To let my DD walk on the wall?

[PrincessWatermelon]

Like any other children, my 2 DDs (2 and 4) love walking on garden walls. There are some especially good ones near the school. No one has told us off, but I do wonder what the 'done thing' is. Obviously I'm careful they only walk on a sturdy wall and don't touch/harm any plants/fences, etc. Do you think this is ok or AIBU?

It's part of growing up fgs yadnbu op!

Not acceptable at all. I can't believe you thought it would be ok in the first place.

Well, what if the child slipped, and it turned out that there was a pile of rusty garden furniture hidden in the bushes on the other side? Or if a brick was loose, and they slipped, or a dog ran out of the house barking and they slipped, or, etc, etc, etc...

To me, apart from anything else, it's just a little bit rude, like walking into somebody's garden when you have no business there.

A public wall I would let them. Basically things like decent walls in a park or similar. I see this as no different to climbing a tree etc. As long as they aren't deliberately damaging things (e.g. squashing plants, graffiti, carving names into trees etc) I think this is fine.

I don't let them walk on garden walls. I find it disrespectful and it is also potentially dangerous as garden walls are mostly ornamental and not designed to be walked on. Many are not fantastically stable as often the soil around them is loose due to Plants etc.

I'd be pissed off if I saw someones kid walking on my freshly painted wall!!! I can't imagine my neighbours being happy either. There's also the potential of being sued if the kid falls into your garden and hurts themselves.

Public walls are fine. Private no.

It's not ok, our wall looks fine but actually it needs repair, I'd be pissed off if I saw someone doing it. But me actually seeing it wouldn't be all that likely because we're usually in the playroom in the day. Plus I'd have to run out leaving kids in the house, and I'm pregnant, and our door has a tendency to slam and once shut it's locked...

The onus shouldn't be on homeowners to challenge you. It is on you to act respectfully towards other people's property.

Public property fine but not someone's garden.

I hate seeing this it's so disrespectful if it was my property you would be told to get your child down. It's frustrating because parents like you let your children do,so my kids think it's ok until I explain to them it's disrespectful to the persons house. It's not a playground!!

Our garden wall was a magnet for local children. It has since collapsed. As the identical wall down the side of the garden (i.e. not such prime territory for walking) is absolutely fine, I can only put it down to the constant walking being the issue - something you might want to bear in mind if you think your child is not causing any damage.

Btw if your kid walked on my wall there's a high chance they would be injured. It's really not as sturdy as it looks. It looks like a nice solid low wall but it's really not. Luckily I've never seen a kid walk on it.

Our garden wall fell down under the weight of presumably some drunk adults. I had no idea it was weak. I am just glad it wasn't a child.
So probably not a good idea to walk on private walls. I wonder who would be liable for wall damage / injuries

No, I don't allow it. Most people wouldn't mind but there are some that do, it's their property.

We were always taught as kids that it was the height of rudeness to walk on/sit on someone's garden wall. We weren't allowed to ride our bikes on peoples' driveways either and always had to ask to get a ball from someone's front garden.

Of course you can't let your child walk on someone's private wall. It's private property. How rude!

If your child climbed on my wall I would be annoyed and ask you to stop. My dog would go ballistic. We keep her indoors but if she happened to be outside she would not be happy. She wouldn't bit but her barking would be frightening for your child.

YABU. It's private property

I live on a school route and everyday there are 20+ children walking across next door's wall after waking across my garden to get to it.

And their parents just watch with a simpering face, it's annoying. Don't do it.

Just because other people do it doesn't make it okay

It's really rude, lots of people do it on our wall which isn't as stable as it looks

It wouldn't bother me.

Helps balance :)

No to private property, yes to public walls. It's good for their balance and co-ordination and they usually move faster which is a good thing in my experience.

Christ knows how my two have learnt to balance without walking on private property

I couldn't care less if I child walked on my wall.

But I also don't care if a dog walks across my lawn, or someone puts something in my wheelie bin, which are Mumsnet Unapproved Activities.

I used to love walking on walls as a kid so it doesn't bother me if children walk on mine either.

Often it's used by elderly neighbours as a resting point on the way to and from the local shops too,and have had some nice chats with people I would have otherwise never met.

I think it's very rude to let your kids walk on other people's garden walls and wonder how you'd feel if it was your own wall that this was happening on.