to think a 19 yo fancying a 13 yo isn't right?

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dc saw a 13 yo on the tv and described them as 'hot'. aibu to think that just isn't right?

He is a very pretty boy. And I suspect will be a rather attractive young man. I might even go as far as to say he is hot in a teenage in-up sort of way.

That does not mean i'm sexually atracted to him. The whole idea makes my toes curl.

But he is objectively pretty

I guess the question is what did your daughter mean by saying he is hot?

Someotherfuckers - I know, im pretty laissez faire tbh but a 14yo who's mum I know well and would be horrified by it biting her lip with no top on but turned just enough to not show her chest just her back and the caption "tease lol" to me is just not ok! (I told the mum gently and she now monitors social.media a bit more)

I always find it curious that this is something that we expect to be inherent in people (men, really) now, not finding underage girls attractive, but we don't apply that retrospectively

Yes, and I think there is something very complex going on. Until 1875 the age of consent for girls was 12, then it was raised to 13. It was raised to 16 in 1885 because of fears that young girls were being sold into prostitution. Curiously that is for girls, not boys.

IMO the situation prior to 1885 was exploitative but simply saying it was paedophilia isn't helpful in terms of working out what is going on. Of course we have to set an age of consent to protect people but you can't argue that someone's a paedophile for fancying someone who is 15 years and 364 days old, but not when they're 16. The law needs to protect children and teens. But there is a specific medical definition of paedophilia and it's determined by whether or not someone is past puberty, not by their age.

You can think that a child is good looking (hot) but not be sexually attracted to them. It's like a recent thread where someone asked if their child looked attractive enough to model and people looked at a photo and generally replied yes.

I think the kid who plays Fergus on Outlander is attractive. I'm not attracted to him, but he has, IMO, pleasant features and will probably grow up to be a very handsome man.

Oh god I remember going out with a guy who was 19 when I was 23... when I say 'go out' I mean a few songs behind the sheds.. and a walk down the street holding hands.
It wasn't creepy at the time.. BUT I have a 13 year old niece and if she came home with a 18 year old boyfriend I'd probably lock her in the roof space 😫

13 not 23 lol

So are you concerned about your DD?

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I have been to the pub for lunch. Are we any further along?

I don't think good looking is synonymous with hot.

I could say an eight year old is a good looking child but to call them hot would be creepy no?

No, I am not concerned about my DD, she find lots of older men attractive too but thought a bit strange how young he looked.