The BBC are absolutely insensitive knob heads?

[plastique]

Just watching the BBC 2 programme The Instant Gardener and I'm feeling slightly sick but very angry.
The lovely couple having a garden makeover have had 2 rounds of failed IVF, have decided to take a year off to gather themselves. People having deal with infertility know what I mean....BUT the TV presenter is obviously pregnant, hiding it with a flimsy scarf doesn't quite work!! How the hell did that amazing couple deal with that, feeling very sad for them at the moment

You sound like you need counselling this is not a normal reaction

You are having an incredibly extreme reaction to this OP. I hope you are ok. If you are reacting this strongly when you have got past that stage of your life it may be that you still need some support to deal with your past.

Would you feel better if you'd read that the couple had been told they couldn't have it done as the presenter was pregnant and that might offend people like you?
Or if you read that the presenter was told that she'd lost her job because she was pregnant?

OP - AIBU?
Everybody- yep
OP - no I'm not

🙄 why ask OP?

Yes you are being unreasonable, no the BBC are not being knobheads but sound in fact like they have been as sympathetic as possible in this situation.

I do sympathise however, you can't expect pregnant people to hide just incase they come across someone who can't conceive?
The presenter shouldn't have been replaced for that one episode it's unfair to her....

Not everybody who suffers from infertility would find it difficult to associate with a pregnant woman, perhaps this couple didn't. Being infertile and having lots of treatment that didn't work was a difficult time for me, but it never made any difference to me if I was hanging out with pregnant women or with people with small DC. My sadness was caused by my infertility, and I was neither more sad nor less sad because other people were fertile.

Have you considered counselling?

Also. It's worth pointing out its not the BBC that are responsible for all this pregnancy flaunting and sick -making, it's 12 yard productions ......

I think you're being totally ridiculous. No-one forced them to have their garden made over. I couldn't have children and no IVF in my day - what do you want infertile people to have? A one mile pregnancy free zone around them?

There might be different reasons for the scarf covering her bump. For various reasons I was terrified of miscarrying and so there are no pictures of me when I was pregnant. It might be that they've done it for continuity reasons. Don't assume it's a half arsed way of hiding her pregnancy from the couple, they might have been hiding it from the viewing public.

Amanda Holden lost a baby a few years ago and there was loads of footage of her she didn't want them to use on BGT, so maybe it's to avoid that sort of scenario.