Why should I be able to park outside my own house?

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We have three cars at home and while we do have a driveway, this is only large enough for one car. We need to use these cars every day to get to and from work and we're all time pressured so we can't have long walks to get to the car in the morning. Parking in our road is very difficult especially as we are close to the train station so commuters use the road for free parking. A few months ago we started putting out traffic cones on the road outside our house, just enough to reserve space for our two cars - before we started doing this these spaces were always being filled and we often had to park a 5 - 10 minute walk away which is not really acceptable, we have important jobs and this is time we can do without wasting.

We have had a couple of arguments with people over the last couple of weeks and some people have been trying to move the cones and we have had notes put through the door and left on the car. We think we have every right - we own the house, live on the road, and therefore we should be able to park outside our own property. A friend suggested reporting it to the local council and they could reserve the space outside just for us and give us a permit, so I am going to call them next week. Has anyone else had any experience with this? I thought it would be perfectly fine, but the recent problems have made me think that maybe we need to get this extra protection.

Ooops I thought I'd read all the Ops posts.
Clearly not then. 😳

Given that you all have such important jobs, the entire street should be for your sole use. The locals should feel honoured to share the area with you, do they know you have important jobs?

OP, instead of stressing about it could you try to see it as them reserving you a space. Every time you see the cones, park there yourself.

Why do people get angry about reverse threads? I like 'em, always have!

It's more annoying that people keep piling on to berate the OP having not RTFT.

Anyhoo... just remove the cones every single time. Encourage the neighbours to all do the same. Maybe go talk to them one more time and say they are not entitled to have space outside their houses.

Then try and not let it get to you quite so much. If it's affecting your sleep then I'd gently encourage you to think about why it is stressing you to this degree. What is it tapping into? Are you really anxious and stressed about something else but channelling that into this?

Cancel the cheque OP!

Reverse thread as are not great because people are poor at representing the point of view of the person they disagree with.

I agree with Trills. Why not just post the issue normally?

I don't get it.

Oh I do get it. It's fun. And satisfying, because you represent the other party so badly that they get YABUs all over the place, whereas if you gave your side of the story you might get a more varied reaction.

(not in this case, cones on the road is just wrong)

Also half the people don't read the thread so the replies are a muddle of people who know it's a reverse and those who don't.

I tell you what's worse than putting cones out - people who block the pavement with their car so people in wheelchairs can't get past.

I like greaterthan's suggestion.

OP how kind of your neighbour to reserve a parking spot for you.

I would systematically move the cones. Every single day until they give up. I'd also make it my goal in life to park in 'their' spaces. No aggression, not confrontational, just an effective way to deal with it in a proactive way, that might help you feel better about the situation.

Do they have a garden wall OP that you could neatly line the cones up on every day?

I think Mrs & Mr traffic cone need a night out. Permenant marker for smiles, suser glue & your kids craft kit to do feather hair & googly eyes. If you can craft a resemblance to the inconsiderate plonkers all the better. Then hide them somewhere local & post a map& clues through entitled fuckwits door. If they really really really need their spaces because they are so superficial important then they will invest an evening finding Mrs&Mr traffic cone and not be utterly humiliated by the evolving appearance of said traffic cones. You may even find said cones like a day out every day..you could take pics& post each new adventure here. We could give you ideas of new places the cones may enjoy visiting.

Have you explained to them about what important people you are? I'm sure if they knew just how important you were compared to them, they'd stop.

You should put a sign up stating that while you're aware this is a public road for anybody to use, you're all very important people so simply can't have any old people parking in "your" spot.

Either that or get everybody else to agree to residents only parking on the street and you can all pay for permits to park instead.

Ha ha, I'm in a similar position -- horrendous parking, near the station and centre of town so lots of non-residents park in my road. Just one of those things, really.
Although, I was a bit the other day when I came home, was really pleased to find a clear spot directly outside my house, only for my neighbour to come running out to stand in it before I could reverse in because she was saving it for her husband.
Didn't bother arguing. She's the type to escalate and wasn't worth it.

I'd take the cones to some local tourist spots and send photos through their letterbox!! Or drive them to the local council depot and say they were dumped in your road.........

Perhaps it would be better not to steal the cones - keep some moral high ground.

Perhaps your neighbours are doing a big favour for people living on the street, stopping commuters parking, and the space is there for you to use. If they're not parking there when you arrive home, then they obviously don't need the space!

YABU for a posting a reverse. YABU to not just get out of the car, move the cones, and park wherever.