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Crying because your team has been relegated (football)

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TinfoilHattie · 07/05/2017 22:25

Pics on news of football fans (Blackburn? Blackpool? Something like that) crying because their team has gone down from Division 2 to Division 3.

I mean seriously. AIBU to want to tell them all to get a fecking life?

OP posts:
Orangetoffee · 08/05/2017 22:46

A grand old team to follow but so frustrating at times, I got a warm feeling seeing the U23 lifting the throphy tonight though Football

StripeyZazie · 08/05/2017 22:51

YABU

BonnieF · 08/05/2017 22:59

I'm a huge sports fan, but I have only cried once, and they were tears of elation and relief.

22 November 2003, the rugby World Cup final. England vs Australia in Sydney. After 80 minutes, the score was 14-14, so it's extra time. Another 20 minutes of unbearable tension as England battled against the Aussie team, 80,000 home fans and a blatantly biased South African referee.

I know several of the England players personally, as they play for my club, Leicester, and I have watched them come up through our junior teams. I'm so proud of them.

We win a line out, the ball comes back to Jonny Wilkinson, the best kicker in the world. His team-mates have created just enough time and space for him. He hits it with his weaker foot, but it's good enough, and England have won the World Cup.

I was screaming, laughing cheering and crying all at the same time.

ladymariner · 08/05/2017 23:00

People who get that involved in sport either need something worthwhile in their lives or they're just a bit thick

Really?? And what do you do that makes your existence so worthwhile, pray tell?

ladymariner · 08/05/2017 23:21

We win a line out, the ball comes back to Jonny Wilkinson, the best kicker in the world. His team-mates have created just enough time and space for him. He hits it with his weaker foot, but it's good enough, and England have won the World Cup.

I was screaming, laughing cheering and crying all at the same time.

You and me both, Bonnie what a day!! Shame they couldn't repeat it in 2015, my friend and I were sooooo lucky to be there for all four of England's pool games....I cried then too, standing in Twickers, singing Jerusalem, it was magical!!

Passion is a wonderful thing, Op.....sport of all kinds induces memories, emotion, a zest for life.....you should try it some time instead of sneering at something you cannot possibly understand.

BadLad · 08/05/2017 23:42

This is why it's good to support shit teams.

I never feel like crying - in fact, I've come to like the sensation of my mind boggling as each now low is reached.

ladymariner · 08/05/2017 23:58

Haha BadLad we could well support the same team.....you're not up north by any chance, are you?? Grin

BadLad · 09/05/2017 00:01

The team I support certainly is. Now a non-league team, with two illustrious, successful neighbours.

SandyY2K · 09/05/2017 00:14

People have remortgaged their homes to buy a season ticket before now... Total madness IMO, but I imagine those would be among the fans crying about relegation.

My DH used to get so grumpy and angry when his team (that I also support) lost.

The first time I saw fans crying like that, I was surprised, but I'm used to it now.

IamaBluebird · 09/05/2017 00:17

Tranmere Rovers maybe?

BadLad · 09/05/2017 00:43

That's the one. The glory days of league cup semis, losing on penalties, losing the league cup final, Aldridge scoring for fun and flirting with promotion to the premier league seem a long time ago now.

Rarotonga · 09/05/2017 00:44

I'm a passionate and dedicated Rovers supporter. I didn't cry yesterday but I do feel distressed and feel no shame in that. OP you may not know (or care) that our club was bought by some awful owners nearly 7 years ago and there have been very dodgy shenanigans ever since and it seems we are being asset stripped. Our supporters have been working tirelessly to raise awareness and request help from the footballing authorities and media, and to implore the owners to sell and have got nowhere. The owners don't care and are carrying on regardless.The supporters aren't crying over relegation per se, but the destruction of our club. It is extremely frustrating and bewildering to see something you care deeply about be destroyed before your very eyes.

I started going to games with my dad and grandad when I was 4 years old and following the Rovers has been a huge part of my family life for over 30 years, something we did together and found joy in. My dad and grandad have both died and I am finding the destruction of the club we all love really hard to process. We had other shared interests and did other things too, but following the Rovers together has brought many precious memories.

