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Crying because your team has been relegated (football)

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TinfoilHattie · 07/05/2017 22:25

Pics on news of football fans (Blackburn? Blackpool? Something like that) crying because their team has gone down from Division 2 to Division 3.

I mean seriously. AIBU to want to tell them all to get a fecking life?

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MumBod · 08/05/2017 07:26

I think people are snobby about footballers because when they're not on the pitch they hardly invoke admiration, do they?

Years ago, when the likes of my dad watched decent human beings on a good wage belting a ball around before going home and acting like a human being, I can understand getting invested.

But the day I shed a tear over watching some arrogant overpaid prick do what he's been hothoused to do since he was about 8, and then perform as if he'd just saved a life? That's a very long way off indeed.

Sparklingbrook · 08/05/2017 07:32

arrogant overpaid prick

Every single professional footballer? Confused

My DSs are both footballers as I said upthread. They invoke my admiration all the time.

derxa · 08/05/2017 07:37

But the day I shed a tear over watching some arrogant overpaid prick do what he's been hothoused to do since he was about 8, and then perform as if he'd just saved a life? That's a very long way off indeed. Would you say the same about Andy Murray. He was hothoused from a very young age to play tennis.

MumBod · 08/05/2017 07:38

Of course I'm not talking about every footballer.

But the prickish ones are not exactly great ambassadors for the sport, are they?

Which makes it very hard for non-fans such as me to get my head around the level of passion displayed by the weepers.

Sparklingbrook · 08/05/2017 07:39

Presumably tennis is different, as is every other sport you could think of. It's just football that is all kinds of wrong. Hmm

Sparklingbrook · 08/05/2017 07:40

Name the ones that bother you particularly MumBod.

MumBod · 08/05/2017 07:42

Yes I would, as it goes.

I just don't have the ability to see sport as anything other than a way to make ridiculous money if you're good enough at it.

I get more emotionally involved watching amateurs run the London Marathon.

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TinfoilHattie · 08/05/2017 07:42

I still don't get it. Your team will still be there when the season starts in September and will be there for the next umpteen years too. It's different from an individual like Andy Murray who has a finite career and that's it - once he retires there will be no more chances for him to win anything. There isn't someone else with an Andy Murray shirt waiting to carry on once he finishes. And I wouldn't cry over him losing either.

DH and my younger DS are interested in football to the extent of watching MAtch of the Day and very occasionally going to a game (one this season). They are not overly emotionally invested in it though and are capable of holding a conversation which doesn't revolve around goals and strikers.

Sport in general is a good thing - we watch the Olympics, encourage the kids to take part. But sport should be abour fun and keeping yourself fit, not taken so seriously that you cry about one team losing.

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Sparklingbrook · 08/05/2017 07:44

Well maybe sport isn't for you MumBod.

But everybody is different.

I think terrible actors get ridiculous money for terrible films.And some definitely aren't 'ambassadors' for their trade. I am not a film fan. But I understand that people love films,

SnackSnackEatAndCrave · 08/05/2017 07:45

When my team were relegated, I was devastated. Cried so much you'd have thought someone had died... still chokes me up to think of that day.
I was brought up in a sport mad house, and the emotions he shows to football is the only proof I have that my dad isn't made of stone!

derxa · 08/05/2017 07:45

But the prickish ones are not exactly great ambassadors for the sport, are they? Why do they need to be ambassadors? Anyway there are many involved in football who are clever and articulate people. The campaign against racism in football ad makes me cry every time.

MumBod · 08/05/2017 07:45

No, Sparklingbrook, I don't have time and I don't need a test to prove whether I'm right or wrong.

BitOutOfPractice · 08/05/2017 07:46

I don't "get" how many people get so emotionally invested in their pets. But I know that they do. And so I wouldn't start a thread calling them 20 types of pathetic for doing so op

BitOutOfPractice · 08/05/2017 07:47

Oh mumbod what a surprise!

rainbowsandglitterandshit · 08/05/2017 07:48

My DB is a professional 'overpaid prick'. He worked towards it since being 4 years old and missed out on so many things growing up to get where he is now. He also is more generous than anyone I have ever known. Not every footballer is an overpaid prick just like not every mumsnetter is a judgemental knob.

MumBod · 08/05/2017 07:49

They need to be ambassadors because of the ridiculous levels of adulation they receive, especially from kids.

A true comparison with crying at a film would be choosing one actor, paying a fortune following him to every audition, being more ecstatic than him when he got the part, and bereft whe he didn't.

Not reacting to a fictional story that pushes emotional buttons.

Now I really must go, I'm late. Bloody football Wink

SaucyJack · 08/05/2017 07:50

I shed a little tear two weeks ago when my home team were promoted to the Premier League- and I don't even like soccer.

WateryTart · 08/05/2017 07:51

I don't get sporting love at all. I've only been to one football match and hated it. Just not interesting to me and I cannot see why people are so obsessed.

I have, however, been to dozens of rock concerts and cried on and off for days when Freddie died and when Bowie died. Each to their own.

TheNaze73 · 08/05/2017 07:51

OP, does drama or the performing arts move you?
If someone came on here, saying I've been moved to tears by a sad film, would you find that unreasonable? Two multimillionaire thespians, dicking about for two hours pretending to be people they're not, making people cry, seems far more ludicrous to me.

Sparklingbrook · 08/05/2017 07:52

I don't understand the point of the thread then TinfoilHattie. Confused

Grin at 'test'.

I am off out now too. I like football.

weebarra · 08/05/2017 07:52

My football team are very important to me, and DH's is important to him. Last year, his team won the Scottish Cup for the first time in over 100 years. He and DS1 were there and in bits. I had a bilateral mastectomy as part of my cancer treatment and managed to get to my team's cup final four days later. We won, and I cried.
My particular team are a well run, prudent, family club. We don't have any big stars and are hugely involved in the local community.
I've been going with my dad since I was 11, and DS2 comes with me now.
I think a lot of the attitude to football on MN is snobbery.

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TinfoilHattie · 08/05/2017 07:53

I know a couple of professional sportsmen - one rugby player and one football player. Both lovely guys and not "pricks" at all. There are idiots in all walks of life though and it would be untrue to say that all football players were salt of the earth family men who love their Nan.

I think the vast sums of money which are thrown at these teenage boys sometimes turns them into not very nice people.

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BertrandRussell · 08/05/2017 07:54

My ds was 3 when England got knocked out of the World Cup (or something) He was inconsolable. He was in the pub with his dad and drunk English fans kept coming up to him and saying "Ish only a game, lil man, don cry" and giving him money. He made a fortune......

ShatnersWig · 08/05/2017 07:56

I don't get people crying over sport at all either OP. To be fair, it's probably because I really have very little interest in it. The only sports I tend to watch are tennis and winter sports, the latter I suspect because of the element of danger! Similarly, I don't get people crying over boybands splitting up. Yet there are one or two films that I have shed a tear or two over. It is what it is.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 08/05/2017 07:58

Sorry OP I think YABU. I absolutely love football and I totally understand the emotion behind it. Die-hard fans who've loved their team and watch them succeed - Blackburn were top of the Premier League at one point and look at them now. It's heartbreaking for the fans.

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