Crying because your team has been relegated (football)

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Pics on news of football fans (Blackburn? Blackpool? Something like that) crying because their team has gone down from Division 2 to Division 3.

I mean seriously. AIBU to want to tell them all to get a fecking life?

Is it just football or any sport you don't get cheese? Do you cry at films?

Cheese

Do you even have a clue what some of the fans of some clubs worldwide have gone through?

That awful events in the past bring them together and make victory just a little sweeter and defeat just a little more hard to take?

No grips needed at all

I have said I will save my tears for the real tragedies in life - cry over coronation street or football if you like, it affects me not one iota, but don't pretend that football is in any way important enough for grown adults to bawl and sob about

but don't pretend that football is in any way important enough for grown adults to bawl and sob about

Do come and tell that to the hundreds at the Valley Parade memorial service tomorrow.

but don't pretend that football is in any way important enough for grown adults to bawl and sob about

Once again that is your opinion. You don't get to tell other people what is and isn't worthy of getting emotional about.

The op was about teams being relegated, as is my response

Costa you still haven't answered my question....

Instead, you've gone from being mildly irritating to full on vile in your posts, accusing others of being insulting when its, in fact, you appearing utterly lacking in understanding, empathy and intelligence. Sad, really.....

costa yet you didn't specify.

I find it very hard to believe when a club has gone through as much as one like bradford City that you don't - or won't? - understand why people get emotional.

And why you seem to think that emotion surrounding sport and dealing with bereavement are mutually exclusive.

If you were simply saying "I don't" then fine. However you're projecting onto other people. I don't think you're wrong for not getting emotional at sport. I think you're wrong for sneering at others for it.

Costacoffeeplease Sun 07-May-17 23:16:14
What's wrong with being a football fan?

Where to start?

Just to remind you, Costa this is what you wrote back on page 2. I have been asking you to explain since and you haven't.

This isn't responding to the op about teams being relegated, as you have just claimed (somewhat pathetically)....this is bitchy and rude. Poor form.

Deep breath. My dad was a big football fan. He died on the night England were knocked out of the World Cup. So the song "Three Lions" which was everywhere at the time of course reminded me of him. It took me a long time to be able to listen to it without crying. Even now i am welling up.

Then Chelsea (our team) won the prem. I was ecstatic. But aware he wasn't there to share it. More tears.

His ashes are buried between the posts at the Shed End.

So every achievement/failure is not just the team - it is shared/lost/missing memories of dad.

I connect with my dad through football (among other things), But if you don't get it, you don't get it. Your loss.

Just because you don't get it doesn't mean the rest of the planet that are into football should be the same as you.

Football is completely important enough for grown adults, men and women to sob about. Fact. It happens in every single stadium across the globe. So it must be important somehow mustn't it.

alibongo5 touched by your post. Because I get it. My dad is still here but I sense I will feel like this too as he is the man responsible for bringing most of our large family together and into the football scene for the past 60 years, but he is getting older now.

Congratulations to you and your family for this Friday as much as that hurts me to say (Arsenal here). Nothing I can say except feel proud that your dad shared such a wonderful thing with you in life.

Champions, champions...

So where to start?

In the game, sorry, industry
Racism
Sexism
Homophobia
Corruption
Violence and 'tribal, if you're not for me you're against me' behaviour

The fact that the most 'devoted' fans I've known have been entitled twats who want everything from Sunday lunch to holidays and weddings arranged to suit them

I grew up in a place with fiercely fought team rivalry and now live in a country obsessed by football. As I've said previously, nothing I've seen merits grown adults crying and sobbing over a team being relegated

So you've met entitled twats who are football fans. Ergo, all football fans are entitled twats. Nice. Thanks for that.

In football you'll also find
Community
Charity
Passion
Sportsmanship
Cameraderie
Etc etc etc

To opening poster, there are two things here. One is the emotional feelings you get for a club (I've been a supporter of mine since the 70s, DD is now a season ticket holder at the same club), and if you ever hear a player talking about how important a derby game is to them and their supporters, you would see why supporters and players have some kind of bond.

The other issue is the financial one, to the city/town.. our greatest rivals are soon to leave their traditional ground. This means that the local pubs, fast food outlets etc will quickly go out of business. That's not good for anyone.

Football, I'd agree, is something you "get" or dont "get." Whatever. I don't "get" sad films but I don't begrudge those who do "get them" having their fix. Live and let live

Google Bradley Lowery and see what football can mean for a young fan and his family.

Just one example of the many good things about football in the community.

So where to start?
In the game, sorry, industry
Racism
Sexism
Homophobia
Corruption
Violence and 'tribal, if you're not for me you're against me' behaviour

And that's just happens in football does it? Not happening all the world over in any other game, "industry" or society?

Look hard enough and you will find things in every walk of life you dislike or don't agree with or don't understand how it can be, but that doesn't make you right and everyone else wrong which is how your posts are coming across.

And football has made massive efforts and strides to eliminate racism and homophobia with its Kick It Out campaign. Shouting racist or homophobic comments is totally unacceptable at my club (wolves). In fact I'd say there is less racism and homophobia on the terraces than in most parts of life now.

In addition, 99.9% of matches pass with no violence at all. I bet there's more violence at Glastonbury or on trains etc. I would very happily take my DDs to football. I went to white Hart Lane at 8 months pregnant and felt perfectly safe. In fact I was treated like royalty.

I personally haven't seen any violence at football for 25 years.

So I'm afraid costa that your idea of football is very outdated and just wrong.

To add, any fans caught acting like hooligans are taken very seriously and dealt with appropriately. It usually results in them being banned from future matches, at the very least.

Most fans don't condone that sort of behaviour because they know it ruins it for everyone else.

@alibongo

Beautiful and bittersweet post.

I'm not a football fan, but even I am immediately reminded of 4 relatives by teams/scarves now I think about it. Tribal stuff like football, past wars etc is very evocative and therefore full of emotional significance to a lot of people - it's no surprise if that sort of thing appeals to a man's sentimental nature.

The fact that the most 'devoted' fans I've known have been entitled twats

Ah right. So you're extrapolating anecdote into evidence.

You get entitled twats in all walks of life. Doesn't mean everyone is one.

@alibongo what a heartfelt post, I have a tear in my eye, even more so because we're Chelsea fans

The point about football and actually a lot of sport is that it brings people together, why oh why is that so wrong??
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Costa* have my first ever

The fact that the most 'devoted' fans I've known have been entitled twats who want everything from Sunday lunch to holidays and weddings arranged to suit them

Costa I have tried to really listen to you but your views are completely outdated as others have said.

Yep, I don't go to Sunday lunches etc during a home match and I plan all our events around the football fixtures. This doesnt make me 'entitled', that's ridiculous. Going to a game is something supporters do week in week out. Do you expect them to attend Sunday lunch every week instead? The whole point is following a team each week. Supporters are totally 'devoted' as you say, that's the point.

Maybe the real issue for you here is that people are not fitting in with you and your plans or expectations over the weekend, instead preferring to follow their passion in life.