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To be Furious at this Delivery Driver

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BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 13:57

Delivery due today and I'm working from home to receive it. See the driver from my downstairs office and get up to go to the door...literally about eight feet away. He knocks and immediately tries the door to my home. Door's unlocked, starts to open and I'm already there to see him do this. He quickly shuts it when he sees me approach the door and apologises when I open it and roast him but I'm fuming!

This is the second time that this has happened in a week, the first time, the delivery wasn't even for me but for a Neighbour (my annoyance the last time was lost in the fact that they didn't even have the right house) Both times, car on the drive and no attempt from the driver to wait for someone to come to the door. I genuinely don't know if it was the same person both times.
AIBU?

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TheHodgeoftheHedge · 15/05/2017 17:55

Ps admittedly those are US stats but even so...

AmserGwin · 15/05/2017 17:59

YANBU
I never lock my doors until I go to bed, or go out
I never used to lock it at night either till I had dc's that could possibly escape!

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BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 18:04

Hodge don't doubt they'd be broadly similar in the UK
Slightly different spin...most burglaries do occur during the day...when the occupants are out.
3 out of 10 burglaries occur when the occupants are in...usually at night when they are asleep.
There are lies, damn lies and statistics.

Not undermining any of them but I stand by the assertion that it is not unreasonable to be home during the day with your front door unlocked. My insurer would definitely pay out. I asked my broker to check.

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TheHodgeoftheHedge · 15/05/2017 18:09

That is absolutely your right OP :)
On a different note about burglaries, there was an awful spate of them in my village a few years ago where the burglars were targeting homes while people were at funerals. That's about as low as it gets I think. A friend of the family buried his wife and then came home to discover every single piece of her jewellery gone along with the tv and computer. Just despicable.

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BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 18:15

That's simply disgusting Hodge...who does that?

It's bad enough to violate someone to steal from their home at all but to deliberately target those at funerals? That's a whole different level of subhuman.

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TheHodgeoftheHedge · 15/05/2017 18:19

Tell me about it. Apparently it's not uncommon, especially as people's obits along with funeral details are often printed in local newspapers etc.
Just horrific isn't it?

CatsRidingRollercoasters · 15/05/2017 18:30

He definitely shouldn't have tried the handle. Our postman did this one day when I was sitting on the sofa breastfeeding my newborn. I always lock the door but the sudden rattling gave me a real fright and it woke up the baby Angry The door leads into the room I was in too.

I let rip at him. The thing is though that he actually thought he was being helpful as he knew we had a newborn and wouldn't have to get up to answer the door if he just walked in.

witsender · 15/05/2017 18:30

Ha! An unlocked door is in no way an implication that it is ok to come in uninvited.

seafoodeatit · 15/05/2017 18:34

Hodge Our house has a front door that doesn't lock when you close it, I hate that I need to use the key to lock it all the time! We've only very recently moved in and I am getting them changed very soon to an automatic locking one, I'd rather be locked out then paranoid I've gone out and left it open.

BollardDodger · 15/05/2017 18:41

Ha! An unlocked door is in no way an implication that it is ok to come in uninvited.
If someone is delivering something for you, then it is implied that they are invited.

Louiselouie0890 · 15/05/2017 18:44

YANBU I'd be fuming

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BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 18:47

Bollard do you really believe that?
If I order something from an online retailer, I am inviting them inside my home because I have paid to have said item delivered?

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BollardDodger · 15/05/2017 19:00

If I order something from an online retailer, I am inviting them inside my home because I have paid to have said item delivered?
Yes because a)you have ordered something from them, and b)you have left your door unsecured.

If people don't want randoms walking in off the street into their home, lock the door!

PuppyMonkey · 15/05/2017 19:30

Ok, it's a bit of an eye opener but I think I understand now and can accept that some people leave their doors unlocked thanks to this thread. Each to their own. But, but, is it really such a terrible hardship to have the door locked? Does it interfere with the creative process, make you feel restricted, go against your basic human rights? I'm trying to understand the logic.

Isn't it better and not really any trouble at all to be ion the safe side, and lock it, just in case random people try the door and come inside?

malmi · 15/05/2017 19:41

BollardDodger, that's ridiculous. You're wrong.

witsender · 15/05/2017 19:57

Haha, I would love to see that argument get past the police or a complaint. 😂

witsender · 15/05/2017 19:59

It has just never occurred to me to lock it, why would it? The only person I know who does lock their house when they are in it is still at the stage where they have a small child who likes to run. Everyone else just shuts the door. Nothing remotely condescending like 'restricting my creativity.'

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BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 20:03

I completely disagree Bollard

Puppy I have lived in the town I live my whole life, my grandparent's didn't lock their door, my parent's didn't lock theirs and I don't lock mine. It's not unusual, it's not dangerous. I accept that if I lived somewhere else that would be different. I also accept that if I had a Yale lock and had no choice but to keep it locked, I might feel differently because my habit would be different.

The vast majority of people that come to my property are friends and family and come to enter the house, it not being locked means I don't have to keep getting up and down. My DD has been brought up here and played outside and came and went as she pleased. It's a situation I'm used to and unconcerned about. The fact that I'm surprised and angry that a stranger would come in announced should tell you that it's not something that happens often and before the two occasions in the last week, had never happened before. My door is not open, it's not ajar, it's closed. The fact it's not locked is not an invitation for random people to try it and enter my house, no more than it would be if it were locked. Of course I could be on the safe side and lock it, I don't want to do that, I hope I don't need to do that, although given what's happened I might need to reflect on that situation.

I am genuinely surprised at the "What do you expect if your door is unlocked posts?" The inference that somehow I got what I deserved Confused

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BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 20:04

**unannounced

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Ditsy1980 · 15/05/2017 20:04

Delivery man shouldn't have tried door. Or, when he saw you he should have just said he was leaving a parcel. I've never had any deliveries where they have tried door though.

I'm also a door locker! Come in, lock door behind me, put keys away. I can't understand why people would leave doors unlocked.

Fragglez · 15/05/2017 20:24

Im going to throw the cat among the pigeons now... Not only do i not lock my door when im home, i don't lock my car either!

I have also been known to leave the keys in it, not on purpose, but left them none the less.

I do have a very rural house though, a driveway that can't be seen from the road, and we are friends with all our neighbours - who would notice and speak to someone they didn't recognise!

BollardDodger · 15/05/2017 20:34

It has just never occurred to me to lock it, why would it?
Well, hopefully you'll never be burgled, but if you are, I'm sure the response of the insurance company would cause the thought of locking the door to occur to you!

witsender · 15/05/2017 20:36

I lock it when I leave, go upstairs for a period of time or go to bed. My house isn't massive, someone would struggle to get in without my knowing it.

The car is unlocked on the drive a lot, the back door is open while we are home. Same with most people I know.

witsender · 15/05/2017 20:37

We were burgled as children btw, they broke in while we were away.

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