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Crying because your team has been relegated (football)

314 replies

TinfoilHattie · 07/05/2017 22:25

Pics on news of football fans (Blackburn? Blackpool? Something like that) crying because their team has gone down from Division 2 to Division 3.

I mean seriously. AIBU to want to tell them all to get a fecking life?

OP posts:
Blueflowers2011 · 10/05/2017 10:31

Thingamajiggy ha ha ha ha ha how does it marginalise women?!? Men and Womens football exists all over the world.

They have full lives indeed. You obviously don't get it and could open your mindset just a touch. I pity you for having no clue, sorry.

strugglinghuman · 10/05/2017 10:50

I don't think anyone should expect other human beings to cry/not cry according to what they personally think is/is not emotionally important.

That doesn't sound like a very healthy expectation to me - why would other people's emotions be connected to your heart and not their own?

He likes football and thinks it is important, and you probably cry at some TV series. Sometimes people even get emotionally invested in trivial things as an outlet instead of getting emotional about other things.

"Football marginalises women"

This is the perfect quote to encapsulate personal bitterness being wrapped up as a gender issue. What rot.

supermoon100 · 10/05/2017 11:43

Bit out of practice, my views are coloured by several obsessive individuals, from childhood to now. Yes i have also been a marathon widow. That doesn't bother me cos is for a finite period and they're getting fit. Football is never ending. I breathe a huge sigh of relief when football season ends.

Realjournal123 · 10/05/2017 12:31

Football us like a religion to many people. What's wrong with crying over something you feel passionate about. It's actually very healthy for grown men and women to cry and show feelings.

JacquesHammer · 10/05/2017 12:45

They absolutely have no lives if they're crying about Football, so I guess you could pity them

Waaaaaah what utter tosh 😂

KidLorneRoll · 10/05/2017 12:50

YANBU.

We should all be emotionless robots obvs.

Costacoffeeplease · 10/05/2017 13:40

There are plenty of things to get emotional and cry about - I've buried two close relatives in the last three months, and another friend diagnosed with terminal cancer. I'll cry over the really upsetting things in life - football Hmm

JacquesHammer · 10/05/2017 13:42

Costa whereas I prefer to cry at more superficial things - a book, a painting, sport - and deal with real life bereavements in a different ways

Sorry you've had such a rough time lately.

FallenSky · 10/05/2017 16:37

Fgs Costa, are you seriously comparing crying over death to crying over football? It is entirely possible to be emotional about a multitude of things. And I've been to way more funerals than I care to remember, cried at those as well as over football. In the words of Hermione Granger "Just because you've got the emotional range of a teaspoon, doesn't mean we all have"

Costacoffeeplease · 10/05/2017 16:54

How fucking insulting can you be?

FallenSky · 10/05/2017 17:03

About as much as you? It's really not nice to be told what you should and should not get emotional about, is it?

Bereavement is nowhere near the same as getting emotional over sport. But as I said, you can get emotional over more than one set of circumstances. It's silly to try to compare and it's also quite insulting to insinuate that anyone who cries over sport or something equally, in your opinion, insignificant can't possibly have been through anything worse.

Costacoffeeplease · 10/05/2017 17:13

Crying over football is completely ridiculous - being so overly invested in something so insignificant is rather worrying

FallenSky · 10/05/2017 17:15

Crying over football is completely ridiculous

In your opinion

BitOutOfPractice · 10/05/2017 17:24

How fucking insulting can you be?

About as insulting as you've been costa. Suggesting that crying football fans have never had tragedy in their lives and needs to get a sense of perspective.

I have cried over football. And the death of loved ones. The two are not mutually exclusive.

I am very sorry for your losses but you have been incredibly rude and narrow minded on this thread.

BackforGood · 10/05/2017 17:55

Mmm I've never known a football fan not to put their interests first.

Well, Supermoon, you've clearly based your study on a pretty small sample of football fans.

Football is never ending. I breathe a huge sigh of relief when football season ends

So which is it ???

weebarra · 10/05/2017 18:23

Costa - as I pointed out, my team won the Scottish Cup four days after my bilateral mastectomy, after being diagnosed with stage 3 cancer in both breasts, at the age of 36, 8 weeks after the birth of my third child.
I have cried about football and about cancer, the two are not mutually exclusive.
And I am sorry you've been having a horrible time.

Orangetoffee · 10/05/2017 18:29

My aunt died of cancer a few weeks back, my uncles football team should be crowned Dutch champions this weekend, it is giving him something to look forward to, and yes he will probably cry.

tanfield90 · 10/05/2017 18:50

Referring to something I read upthread, I believe it was Bob Paisley who said something like 'football isn't a matter of life and death, it's much more important than that.' It might have been Bill Shankly. Anyways, be philosophical in the face of disappointment and keep a sense of perspective. As I always tell myself after a relatively minor setback or nuisance, 'if that's the worst thing that happens today, then I'm not doing so badly.' Remember that next time the Rovers or United don't perform adequately and consider the multitude of disasters which could have happened, and haven't (yetWink).

Sermon over. As you were.

BumWad · 10/05/2017 18:55

I'm actually offended at your post.

I have been a Blackburn supporter since the age of 12. I have watched us win the Premier League.

Being relegated to League one was devastating. Especially as it was on goal difference only.

Our football club is also being run by idiots but the pride in our team is still there.

tanfield90 · 10/05/2017 18:59

BumWad. Whose post ?

JacquesHammer · 10/05/2017 19:15

Crying over football is completely ridiculous - being so overly invested in something so insignificant is rather worrying

Rather less worrying than someone who is so lacking in wit they're unable to work out that people live their life in different ways. Who knew right?

BumWad · 10/05/2017 19:55

The OPs tanfield

tanfield90 · 10/05/2017 20:01

Good. Had me going for a moment.

NotACleverName · 10/05/2017 20:12

Man I just love some of the sneering attitudes being displayed on this thread. Fine you personally don't get it (OP and others) but there's no need to act like such an arsehole because people have different passions.

Luckily I've never really had much reason to cry over football myself, but I get it.

I hope nobody who's doing any of the mocking has ever cried at a television show. Or a movie. Have an entire box of Biscuit for your oh-so-superior selves.

PS, gemma19846 people can care about more than one thing at a time. They can care about children being bombed and football. Who knew?

PPS, I cried my fucking eyes out when Marco Simoncelli died. Is that acceptable?

CheeseQueen · 10/05/2017 20:40

YANBU.

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