I'd say we have sex these days around once a week - if I initiate it. DH uses a variety of excuses from:
"I'm tired"
"The bed is too noisy"
"I've had too much to drink"
"I feel rough from last night"
"I don't feel too good"
"The kids (late teens) will hear us"
"We have too much to do"
Etc etc. Like I say, mid week he's too tired, Friday / Saturday night he's drank too much, Saturday / Sunday morning he's too hung over - in the odd occasion that the kids are out and we have house to ourselves "we have too much to do".
We've just been away to Paris for our first anniversary - he wasn't interested there either. We were there a week, had sex twice - both times I had to initiate and almost press the issue.
Today is my birthday. Wevsaid last night we'd have a lie in together as he's going on a stag night later and will be hammered when he gets in. Well he got up at 4.30am this morning so that will be a no no for the rest of the weekend with hangovers etc.
AIBU?? If I am, I'd like to know so I can stop obsessing over it as I'm really taking it personally. Been married year and 10 year age gap (he's 46, I'm 36).