To ask how long does it take to meet someone and have a baby?

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This is going to seem like a ridiculous question, which I acknowledge, bit hope you forgive me because we cannot be rational all the time. I am worrying a lot that, at 33, I am no closer to having a child than I was at 23. And I am just getting older. I am single and do not have anyone in the pipeline who wants children one day. Please share your stories of time between met - engaged - married - baby (or met - baby) to help me work out what my cut off needs to be for giving up going it alone.

I was 35 when I started seeing DH. (I vaguely knew him through work.) After five months, we got engaged. After 6 months, he moved in. After 2 years, we got married. We didn't manage to have children (his fault!) but decided not to go down the IVF route.

I had been single for two to three years before that after a really rubbish relationship. I had almost given up hope. What did seem to work was that I just stopped caring about meeting someone. I got on with my life and just enjoyed myself. I did also have a massive declutter and 'made space' for someone.

When he came along, it all just worked and it still works. I knew he was the right one and told him I loved him on the third date.

I know it's hard but try to relax. The right person will turn up at the right time. If you are meant to have children and marriage you will. I felt exactly the same at 33. Now I'm mid forties, very happily married but actually quite glad I don't have children. We have a lovely life.

I was 32 when I met my husband. I'm 35 now, we married last year and I'm 8 months pregnant with my (and his) first baby. Do not worry, just go with the flow and try to enjoy dating!

We were married within 22 months of meeting, and had our first child after 2.5 years together.

Hope it works out for you OP! xx

A year between meeting via internet dating and TTC. Moved in together at the same time. I was 35 at this point.

13 years and 2 children since.

By the time I'd been with OH for 2 years, we had been married 7 months and had a 3 month old. I was 27 when we met.

I met dh when I was 20 in 2008. I had a 4 month old baby at the time. We moved in together that winter and had a baby together Spring 2010. So it took us 2 years from meeting to move in together and have a child. We got married in 2013 and had a 3rd child in 2014.

Things can, and do, move quickly. I hope it happens for you.

Met online in late 2012. Married in 2013. First child 2014. Second child 2017. Make sure it's the right guy though, or none of this will make you happy! All the best, OP!

My friends who have met someone later i.e. In their 30s have also got married and had a baby much quicker (usually engaged and married within 1 1/2 to two years) than people who met in their 20s (usually have not got married till early 30s).

Met at 28 engaged at 32 married at 34 expecting our first child in November at 35. But, we have been trying to get pregnant since we were 29. We actually put the getting engaged and married on hold for ages due to the fertility struggles. We knew we were the right people for each other early on.

I was 34 when I met dp last July. We are now ttcing - I had my coil removed this week.

We are in love, we know we want to be together, we both want children, so we have decided not to wait any longer.

Started dating when I'd just turned 30, married shortly before my 32nd birthday, DD born a year later.

You are a spring chicken! Please don't fret - what's for you won't go by you as my mum says.
I broke up with a long term boyfriend at 32, met DH on my 33rd b'day, engaged on 34th b'day, married at 35, Dd1 at 37 and Dd2 at 39 - got pregnant 1st month trying with both. You have loads of time.

Met Nov 2011
Engaged August 2012
Married September 2013
Baby One June 2014
Baby Two October 2015

Met 2008, married 2010.
dc1 2014
Dc2 2016

Dc1 would have liked to have been sooner but we ended up needing ivf

Met in Dec, pg in June, moved in together in November, Baby 1 born Feb

Unplanned pg but it felt right - however wouldn't recommend!

Bought house together April
Then we had another 2 children, then got married, then had our 4th.

Been together over 15 years now and are v happy

Met DH in 2009
Engaged nine months later
Married 13 months later
Pregnant 12 months later
Been together 3.5 years when DS1 arrived
Still together now

Started dating 2012 (age 24)
Baby 2013 (age 25. Moved in together while I was pregnant)
Engaged 2014 (age 26)
Baby 2015 (age 27)
Married 2017 (age 29)

We did it in the wrong order and fairly quickly but we are blissfully happy and very in love!

I met DP in November and I'm now 7 weeks pregnant x

Met at 18
Baby1 at 23
Married at 24
Baby2 at 26

Met OH at 26 in the march, was pregnant by the October (not planned), baby born when I was 27, engaged at 29, pregnant with DC2 in April 2017 😊

Met 28
Married 31
Baby 32

We were 6 years in but most couples I know had a baby within a few years of being together.

Met 2005 (aged 21 -me and 25 -him)
Moved in together 2007
Engaged 2008
Married 2010
1st baby 2011
2nd baby 2016 (he took a bit longer than we would have liked!)

We're now 33 and 37. We took things fairly slowly as I was still at uni when we met and wanted to get my degree/training/qualifying (am a lawyer) over and done with before having children.

I agree that things move quicker when you're older; I think people are generally more sure of what they will and won't tolerate. SIL met her DH in 2009 (aged 30) and they were married with 2dc by the time she was 33.

Meet Feb 2010
Moved in together march 2011
Pregnant 2012
Ds1 born July 2013
Brought a house august 2014
Pregnant 2014
Ds2 born may 2015

I'm 34 now.

I met my OH at 25 and had DD at 30, that felt like a good amount of time to me. I think the younger you are though, the longer it takes. When I was 25 I was still in the partying all night stage. If I'd met OH later when I was a bit more mature I think I'd have been ready for kids earlier.