To let my DD walk on the wall?

[PrincessWatermelon]

Like any other children, my 2 DDs (2 and 4) love walking on garden walls. There are some especially good ones near the school. No one has told us off, but I do wonder what the 'done thing' is. Obviously I'm careful they only walk on a sturdy wall and don't touch/harm any plants/fences, etc. Do you think this is ok or AIBU?

To the people saying public walls are fine but private not... Why?

What makes a public wall so different?

Don't come on here whinging if someone's painted anti-climbing paint on their garden wall and your child has slipped off the wall, injured themselves and got covered im it. Would you mind if someone started climbing all over your property?

I wouldn't let my kids do it to someone's garden wall no, I wouldn't be particularly annoyed if someone did it to our garden wall but on the other hand it's a bit crumbly in places so it wouldn't be safe and who knows if I would get blamed if someone injured themselves on my wall. so for that reason no!

I like seeing small children walking on walls. It always makes me smile. But then, I was a wall-walking, tree-climbing, running-wild child myself.

My children walk on some walls on the way back from school. I keep them off walls in our road as there are many keen gardeners who have plants growing right up to the wall. I wouldn't mind if a child walked on our wall.

Of course you shouldn't op how bloody rude

I'd love to see them walking on my front wall 😊 I really love seeing children do things we enjoyed as children, it makes me happy 🌷 Just assume all home owners are like me - problem solved! (Apologise to anyone who comes out to grizzle & avoid their walls in future).

With a public wall, the local council or whoever have a responsibility to keep it safe because it is in a public space. As a private homeowner I have no such responsibility. If I want to maintain my garden space and encourage people to sit on it, thus turning into a public space, then that is a perfectly valid choice. But it is a choice that you can't assume on other people's behalf.

I used to love walking on walls as a kid so it doesn't bother me if children walk on mine either.

and if someone wasn't hanging on to their child or misjudged your walls ability to take someone jumping on it and got injured and then sued YOU - it's still jolly?

When (as has happened to us) a kid dislodges part of your wall, and it falls on the pavement, and the parent just glances at it and lets their kid continue to walk along the rest of the wall (which you now have to repair), it's still all in the spirit of good fun for everyone?

Garden wall - no. Any that are bear a school probably get a real battering if children walk on them. I wouldn't mind if I saw a young child on my wall but that's because we don't get many people passing.

Public wall - absolutely fine! And great fun.

I have a wall out front and I wouldn't like it at all

I told someone off a few weeks ago for walking on our wall. Partially because I don't want my toddler to think it's okay to climb on the walls and then hurt himself copying bigger kids, and partially because my mum had just spent ages pressure washing our light coloured walls (she wanted it to be nice when we moved in!) and I didn't want them to get muddy. Public walls are fair game but not on someone's garden.

I'll add that ours is crumbling and it would also allow a view directly into our front room

YABU it's never occured to me to let any of our 5DC do that.

I think if I'd have done that when I was little and my Mum had spotted me I'd of got a hiding!

I just think it's someone's property and that they may have paid alot of money for or spent alot of time building themselves and to climb on it/walk on it just seems really disrespectful to me.

If it seemed likely that it was bothering the wall owner I wouldn't do it

My next door neighbour takes about 10 mins to get to her own front door since her hip op. She also hates people walking on our walls (we've discussed the damage and patched hers up for her when doing ours, our wall is a continuation of hers). She's not in a position to go out and ask every parent to fuck off get their kid off her wall. And as for me I'm often at work or on my own school run when it happens

Take some fucking responsibility, it's not home owners job to tell you that it's fucking rude, it just is

How about you only walk on walls where the home owners have expressed that they want you to do it? try that!

So many people are at work at school run time, I'm amazed at people saying 'if no ones come out it's fine'

What are people supposed to do, install CCTV? It's rude whether the homeowner is in or not.

Lol so many miserable fuckers. If I looked out the window and saw a child walking on my garden wall I would probably smile. I certainly wouldn't go out and tell them off. It's just a wall for fucks sake.

I think it's fine for toddlers with an adult although I can see not everyone agrees. It makes me sad that so many people are bothered about it!

If I looked out the window and saw a child walking on my garden wall I would probably smile. I certainly wouldn't go out and tell them off. It's just a wall for fucks sake.

LOL " A child"
clearly isn't an issue for you
but for us it's not just one child, it's daily. And it's not "just a wall", it's our time off which we would like to us for fun stuff spent repairing the fucking thing.

When people's kids have kicked off parts of the top the parents don't even pick it up off the pavement!

I was going to give the exact opposite advice to Annie - given the mixed responses I would err on the side of caution and not do it anymore. Assume people are not okay with it, rather than they are.

Lol so many miserable fuckers. If I looked out the window and saw a child walking on my garden wall I would probably smile. I certainly wouldn't go out and tell them off. It's just a wall for fucks sake.

Yes, Ace, my elderly pensioner mum, who has been quoted £2k for a replacement brick wall for her small house, is a miserable fucker indeed. She should be happy to see it damaged.

Public wall, ie council wall or even the little ones at Asda or tesco for example. Fine.

People's Garden walls. No.

I always allow "public" walls. Never occurred to me to put them on someones garden wall, it would have felt a bit intrusive. They are sadly too old now to walk on walls.

Miserable fuckers? As opposed to entitled fuckers?