To ask how long does it take to meet someone and have a baby?

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This is going to seem like a ridiculous question, which I acknowledge, bit hope you forgive me because we cannot be rational all the time. I am worrying a lot that, at 33, I am no closer to having a child than I was at 23. And I am just getting older. I am single and do not have anyone in the pipeline who wants children one day. Please share your stories of time between met - engaged - married - baby (or met - baby) to help me work out what my cut off needs to be for giving up going it alone.

I don't think there's any exact science to be applied here, but I know being panic-stricken about time slipping away could possibly lead to you making some sketchy decisions in order to beat the clock .
My first partner and I were together for seven years . (Age 16 til 23) we had our son five and a half years in then broke up a yr and a half later .
My husband and I conceived our first child within a year of meeting , disaster waiting to happen in some people's minds but here we are, another baby and a wedding, together nearly 8 yrs.
So there's no perfect amount of prediction time , as having a baby can profoundly change the whole relationship .
My gran had my uncle when she was 49 BTW, so don't go rushing into anything based on an assumption that times running out at 33

Ps: I'm 28 :)

Me and DH met when I was18, got engaged 4 months later and then stalled as we were living with my parents until I was 24 and w got our own flat, then had DD at 25, got married at 27 and are now having DC2.

Met age 23
Married at 32
First baby 35
Hopefully have another baby before age 40! Am 38 now.

Got together and engaged at 20, married at 21, dd at 28... I don't think you can work to any set formula. Don't see 35 as this giant cut off but also realize that kids might not have happened 10 years ago even with the right person.

1 year from meeting to married and pregnant!
I moved back to the U.K. aged 30 because I wanted to meet someone in my hometown to settle down with and start a family (like you I was feeling conscious of my age and that it could take a few years) I told all my family and friends and even our parish priest what I was looking for and asked them to set me up with anyone they thought suitable. I dated quite a few people. Unable to find work in the U.K. I reluctantly went abroad to work another summer season and get some cash. On my 32nd birthday I got together with someone I was working with abroad and fell in love. He moved back to my hometown with me 5 months later and just after my 33rd birthday we got married while "just" pregnant (although I didn't realise until we got back from honeymoon). Now 38 and hoping for a 3rd baby.
You just never know when it's going to work out, but don't sit around waiting to meet someone, be proactive and not embarrassed to put yourself out there. Be upfront about what you want out of life, don't let anyone waste your time (although you still have time in your side even if it doesn't always feel like that) Get out there and find your someone!
On a side note, after having enlisted my parish priest in my dating quest he then announced at my wedding "we all know how long [name removed] has been waiting for this" 😆 (It was very funny, most people there had been enlisted in my earlier dating quest too)

Met, engaged and living together in 10 months. Married at 2 years, baby at 3 years 8 months. You have plenty of time.

Completely sympathise OP - I'm nearly 34 - not even slightly close to meeting someone and fear I will never now have children :(

It also depends on your fertility

Maybe get Amh and fsh levels checked

Been with df for 5.5yrs. We started ttc at once as I knew I had problems (tried with dh for 5yrs till he sadly died)

5 private ivf - £27k later - we finally got pregnant 4.5yrs later and I have my dd who is 7w tomorrow

I have had friends who met someone and accidently preg a few mi the later

You are still young but Obv older you get the lower your infertility gets

I have a friend doing donor sperm and ivf as she wants to be a mum and now over 40 and hasn't met the right man so going alone

Is this an option?

Met
Engaged after 1 year
Married at 2
Baby born at year 4

About a fortnight. I was a very irresponsible 20 year old! We had two more DC and got marries, still together now. But that definitely wasn't planned!

Much best friend was single at 37. Now 41 with a child. I was 37 when I had my 1st and 40 when I had my 2nd. Don't give up 😃

Met 2009, engaged 2011, married 2012.
DS1 2014 and DS2 2017. I'll be 39 later this year.

P.s when I looked into egg freezing it appears it's not a well established procedure so not many babies have been born yet from frozen eggs - it appears frozen embryos are more successful. However if you do then go on to meet someone I suppose that could open up a whole new set of issues.

DH and I celebrated the first anniversary of us meeting the day before our DS was born. Now 5 yrs together another baby and marriage.

DH came to my house with a mutual friend of ours, she'd popped in on their way to somewhere and he never left.

Met in 2000, married in 2001, baby in 2003 (delayed to some gyne stuff. I didn't want to get oh wo knowing what was going on first), second baby in 2005.

I was 40 when we met and had asked myself that question many times.
Nov 2014 met (tinder)
Feb 2015 engaged
Aug 2016 married
Nov 2016 successful ivf
Aug 2017 baby due
A real modern love story.
Never been happier!
It can happen!!!

Fell in love at 23, bought a house, ttc for a few years, nothing happened. We split when I was 32 and I spent the next five years getting over him and panicking as everyone I knew got married and started popping out babies.

Met dp at 37, just as I was coming to terms with a child free future. Got pregnant a year later, unexpectedly, just as we were moving in together. Miscarried, but it focussed us rather. Conceived again six months later and, aged 40, had dd. So it was pretty quick. Our relationship isn't perfect, but it's ok, and it's worth it for our dd.

Otoh, it took my friend two weeks from meeting someone to getting pregnant by him

Met through match.com, got engaged after 5 months, married 9 months later, baby arrived 10 months after that. 2 years and 2 weeks from 1st date to baby and the second arrived 1 year and 9 months after the first. I was 32 when we met.

Met dp at 39, baby at 42

Started dating and were engaged 1 year later, married 6 months after that and got pregnant right away. So within 18 months of meeting/dating we were married and pregnant- I guess when you know you know! We've been married a few years now. It was hard at first since we moved so fast, but it's worked out great. Everyone is different though. I understand your concerns, but you are 33 and you do still have some time! Good luck to you :) dating sites have helped my friends and worked wonders for those who wanted to weed out the people not looking for the same thing. Just a thought! :)

Started dating June 2009
Pregnant in October 2009 (was on pill and using condoms 🙈)..
baby1 in July 2010
Engaged Christmas 2010
Married June 2012
Baby 2 April 2013
Baby 3 April 2016

Met DH at school but didn't get together until age 27, baby arrived 29 (been together 18 months when pregnant, not planned but happy!) second baby at 32, married at 35 😀 You have time. I had no one in the pipeline at 26/most of 28 and wondered when it would ever happen!

Met dh at 28

Got engaged at 29

Got married at 30

Had ds at 31

It can happen quickly if you meet the right person. I met my dh online dating. Was only doing it for 3 months when I met him xx

I met my now husband at the party and 6 weeks later we moved in together. Got married within 10 months from first date and had the first baby 2 years later. We've been together for 10 years now