Junior rugby tour - am I prudish and uptight?

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I've just spent last weekend on rugby tour with DS (almost 13). I was one of only 4 mums there - most kids were with their dads or a "nominated adult ".
I know laddish behaviour is to be expected on rugby tour but most of the dads were seriously hammered from before we even got on the coach in our home town - and the kids were all helping themselves to beer and cider too. The dads thought it was all highly amusing but these kids were 12,13 and 14.
DS didn't want to drink anything and ended up not being part of the boys' social group all weekend . This was ok but on the last day it escalated to him being thrown to the ground several times and then when he started crying the other boys nicked his shoes and tied them out of reach, only giving them back when I intervened. The coaches did nothing -- just carried on drinking their beer.
So, AIBU to think that this is all a bit much? Or am I being overprotective and uptight? What would you have done in my situation?

Recently been on a weekend trip with my DD for a different sport, ages ranging from 8 up through the mid teens to young adults.

I wouldn't have begrudged the adult coaches a drink in moderation which I am sure they needed but there was absolutely no sign of it and it most certainly wasn't on offer to the kids! I was only there as a travelling parent, not even an official helper, but would have considered it awful behaviour to get hammered.

I'd find another club.

I don't think adult tours are more restrained now (and I don't think anyone has said that ) - just that there is less tolerance of encouraging such behaviour amongst children.

And that a excessive teasing bullying culture is not tolerated and seen as antediluvian and wrong. We got rid of one coach for exactly such old style attitudes.

First time I have seen drinking has been in the U16s, which has been discouraged, and at the U18s, which is tolerated but not encouraged to excess (and I've been on the buses where they've been coming back from distant rugby games )

When ds and I argue he's 16 so what do you expect , he uses the "would you rather I was getting drunk at parties like some of my school friends or would you rather I take my my rugby seriously and not be interested in drinking?" argument

Take this up with the club's safeguarding officer. It's their job to be on top of stuff like this, and every club has to have one as part of RFU registration requirements.

In Scotland, every club has to have a Child Protection Officer.

My DH plays rugby in the SE...fuck no way would this be allowed!!!