Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

just what do you think you are doing young man? should be added to useful phrases for dealing with twats, along with Miss Jollys good day to you sir and bugger off

Hurrah! Well done OPs Dad

I am not placemarking to see if there is an update tomorrow. Oh no

I adore his turns of phrase - real old school and mega effective. "Just what do you think you are doing young man?" Ah, they don't make them like this any more. HE IS FAB!

Deffo agree, Raffles

Do you have a DM OP

Actors??

Scrote

You always rely on autocorrect, can't you Crawfie1

Oh Bollox, Squiffany's

I didn't realise you'd already "Jplly'd" the thread.

< es with embarrassment>

I'd still report him to the police, he's trespassed and has now verbally abused you. Your dad was a witness. And he assaulted your DH with a hot drink... He needs a short, sharp shock. People just can't get away with this shit in a civilized society!

*Jolly'd not Jplly'd

Aah ,does your dad know that he's now the toast of MN ?

I'm sorry you've had all this Light .A lot to cope with at any time but much more so when pregnant and complications at that .

and all round in the light household .

So the very next time this man tries to trespass he needs to be stopped so he doesn't get it into his head that if the father is there he can't but he can otherwise.

What an arse!

Glad your dad was around and hope you're ok

Be careful OP
I'm 99% sure my ndn's son or / and his friends scratched dh's car on both sides when parked in the driveway.
DH had gone in and nicely asked them to turn down the music, their parents were away. It was an early start the next day (Monday) for DH.
Cheeky sods didn't.
Next morning dh went out to his badly scratched car.
I never mentioned it to the ndn. I'm sorry now I didn't.
I should have told them about the parties.
When I see the little s*it !!!!!!
But we didn't have 100% proof

What a shit
Glad Dad was there
Make sure you tell neighbours

I'm sorry OP, but you are going to HAVE to tell us more about how your dad made him apologise, and how that apology was delivered.

I'd also take photos of your plant pots tonight, just in case something befalls them in the night...

Jam some trellis between the pots and the wall. He won't be able to hop over then.

What an arse.

Hooray for your dad, OP!

My money is on the wankywalker doing it again unless your dad or partner speaks to next door soon. We also NEED updates about that convo.

I suspect he WILL do it again :( After all, you are "just" a woman, therefore ignorable :( :( - I'm angry on your behalf and this person needs to learn his behaviour is NOT acceptable - call 101 and report it .

Your father has just won the dads.

that he did it a matter of hours after baptising your DH with coffee.
Little git !

Get an air rifle and practice saying "Get orff my land" in a suitably agricultural accent.

Go to an agricultural store and buy an electric fence. This may not be legal, in which case put up a fine trip wire.

The bucket of water is good, but would be enhanced by the addition of some sort of indelible dye.

I would definitely find excuses to go out late at night/early in the morning so that you can legitimately knock on your neighbours' door and ask him to move his car.

Borrow my dog. She'll bark like mad when he comes within 10' of your house. You can let her out and she'll do intimidating barking, despite being small and cute.

It's right to tell someone to fuck off when they are in the act of violating your person or your property, having been politely asked not to. So you know, they stop doing it.

That said, now is the time to get right out of the tit for tat cycle so it doesn't escalate. Practical action can involve asking the people who own the house if he could stop, or dealing with the landlord, building a fence, keeping records and getting legal/police advice etc. depending on your circumstances.

Your dad is amazing! I hope the shit stops trying to use your garden now.

Just read updates. Your dad's great.

Now start recording everything that happens and perhaps take legal/police advice on what to do if it continues. Without being too melodramatic, hassling a woman in your condition and making her feel unsafe in her own home intentionally is no joke, and may constitute anti social behaviour. If they are renting your ndn may be liable for antisocial behaviour by their guest as well.

Yes I do have a mum, so sorry to Miss Jolly!
Dad went next door last night about 8:30 when both parents were back from work. They knew the lad was walking through our garden as his preferred route but said he isn't their son so not their responsibility. It is safe to say dad didn't take that bit of information well. He went from nice old man to full sergeant major on them very quickly. He explained how it was their responsibility as the lad was their guest who was residing at their property more often than not and how he was expecting them to deal with the situation. They did call the lad to the door and told him to stop walking through the garden in front of dad and they apologised to dad for upsetting him and assured him it wouldn't happen again. Fast forward to this morning, dad was sat out on the front step with his coffee waiting for the lad to emerge from next door. Out comes the lad turns and starts to walk towards my wall, dad let him get half way then greeted him with your exit is the other direction young man, dad did get a sorry and said he turned that way out of habit it won't happen again, dad followed up with he shall be there for as long as it takes for him to remember to exit the property in the appropriate manner. So we shall see what this afternoon brings. My parents are staying to help with the dc why dh is away for work I am 100% sure dad will have broken the lad by the time dh returns.

When I say broken I don't mean physically!