Did I overreact?

[PizzaPower]

And if so what should I do.

An important bit of background; I was diagnosed with terminal cancer earlier this year and the Dr's think I have anyway between 6 & 12 months, though we know it's not an exact art.

I'm currently on palliative chemo, and as a result know my reaction to events are not always fully rational.

Anyhow a friend (real life & Facebook) posted an anti Tory meme over the weekend (fair enough) but had added personally in the post; "This is why all Tory voters need to fuck off and drop dead".

Very childish of me I know, but I wrote back; "As you know I plan too, unfortunately for you my Dr expects it to be after the election."
Then unfriended and blocked, I also blocked her on my phone.
However unknown to me a large number of mutual friends have had a go at her and said they want nothing more to do with her.

Though someone that is still speaking to her, apparently she is devastated at everyone's reaction. Spent most of yesterday in tears over people's response to her.
(Sorry for length); mutual friend thinks I need to forgive, with the hope that others will do the same and she won't loose all these friendships?
To be honest, I really can't be arsed, but AIBI? Do I let her reap what has been sown or should I get involved again?

Action and consequence. Simple as that. A thoughtless post full of bile and hatred, what did she expect? A pat on the head? It is idiots like that that have caused all the brexit bile by jumping on the bandwagon of stupidity before engaging brain. It was a vile thing to say, even if none of her list were terminal. She should apologise and stop looking for someone else to blame for her appalling behaviour.

Your diagnosis sounds horrible and difficult.

Without sounding harsh I guess it depends on whether you think she deserves to be given the chance to make amends before you do pass away. When someone dies it is natural to feel guilt anyway and hers will be 10 fold.

I think (clearly I have no idea how you feel) I would be inclined to give her a chance to apologise before it's too late.

I think you're on the right track by un-blocking to open the path up and see what she does.

I'm interested in what you said about why she's devastated: she's devastated at everyone's response to her. Is it all about the falllout for her? Is she devastated to have upset you? Or is she just upset for herself suffering the backlash of an ill-judged comment?

I don't think you were unreasonable at all. In fact that is a brilliant comeback.

She knew your political views probably some of her friends vote Tory too
It was a crass childish pathetic thing to say.

She isnt devastated she said it she is devastated that people have called her out on it. If she was she would have been in contact before now.

You are being magnanimous in ublocking and seeing what's happening but don't you dare apologise to her. She is due you one massive apology.

So sorry to hear of your diagnosis

Sorry to hear of your diagnosis

I think she was stupid to say that and should apologise to you in person, it was pretty insensitive. We live in a democracy ffs!

Athen to everyone on FB.
Something along the lines of 'passionate about politics but crossed the line, of course people that don't agree with me are entitled to own opinion, was stupid to say and apologies to all offended'

I don't think you over reacted
If she's as devestated as you've heard she is , then she will be round with flowers and chocolate and a heartfelt apology in person , not on Facebook

OP so very sorry about your diagnosis, I hope your friend has the good grace to apologise & glad that you have given her the opportunity.
Yy you rock your response was awesome 💐

Not sure if this has been mentioned but if she's really a friend and really sorry, blocking her on Facebook shouldn't prevent her from contacting you. Does she not know your number or someone who would share it with her with your permission?

I agree. Great comeback. What your facebook 'friend' wrote was horrible imo.

Saying all TORY voters should drop dead is nasty. She deserves to be unfriended and blocked and she deserves the wrath she got.

I would not feel guilty or bad at all OP.

Sorry about your diagnosis OP.

I would not be unblocking either. She sounds like an idiot.

Unfortunately I know a few people like her. I think this bloody nose she has received will teach her a lesson or 2.

Why does she think she should be allowed to say shit like this with no repercussions? She is absolutely getting what she deserves.

Sorry to hear about your situation. To answer your question, in my opinion you did overreact. As PPs have said, people use phrases about death all the time and do not necessarily mean them literally.

What she said was awful but I don't think it deserves being completely ostracised. Up to you of course. Unblocking seems a good first step.

I don't think it deserves being completely ostracised.

Unfortunately the OP isn't the one who caused the ostracism though and has no control over whether other adults want to be Facebook friends with someone who posts stuff like this. People reacted to what was originally posted. I doubt she was the only tory voter to read that post. When you post extreme political views on Facebook you have to expect some fallout even if your comment wasn't meant literally. The OP can refriend the person, but it wouldn't surprise me if nobody else did.