Crying because your team has been relegated (football)

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Pics on news of football fans (Blackburn? Blackpool? Something like that) crying because their team has gone down from Division 2 to Division 3.

I mean seriously. AIBU to want to tell them all to get a fecking life?

Sport/music/books/tv shows - fans get emotionally attached and invested, not for me to say they shouldn't. They aren't doing me any harm with their tears.

Also cried when Eddie Guerrero died

My people

For some reason it's only football where some things aren't allowed according to many on MN.

I would imagine if it were Rugby or any other sport crying would be deemed ok. Weird.

@honeypooh2017 I have cried at sad times (THAT playoff match in '96) and at Wembley when we got promoted to the premier league. I then cried when we were relegated that season. I feel your pain. We are boycotting too. What is happening to our club is just awful.

I agree sparkling

A few people on here were crying about the runner in the London Marathon who helped the other one to finish the race. Nobody laughed at them and told them to 'get a grip'.

Not that they should have done but people are strange about football for some reason.

There has to be a reason the OP felt the need to put (football) in the thread title....

I must admit, I don't get it but each to their own.

I have cried at movies/operas/seeing feats of human kindness but those were written purposefully to evoke an emotional response by getting me to sympathise.

I don't think crying at someone dying in a film is the same as crying because the certain colour shirts you picked to follow didn't kick a ball around a field as good as the other coloured shirts.

It's a sort of throwback to tribalism for those that need to belong I guess.

I think that about most sports

The snobbery about football on here is ridiculous.
If Arsenal win the FA cup my DS will probably cry. Come on OP come round to my house and explain to him why he shouldn't.
What's your passion?

because the certain colour shirts you picked to follow didn't kick a ball around a field as good as the other coloured shirts. ZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzz

YABU. It broke my heart seeing the little boy crying at half time when Brazil were getting trounced by Germany.
I enjoy football, but don't follow a particular team so am unlikely to cry. My DB and DH follow a team to the point of obsession which can get tedious in some respects but I admire their passion and the lengths they'd go to to watch a game, not to mention their extensive detailed knowledge on the subject.

Sorry derxa if that bored you

Isn't that how it happens? I thought you just picked the colours you preferred as a child? Or that you family had picked before?

My nephew supports a team from around 150 miles away when he has another ones ground literally on his doorstep, because his Dad already picked them.

Far from snobby, I'm as wc as you get.

Sorry derxa if that bored you grin You did well

For some people, its just the same as someone telling another to get over the death of their pet because they don't like animals. Dh has got dd interested in football. At one time, he wanted to do it professionally. I get it. But I don't enjoy football myself. It's called empathy.

YABU, especially if you support your local team or that of the area you grew up in. If you are a glory seeking Manchester United supporter then maybe it is sad to be crying (so don't cry if you lose to Ajax in the Europa League final).

I am probably a bigger film fan than I am a football fan, but I think the comparison between crying at films and crying at football is instructive.

In both you emotionally invest yourself. But films are artificially constructed to create the emotional response.

Football is live, and real, and you can't quite predict what's going to happen. And with football you've invested in a community, and you make real friends.

My dad died seven years ago. At the pub before home matches an older man always buys me a drink, and we've become good friends, and Facebook friends. I didn't spot until after my dad died, how much he is like my dad. I'm glad they met each other, especially now he reminds me so much EVERY WEEK of how kind and friendly my dad was. We never would have met without football.

These links with other people are real.

My football team has ripped my heart out and trampled on it, also given me some of the best days of my life.

For a lot of men football is an important emotional release as well. Whether you approve or not doesn't really matter, I'm pretty sure you do things that I'd find incredibly mundane and stupid and

Starting threads laughing at other people for caring about things you don't understand but that have no negative impact on you or others for one.

I would get it if the teams really were formed by local people, or if all the players had gone up through the youth teams. But really, it's more about who has the most money to buy the best players. Those players have no long term loyalty to that team, or afinity with the area. So I can't really see the point of it.
That Mitchell and Webb thing is true - fans say 'we' got relegated/scored but they didn't do anything. They were just watching it!

OP, YANBU. People who get that involved in sport either need something worthwhile in their lives or they're just a bit thick. Someone could explain to them that the team will actually play again next year, and the year after, and on and on and on forever, but they probably wouldn't get it. It means absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things.

Sure, talk statistics in the pub and who's good at what position, it passes the time. If you go beyond passing the time to actually crying tears because a different guy got a ball in a net you have issues.

It's not at all comparable to films making you cry - they depict things that actually matter.

An ever changing bunch of men who run around fields kicking balls a lot do not matter. They just don't.

If you RTFT Iwasjustabouttosaythat you will read lots of posts explaining why none of what you say is the case.....

I refer you to my post of a few minutes ago.

An ever changing bunch of men Is it the 'men' bit that bothers you?

Both DSs play football and we have gained a whole new social life through it.
Yes there's the matches but there's also social events and summer tournaments. It's a proper community feeling.

One of the happiest memories I have of my Nan when she was alive was her crying with joy at her team winning the play off to be promoted to the premier league. It's was her hometown club and she and her sister were hugging and crying.

She loved football and snooker; sport made her feel a part of something. I remember admiring her passion.

There you go. Ijust perfectly summed up the pervading MN attitude to football. No mention that this is her opinion. Just stated as bald fact that having any emotional connection to sport in general and football in particular is wrong, sad and rather pathetic.

MN is a place which hates sport and PE.