I expected to go on Facebook and Twitter and be taunted by fans of other teams, and that certainly happened yesterday. Though a lot of thoroughly decent people get why we are angry and upset, and wish us the best. I really didn't expect to find a thread on Mumsnet taking the p*&$$ out of our supporters too. Unbelievable.

BitOutOfPractice · 09/05/2017 06:28

Raro the vast majority of people on this thread have been supportive. While there will always be banter, no true football fan enjoys seeing any club go through what Rovers is going through. I can think of several other clubs - like Blackpool and Coventry- going through similar and it's just appalling.

espressotogo · 09/05/2017 07:14

I totally didn't get the passion people had for football until 8 yr old DS started playing local league football. He started to get interest from scouts and is currently on trial at 2 academies - a championship and premier league side and has been offered a contract for a league one academy team for next season.
It's really opened my eyes to what a massive deal football is and how, behind every team there is a stream of youth sides full of talented young players. Seeing how competitive it is at youth level and the investment in facilities the clubs make has given me new found respect for those players that make it into the first team at any league side - the amount of training, dedication and discipline it takes is a real eye opener.

It is a massive industry and a big employer and the first teams performance can have a knock on effect of the finances of the club which will affect the investment the club can make in younger players

So yes I get it - it's a big deal and the passion people feel for their team is understandable - there is a lot at stake !

supermoon100 · 09/05/2017 08:10

I appreciate that alot of people love their teams but if you have an obsessive fan in the family, it can cause alot if conflict. Their interests always have to come first.

BitOutOfPractice · 09/05/2017 08:23

That can be said of any hobby though. I know someone whose marriage broke down when her DH became obsessed with cycling.

supermoon100 · 09/05/2017 08:27

Except football is put on some kind of pedestal all of its own because millions of people all over the world support it.

Sparklingbrook · 09/05/2017 08:34

Around here it's Rugby that is on the pedestal.

I can't see the attraction of Rugby and all the trips to A&E myself but loads of people love it.

BitOutOfPractice · 09/05/2017 08:35

I don't think so. I think people are just as obsessed, and spend just as much time on loads of other hobbies and sports like golf, running, etc.

Sandsnake · 09/05/2017 08:42

Bournemouth fan here. I've cried when I got up at 0430, travelled to Carlisle (basically Scotland), watched my team fight with everything they had and yet still go down, with a realistic chance of then going out of business too. I also cried two years ago when we scored the goal that sealed our promotion to the Premier League, a near impossible, ridiculous occurance made all the more poignant by the years of hard times (including me putting my pocket money into buckets to help keep the club going). No shame at all. I've got plenty of other things going on in my life as well and am not 'sad'. Although for some people it maybe the only real social thing they do have in their lives as football fans are made up of all sorts. I don't think that something that provides a sense of belonging to people who may struggle to find it elsewhere should be sneered at just because it's football.

supermoon100 · 09/05/2017 08:44

I don't agree. Having lived with a football obsessive for years, nothing else comes close. At least other hobbies can possibly keep you fit.

laylabelle · 09/05/2017 08:50

Agree with what's been said. People cry at films...TV shows etc and that's fine but football nope can't have that. Something like relegation is huge! More so if you go into the game with a chance to stay up and come the end it's worse case just release of emotions as well. Being at the game makes it worse as it's now just you feeling it its the rest of the fans and players and staff etc.

I'm a Chelsea fan and lately admit not much to cry about nothing like relegation but did get teary when Drogba scored the winning penalty in the Champions League. You get caught up in the moment.Definitely had tears when Lapsed scored the penalty after his mums death as well..

Dont get why football fans are looked down on/suddenly labeled all the same and find it sad they're being mocked for showing passion.

DeleteOrDecay · 09/05/2017 08:54

Their interests always have to come first.

Maybe that's down to the individual being a selfish arse rather than them being a football fan?

supermoon100 · 09/05/2017 09:29

Mmm I've never known a football fan not to put their interests first. Seldom has a game been missed. Come hell or high water the game must be watched!

Sparklingbrook · 09/05/2017 09:34

If you have paid for a season ticket it makes sense to go to the matches TBF.

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