielouise · 17/05/2017 10:56

This boy is so weird. who aggravates someone like that as an adult? I don't think your dad should be outside but looking out to see what he does as the boy is not going to stop. He might not do it with your dad there but could continue when your dad isn't there. He's taking the pure piss. I'd be round NDN's every time he did it. And to be honest I'd get the police round now if he does it again. What a wanker! I think someone needs to put some fear into him. It's the only message people like this understand.

annielouise · 17/05/2017 10:57

He's a spoilt brat presumably that doesn't like being told what to do. Immature little shit.

FitzChivalry · 17/05/2017 10:57

Woohoo go ArmyDad!

Willow2017 · 17/05/2017 11:02

annie
Ops parents are there to help out as dh is away. Should they just stay indoors all week? Why can't her dad be gardening? That's why he is there.
And I usually have my first cuppa sitting on the doorstep it's not unusual.

I think this man is going to need telling more than once this week.

mikeyssister · 17/05/2017 11:42

I love your Dad. I'm sitting here and a voice in my head is chanting "Go Daddy, Go Daddy"

annielouise · 17/05/2017 11:52

Willow - the point I was making is the boy is less likely to do it with the dad there in clear view, which doesn't mean the behaviour has stopped. If the dad is inside and the boy does it then he can take further steps to halt it. Better he does that while he's around this week than be a visible deterrent all week for the boy to start again when the dad isn't around - the boy is a pisstaker so at first opportunity he'll be at it again. Give him some rope so he'll hang himself in other words. So, no, I wasn't suggesting they stay inside all week Confused. Not sure why you'd think that.

TexasPete · 17/05/2017 12:07

Guy sounds proper batshit

Missb00 · 17/05/2017 12:19

Young guy sounds like a right fucking tool, I hope he doesn't try it when your Dad stops guarding your drive.

Hooray for your Dad though, I'd LOVE a Dad like him!

Willow2017 · 17/05/2017 13:26

Ok we will agree to differ.
You did say I don't think your dad should be outside which is why I asked the question. Her dad is going to be outside at times so why should he time it for when the prat isnt around. I dont mean for him to be outside each and every time prat comes and goes every day of the week though.

But this may be what it takes, maybe by the end of the week he will have got into the habit of walking the right way?

FizzyGreenWater · 17/05/2017 13:29

Jesus what an absolute little knob.

Well, next step is CCTV. And informing WeirdBoy and the grownups giving him house room that:

  • you are recording the trespassing
  • if he keeps going on your property, you'll be confronting him every time.
  • both trespassing and any aggressive behaviour will be recorded
-when you have a nice tapeful, you'll be going to the police with that and details of the assaults;
  • annnnd he might well end up with a caution or even an ASBO. Which will do him the world of good for future jobs etc.
BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 17/05/2017 13:41

the strange thing is, it's not even a short cut for him.
It would be the same distance to walk down neighbours drive and along footpath (with fewer obstacles in the way)

MrsHathaway · 17/05/2017 13:44

It's a shortcut when OP's drive is empty. I think he probably chanced it once or twice at first to save his pwecious wickle leggies and now has genuinely got in the habit.