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Trigger warning - miscarriage - but please help

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:33

Posting here for traffic as am so upset. I am miscarrying again after a MMC and ERPC in January and I'm not sure but I think I just passed my baby :( sorry if anyone is upset

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:35

I am only 5 + 6 so not sure if it's possible but think I can see a tiny embryo in one of the big clots I have passed. Is this possible? So sorry if tmi

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neonrainbow · 01/05/2017 16:36

No advice for you but if it is a miscarriage if so i am so so sorry Flowers

CottonSock · 01/05/2017 16:36

It's possible. Mine was a sac about the size of a golf ball at this number of weeks.
Sorry for your loss

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:37

And if it's possible should I keep it and take it to the hospital tomorrow? They have already said there may be a reason because my previous baby died at exactly the same time

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Huskylover1 · 01/05/2017 16:37

Sorry to hear this Polly When I miscarried, it helped me to think that it was natures way of dealing with things when something wasn't right. And above all else, I wanted healthy children. Also, you know you can get pregnant, so that's good. fwiw, I went on after mine, to have 2 healthy babies. There is still hope for you. Take good care of yourself. Flowers

NoHayMasQueHoy · 01/05/2017 16:38
Flowers I'm sorry this is happening to you. I had a MMC in 2015, and I'm recovering from an ectopic, it's hard, be gentle on yourself. You don't need to apologise to anyone. Is someone with you in real life?
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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:39

I didn't see a sac, just a little tiny embryo shape sort of embedded in a big clot. Maybe it isn't and I'm just clutching at straws but it does seem like since that came out there has been less pain

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Ginmakesitallok · 01/05/2017 16:39

At 6 weeks the fetus is about the size of a lentil - so it's unlikely you'll see it. Sorry for your loss, mc is awful.

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:40

My husband is with me but we are 7 hours ahead of UK and he has fallen asleep. I don't blame him but I feel sold

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:40

Alone, not sold

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Talith · 01/05/2017 16:40

I'm so sorry to hear this. If you feel you want to, definitely retain the clots and embryo. Even if the hospital can't investigate further it gives you the time to decide what to do with your lost baby. I flushed mine away and regret doing that. I wish I had taken a little more time to come to terms with things. Gentle hugs xxx

UndersecretaryofWhimsy · 01/05/2017 16:43

Assuming you are being treated under the NHS, there isn't really any need to save the embryo (assuming that is it) unless this is your third consecutive miscarriage. No investigation is done until then, as miscarriage is so common.

It's really up to you what you do but if you really need comfort, don't be afraid to wake up your DH.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 01/05/2017 16:43

So sorry that this is happening to you. Can you maybe call the early pregnancy unit and asking them if you need to keep hold. They might be able to run tests (but I'm unsure) to see if there is a reason for it if you're saying that you lost your last baby at this time.
Flowers for you

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:43

Do you think the doctors will think I'm weird bringing in a plastic bag with a clot in it? Maybe I'm imagining things

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:44

Actually I am not in UK and lucky enough to have private health care through my job so they are keen to investigate the cause

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MerchantofVenice · 01/05/2017 16:45

I had a similar thing after a miscarriage. If you want to, keep it to show dr.

It's very upsetting I know. I miscarried twice in a row and felt at first that I couldn't bear it. But I conceived a healthy pregnancy less than three months later.

Take care.

MerchantofVenice · 01/05/2017 16:45

Doc won't think you're weird.

RoseCuntedGlasses · 01/05/2017 16:45

Oh Polly I'm so sorry. No I don't think it would be odd to keep what you've passed to take to the doctors.

Sending you big hugs. Been there and it's shit. Take care and be gentle on yourself.

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:46

I don't want to wake DH. He has looked after me all day and has been fab. There is nothing more to say really so no point waking him but I felt the need to share

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PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 01/05/2017 16:46

I don't think they will think you're weird. If you have private healthcare and they want to investigate it for you the they will want you to bring it in something.
I think they will also know that you are grieving for your child

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:48

It definitely feels as though the miscarriage process has finished now as well. Not cramping at all and can't feel any more clots coming out

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:49

I think that might have been my little baby :(

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:50

I really wanted to hold on to this one :(

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flapjackfairy · 01/05/2017 16:52

Oh so sorry polly.
I have had 3 miscarriages and it is devastating. Sending lots of love .
Take care of each other xxx

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 01/05/2017 16:54

I just wanted to keep our baby safe

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