To be fucking sick of ginger hair comments?

[BlurryFace]

My 2 DSs are both under school age and ever since their hair came in I get to hear comments on it from strangers. Sometimes its complimentary, other times it's tuff like "ooh he's going to hate his hair when he's older bless him" or "he's going to get picked on with that hair".

It doesn't ruin my day or anything, I just think "get some social skills you twat" while going 'mmm, really'. I am ginger for Christ's sake, so even if it goes over the boys' heads I can fucking understand it. When I was pregnant with DS1 SIL (who I like) said "oh DH, wouldn't it be funny if you two had a ginger kid? Oh no offense, BlurryFace."

I just feel sick of shrugging off ginger this, ginger that comments. I've been doing it for 20+ years, my own mother has said she thought it a shame I was ginger when I was born. I got all the ginger pubes (what other colour would my pubes be, dumb fuck?) comments at school, but everyone hated me anyway, it was just bonus ammo.

Next time I think I'm going to ask if the person who thinks my kids will hate their hair hate their own nose/jaw/body shape.

[GaelicSiog]

Move to Ireland. They love us in Ireland. This seriously winds me up about the UK, I don't get the negativity.

flapjacks your DD's hair is beautiful. DD and I are a similar colour and length, but much harder to tame!

[whatwouldrondo]

It makes me livid. My DD has the most beautiful red hair. It never occurred to me to be anything but thrilled when my husband shouted "oo it's got red hair" as she was born, though I did think that there were more pressing issues he could have been addressing at that particular agonising moment!

When she was a teenager she hated it, it made her the butt of comments at school and even in the street. Why would a grown man think it appropriate to shout is the bush the same colour as the tree at an 11 year old girl, and his mates to laugh along with it?

She appreciates it now though and it attracts a lot of positive attention. It turned back to a positive when she was about 16.....

[Freddofrog1983]

My husband has dark hair and so do I and our youngest son is ginger and I think it is lovely. People do comment on his hair such as "I think he is going to stay that colour now" and other similar comments. Funnily enough no one ever says that about my blonde and brunette sons.

I know why ginger hair is looked down on.

[nancy75]

Dp has red hair & I have to admit I was relieved when dd was born with my black hair. I love red hair and think it looks especially lovely on girls but I know the bullying that goes with it and was happy that she wouldn't have to put up with it.
I too find it very odd that bullying due to hair colour is seen as pretty much acceptable

[Ollivander84]

Mine is like this now, it has faded a lot. As a child it was really bright!

[Katedotness1963]

My youngest son is a redhead. His hair is long and a couple of years ago he cut it and donated it. I don't think anyone has ever said anything negative to him about his hair, we never allowed anyone to call him ginger though.

[MaidenMotherCrone]

Justmade Your daughter has stunningly beautiful hair. It's the hair of dreams. I'm off to ask DS1 if I can take a pic of his to share with you.

[LockedOutOfMN]

I haven't read the whole thread. The first post was enough to make me raging and sad on behalf of the OP's sons. It's not that I can't believe people would SAY it; I can't believe they would THINK it. I really don't think I've ever looked at a redhead and had that reaction.

My two most beautiful colleagues are both redheads, incidentally.

And loads of people choose to dye their hair red...

I'm so sorry for your children and these unacceptable, regular comments, OP. I can't believe we live in an age of such narrowmindedness. It's really sad. I'm just so disappointed in my fellow men and women.

[OMGBecky]

One of my best friends in school had the most beautiful ginger hair and I was so envious! As soon as I was old enough (12?) I bought one a box of hair dye and tried to turn myself into a redhead too. I did not do a good job and my mother was not impressed. I still thought I looked quite glamorous though. I think red hair is gorgeous!

[MaidenMotherCrone]

He said yes I can share

[silkpyjamasallday]

Ginger hair is beautiful, the girl in my year at school who had the best hair was ginger, it was absolutely glorious and I was very jealous when comparing it to my mousey frizz.

People are twats who say shit like that to make themselves feel superior. You can challenge it, the same way you would if someone said 'oh it's such a shame that DS has dark skin' or some other racist comment. Or just reply with 'Did no one ever teach you it's rude to make personal remarks?' Usually shuts idiots up a treat.

[Keepingupwiththejonesys]

Another who spends a lot of time and money making making their hair the perfect ginger! Took a while to get it right as I wanted it to look natural and now it does, I absolutely love it. I'm blonde naturally, very pale, freckles and bright red lips. The blonde just doesn't look right even though it's my natural colour. Ginger suits me much better. My brothers are ginger (one very dark/auburn, the other a strawberry blonde) and my mum was ginger as a child. My husband's brother has two girls with the most gorgeous ginger hair. My daughters are a dark blonde colour and son dark brown (for now, only a baby) . I love their hair but will admit I was hopeful one may be ginger!

