Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 9 10

Original poster

To be Furious at this Delivery Driver

230 replies

BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 13:57

Delivery due today and I'm working from home to receive it. See the driver from my downstairs office and get up to go to the door...literally about eight feet away. He knocks and immediately tries the door to my home. Door's unlocked, starts to open and I'm already there to see him do this. He quickly shuts it when he sees me approach the door and apologises when I open it and roast him but I'm fuming!

This is the second time that this has happened in a week, the first time, the delivery wasn't even for me but for a Neighbour (my annoyance the last time was lost in the fact that they didn't even have the right house) Both times, car on the drive and no attempt from the driver to wait for someone to come to the door. I genuinely don't know if it was the same person both times.
AIBU?

OP posts:

Ninjapants · 15/05/2017 15:40

It's not ok for the delivery driver to have opened your door but, as it happened and caused you a great deal of concern, you should keep the door locked in future.
Just because people shouldn't enter your property without your permission doesn't mean they won't. Just lock your door, problem solved

Stormtreader · 15/05/2017 15:41

I dont understand people who dont lock their door - personally I like to be able to have a nap on the sofa/ go out in the garden for a few hours/ have a long bath/ leave my car keys hung up by the door safe in the knowledge that all my stuff will still be there later!

soapboxqueen · 15/05/2017 15:42

Hodge I have a pvc door so you need to use a key to lock it.

hibbledobble · 15/05/2017 15:43

helen but wouldn't you have a yale lock on that door? We have a mock original victorian door and if it is closed it locks automatically , as the hodge points out.

OvO · 15/05/2017 15:44

Yanbu

Can't believe he just opened the door! I'd have torn a strip off him.

I always lock my front door but only because we don't use it. The back door is always open though. Anyone who knows me knows that door's open so knows to just come in shouting, "hello, are you decent?" Decent being clothed.

People get very het up about unlocked doors on MN. No one I know keeps theirs locked when in.

user1493759849 · 15/05/2017 15:44

@hodge.

No, no yale locks in this house. haven't had them since the early 1990's. we have UPVC door with 'secure' locks. (Like you whack the handle up to secure the door in place and then lock it iyswim) makes it very hard to break in.

haven't locked myself out of the house this century

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 15/05/2017 15:52

Thanks @user1493759849

Just another thought (I felt sure someone had said it but can't see it), a lot of insurance companies will void your insurance if a thief or burglar didn't have to force entry. I think I remember the stats being that 1 in 10 of us will be burgled and it surely just adds salt to the wound if it was preventable and your house insurance didn't cover you just because you didn't lock the door.

Not that i'm saying anyone should try and open your door, but just thinking.

Jupitar · 15/05/2017 15:56

We've got a porch, and the outer door is locked at night, and when we're out, the inner door gets locked if I'm having a bath or going to the loo. I've had loads of parcels left in the porch despite me being in as I'm obviously too busy reading Mumsnet to realise the doorbells ringing 😂 None of the delivery drivers have ever come in through the inner door though, despite that often being open too.

user1493630944 · 15/05/2017 15:56

YANBU. Driver has no right to try door and open it. I used to work from home in an office near the front door. Mine had a Yale type lock so was locked but had it been one that required a key to lock it from inside i would probably have done what you do - and been as angry as you!

Katedotness1963 · 15/05/2017 15:57

North of Scotland, it would be unusual for someone to be home and the door locked during the day. Deliveries, unless needing signed for, are just popped round the door. I only locked my door at night or when I was out.

user1493759849 · 15/05/2017 15:57

@hodge I hear what you're saying and you're right. However, I only leave it open when I'm out, so I'm almost certainly not going to get robbed when I am in. (I know it's possible, but I am a lot less likely to get robbed if I am sitting at the kitchen table ... And as I said, I live in a very low crime area.)

I lock the house when we are in bed too of course.

But in the say when we are in, (in the lounge/kitchen/dining room etc,) I don't lock it.

user1493759849 · 15/05/2017 15:58

I mean I only leave the door open/unlocked when I am IN! D'oh!

I LOCK it when I am out!

user1493759849 · 15/05/2017 16:00

Try again...... as i cannot edit..

@hodge I hear what you're saying and you're right. However, I only leave the door open/unlocked when I'm IN, so I'm almost certainly not going to get robbed when I am in. (I know it's possible, but I am a lot less likely to get robbed if I am sitting at the kitchen table ... And as I said, I live in a very low crime area.)

I lock the house when we are in bed too of course.

But in the say when we are in, (in the lounge/kitchen/dining room etc,) I don't lock it.

Liiinoo · 15/05/2017 16:01

We have two homes, one in London and the other in a very remote part of rural Scotland. In London it would be an act of lunacy to leave the door unlocked but I am reasonably sure it would be safe enough to leave the front door unlocked in the Scottish house. However both houses have Yale-style lock and so lock automatically when closed and it has never occurred to me to take them off the latch when I am home. I am amazed that so many people don't seem to have this sort of arrangement. Surely leaving the house unsecured invalidates the contents insurance? You do all have insurance....don't you?

strikhedonia · 15/05/2017 16:05

Yale-style lock and so lock automatically when closed

they are designed for clever people who always remember to take their keys, not the likes of me who lock themselves out regularly! thankfully I have spare keys spread around friends and family

SheSaidHeSaid · 15/05/2017 16:08

I don't always lock my front door, though I'm trying to get in to the habit of doing it after previously having a door that just locked automatically when it closed. BUT. I've never had anyone open it themselves without asking, I find that extremely odd unless it looks like it could be a door to a porch and not the actual front door (guessing it doesn't though).

So you're not started again in future I'd get in the habit of locking it every time.

MollyHopps · 15/05/2017 16:14

OP have you posted about this happening before? Even the replies are familiar!

scottishdiem · 15/05/2017 16:23

I know a few home offices and even home clinics that have a come straight in approach. If its a business address and a home office is very clear perhaps thats what he thought?

amicissimma · 15/05/2017 16:27

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsJBaptiste · 15/05/2017 16:30

To be frank I don't want to lock my door and I didn't want to get an alarm and a new back door but when then whole house was ransacked by burglars last year, you realise sometimes you have no choice in the matter

Original poster

BoredandConfused · 15/05/2017 16:31

No. Definitely not posted about it before.
I was naively expecting that I was NBU. If I had posted before, I would have known better to open this particular can of worms!

For the poster who asked where the unlockers live. I'm in the NW. Semi-rural.

OP posts:

SpottedOnMN · 15/05/2017 16:32

At the weekend I was dropping flowers to a friend who knew they were coming and said her teen would be at home. Teen didn't answer (music mad!) and I stood in front of the door knowing it was usually unlocked but paralysed by how rude it seemed to just open the door. Eventually I did open it and tucked the flowers safely inside, then guiltily texted my friend telling her what I'd done and why.

YANBU!

NavyandWhite · 15/05/2017 16:33

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Fluffyears · 15/05/2017 16:35

My mother lives Ina very quiet safe area in the west of Scotland where people do not lock doors. Someone tried the door, nipoedbin and took her car keys they then went off with her car and left it burnt out a few days later. Little arsehole took her lovely wee pride and joy that she bought with money she got following the death of my father. The insurance did pay out though so it doesn't 'void' your insurance. Door is firmly locked now as is mine.

AwaywiththePixies27 · 15/05/2017 16:37

WTF?! People are talking as if it's normal to lock themselves in their house?

Well it IS normal for some of us. There's been a spate of burglaries. Attempted burglaries and people having their cars blatantly nicked off their drive. That's when we've got a week free from the random stabbings.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 9 10