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Neighbour constantly walking through my front garden.

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 06:41

I am not sure if my dh was being unreasonable for shouting at him this morning so here it goes. Not 100% sure if it is my neighbours eldest son or there daughters boy friend. He sleeps there most nights but doesn't appear to have house keys, I know this because he sits in his car at the bottom of my drive waiting to be let in. So he went through a stage of what ever side of the drive I parked in he would park directly behind me across the bottom of the drive blocking me in. This made it difficult to get off the drive as I was blocked in and had to kind of edge backwards and forwards to move the car to the otherside of the drive to reserve off it safely. We have a dropped kerb that runs the whole width of the drive but this didn't seem to bother him. I started reversing on to make it easier to pull off and out of the blue he stopped doing it. He has now moved on walking through our front garden to get to and from this car. So he comes out of their house steps over a small wall and walks right over my front door step and behind my car. He will push my kitchen windows in if they are open wide so he can fit behind the car easier then trotts off down the drive. On occasion if we have been leaving at the same time he has bumped into my dc or I have had to step back to stop him walking into me, I have asked him to stop but he doesn't. So this morning when dh was leaving for work he did it again and dh lost his temper and shouted at him and swore a bit, was dh in the wrong for this and how would you deal with the situation?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 16/05/2017 15:31

Dad stopped him with a what do you think you are doing young man we have just discussed your actions now that start as we mean yo go on.

MMmmmmmmmmmmm.

burdog · 16/05/2017 15:31

OP, if you're not up to it please get your dad to speak to the neighbours. They need to know it's not on. I think that since the boyfriend still tried to get over the wall that he'll go back to his own ways (after sulking for a bit).

TheweewitchRoz · 16/05/2017 15:31

Well done Op. I'm so glad your dad was there - it's ridiculous that he needed to be, but great that he was as that guy sounds like a total dickhead.

Here's hoping this stops now. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

elephantscansing · 16/05/2017 15:32

Hmm. bet that's not the last you hear of him - he clearly has no idea about boundaries. The fact he called you 'petty' shows he knows he's doing wrong but he's clearly a wankbadger. I'd go and visit your neighbours too.

Funnyface1 · 16/05/2017 15:33

I also would speak to the neighbours. Explain what's been happening because they probably don't have a clue. Tell them you don't want it to affect neighbourly relations with them and see how they react, if they are decent or not. Can't believe he still came into the garden after this morning and then swore at you. What a joke! Your dad sounds ace, can't believe he didn't get hold of him. Hope you don't have any more trouble.

paddypants13 · 16/05/2017 15:34

Oh the cheek of calling you a petty bitch! He's a lazy arsehole. Good for you op!

TheMaddHugger · 16/05/2017 15:38

paddypants13 Tue 16-May-17 15:34:16
Oh the cheek of calling you a petty bitch! He's a lazy arsehole

It wasn't even a shortcut. he went out of his way to be a Prick

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 15:45

Dad made him apologise for calling me a petty bitch and for cutting through the garden. The window was open and he shouted it out loud not directly through the window. Dad is going to have a word when he next see the girls parents so they are aware of what has been going on.
I hope the mum is on here as when she returns home from work this evening and see my newly added rather large plant pots she will know it is her dd's boyfriend this is about. I think I haven't addressed it before as I have had more pressing things on my mind.

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nannybeach · 16/05/2017 15:50

how can he be sneaking in if he parks his car there, is taking the piss, go see the neighbours have a chat, if all else fails tell him you are doing him for trespass!

PrivatePike · 16/05/2017 15:52

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 15:52

nannybeach I think the issue is resolved now, we had a bit of a show down slightly up thread.

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nInachu · 16/05/2017 15:56

I just hope he sticks to it

FizzyGreenWater · 16/05/2017 15:59

Ok, I think I would go next door and let the mum know that he's now knocked down your DD, scalded your DH, and now verbally abused you, the heavily pregnant neighbour. All because he thinks that trespassing on other people's property doesn't apply to him. Tell her you suggest she makes it clear as a bell that if he so much as looks at you sideways after this, you'll be getting in touch with the PCSOs and getting them to have a word.

Stormtreader · 16/05/2017 15:59

Am I the only one expecting some kind of mysterious midnight "accident" to befall these plantpots?

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Light69 · 16/05/2017 16:05

He better not stormtreader. I am hoping this should be the end of it, dad is definitely going next door at the first opportunity he gets, dh would do it normally but he is away with work for the rest of the week hence his early start today. Enough is enough as they say and I have had enough.

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IloveBanff · 16/05/2017 16:08

I hope your dad doesn't get an aggressive reception next door, OP.

GeorgeTheHamster · 16/05/2017 16:10

I'm sure OP's dad will handle any aggressive reception calmly enough.

I do wonder whether dickhead will shit in the pots though.

UrsulaPandress · 16/05/2017 16:11

Some people!

reetgood · 16/05/2017 16:12

Just skin read this thread - glad it's been somewhat resolved, but I don't understand why dad is speaking to neighbours and not op? Guest is clearly a nob but they may have no idea..

Reow · 16/05/2017 16:13

Can you set up a webcam facing the plant pots OP?

mateysmum · 16/05/2017 16:15

for your Dad!

SuperPug · 16/05/2017 16:17

That would grate on me. No bloody reason to walk over your front lawn, pushing the window in is an intrusion.
Speak to neighbours and let them know and gauge their response.
He doesn't even live there, just a guest.

problembottom · 16/05/2017 16:17

Your dad sounds awesome. Sounds like the kind of twat who might not let up, so army dad definitely needs to speak to the neighbours themselves too.

SuperPug · 16/05/2017 16:17

Sorry OP, just read the update.

mikeyssister · 16/05/2017 16:18

Reetgood, you need to read the thread!! Or at the least OPs posts.

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