[Notmyrealname85]

Oh hold me back!! I love love love red hair!! It's so beautiful, a bit mysterious - gorgeous! I would love to have red hair! There's a whole fan base on Instagram (think it's called by red headed males). For any idiot kids at school, your kids are going to have big fans in future

Also bullying on red hair is literally crazy and out of control. There have been suicides attributed to this. Schools should be really sensitive to it - if it weren't red headed children being bullied it could as likely be racist kids going for other groups. They can be vicious bastards

[Lostinaseaofbubbles]

DH is ginger. The whole general attitude towards gingers in this country is just weird.

I get the comments in reverse because people always tell me how relieved I must be that my children don't have DH's colouring.

[makeourfuture]

It's a hangover of anti-Celtic feeling in England.

Do people know that? Or has it just sort of become part of the collective unconscious?

[Redhead17]

My daughter has ginger hair and freckles, she gets picked on more for her freckles. Ginger hair is lovely.

I'd have to be very rude back

[Pigface1]

I don't have red hair but had a best friend for a long time who did so have been a witness to what people feel at liberty to say to redheads. It's appalling.

Personally I think red hair is beyond gorgeous. Damian Lewis, Emma Stone, Julianne Moore, Amy Adams, Prince Harry - hellloooo???

[ddssdd]

As a little girl, I always wanted ginger hair & freckles but with my dark brown skin tone, it would have looked ridiculous!

But, on a serious note, I don't understand why it's even a 'thing'. Is it because of the contrast or is it something else? But, whatever it is, it needs to stop And, surely it is a form of discrimination?

[FreeSpiritJen]

Any comments - (particularly negative ones) that are ANYthing to do with someone's appearance are fucking rude. And tbh, I think ginger hair is just peachey!

The little girl in the pic on the previous page has BEAUTIFUL hair. All girls I have seen with ginger/red hair have luscious, thick, glossy, (usually wavy) BEAUTIFUL hair. (Think Jenny and Fizz from Coronation Street, Rula Lenska, Karen Gillan, Lily Cole, Isla Fisher, to name but a few.) Just google 'red haired actresses... They look lush! My hair is a shit mousy colour ... like many other women from the UK. I lighten it to make it a better (blonde) colour.

I bet all the bashers and pisstakers are plain and mousy cunts. Well jell of your fab ginger hair.

Here's what ya say sweetie' .........

'DON'T HATE ME COZ YOU AIN'T ME!'

OR 'DON'T HATE HIM COZ YOU AIN'T HIM!' And pull your tongue out at them.

Childish? yeah but fuck it! Not as bad as being a rude cunt, commenting on peoples appearances!

[RoseGoldProsecco]

Urgh, why do people think it's ok to comment on other people?!?

FWIW, I was desperate to have red hair as a child. My 2 favourite heroines, Anne Shirley and Jinny Manders, both had long red locks, and I used to curse my dark haired parents. Now I'm (much) older, I dye it any shade of red that I feel like, and it has gone grey faded out a lot naturally, so people think I'm naturally ginger.

Makes me do a tiny inside.

[justkeepswimmingg]

I have/had ginger hair as a child OP. Was an auburn ginger, but very bright ginger under light/sun. I had such negative comments about it growing up that I dyed it, just to feel normal. Such a sad reality we live in, when people feel it acceptable to put others down about their looks. I stopped dying my hair 2 years ago, and it grew through brown. Still under the light you can get a glimpse of ginger, but I am finally happy and confident in myself. Anyone who comments on my hair being a ginger shade (in a negative way), will be told not so politely to fuck off. I've actually 'dipped dyed' it, so it's ginger at the ends with my brown on top. Looks lovely, DH loves it.
I saw this beautiful little girl with long ginger hair one day. I just had to stop her nan (assuming), and compliment just how beautiful her hair was. She was only 4/5, but I hope that sticks with her.

[BlurryFace]

sunnydays, I used to dye my hair because I hated it so much. I went with purple or post box red because blonde would go incredibly brassy and black or brown would look dreadful with my pastiness.

just made, your DD's hair is gorgeous and very like DS1's colouring. DS2 and I are more light ginger with blonde streaks.

31 weeks I don't like to compare it to racism, because it's not like gingers have ever been put in camps/colonised/enslaved. I think of it as people wouldn't like to have their or their children's noses/weight/moles to be made fun of.

[IamALEGOFigure]

Red hair is amazing. My friend has long red hair and it looks beautiful

[Nonibaloni]

I would like to apologise, I almost always touch the hair of a ginger child. I have a ginger DP and hope for ginger children.

I try and stop about 9-10, but if it's curly I'm running my fingers through it and bringing over other people to see.

In my defence I do it with Afro hair too, and very black hair and very straight hairs. And curly hair. I'm not a weirdo.

Remember gingers are a dying breed and should be protected as such.

[Nonibaloni]

Forgot to mention ginger babies! I know one right now and I cannot get enough of her. She has masses of bright ginger hair. Obviously all babies are beautiful but my goodness it's something else.

Still not a weirdo