To think il never have sex again?!

[lifesjoys]

Okay il admit it! I live my life on here.
Solely because I trust you all to give good & honest advice.

27 years old, have a 4 week old baby.
The birth was difficult near the end, needed a forceps delivery.

Ended with a haematoma, was also cut for the forceps.

TMI
Went to the gp to have my vagina checked out due to discharge (different colour than normal)

She decided to take swabs, used a speculum & omg the pain was horrendous! Not only did it hurt going in, it hurt whilst in & it also hurt higher up too.

Now I've had countless internals in the past & can say they haven't ever been uncomfortable let alone hurt!

I'm too tight now (I was sewn up tighter than I was previously, the consultant told me this), so that's added to the pain!

Is this it?? Is this the end of my sex life??!!

Awesome... i read this thread and decided that I don't think kids are for me . I didn't know half of these things could happen

I used tea tree oil after each birth. The first one I tore during birth and had stitches afterwards.

You just put a few drops onto your pad and the fumes waft away and make weeing uneventful.

I was torn through. It was hideous and I panicked. Going for a poo was bloody frightening. I saw a woman's physio for 9 months once a fortnight at the hospital- get in touch with your hospital and see what they can do to help you.

It did heal and I was pregnant again at 10 months!

Awesome... i read this thread and decided that I don't think kids are for me . I didn't know half of these things could happen

I wasn't even aware of a haematoma until it happened, was then advised it was extremely rare! Well not rare enough! I bloody got it!

If I read this thread 10 months ago, I can tell you now I would have ran to my doctor to be sterilised.

What does tee tree do??

It must be awful, but you are being too impatient. It is early days. Discuss with your doctor or health visitor. Recovery may take a while but I doubt you will be permanently like you are now.

I feel like it's been months & want to get back to normal asap.

OP, I really feel for you. I've had three forceps deliveries, with all the episiotomies and stitches that go with that. The recovery is so bloody hard.

Has anyone upthread mentioned Fenton's Procedure to you? After my first DC, my stitches were very tight and got infected, and I had a lot of bad scarring, to the point where sex with my DP was not a physical possibility. I had the Fenton's Procedure about a year after the birth, but wish I'd pushed for it sooner. They removed the scar tissue and fixed it all up and made the whole area go more or less back to normal. It wasn't a long operation, and I went home the same day.

I then went on to have two more DC. Got infected stitches again with DC3, but this cleared pretty quickly. I remember the agonising pain though, so I really hope you start to feel an improvement soon. I'd give it more time, as pp have said, but if things don't start to ease then I think you need to push your GP to refer you for help.

I had a horrendous failed ventouse/forceps delivery with my 1st, and was stitched too tight. I stupidly thought it would get better and didn't go back to my GP or mention it at my postnatal check......it still gets sore now and that's 20+ years on. If you feel anything isn't right or uncomfortable, go back sooner rather than later. I will always regret that.
I had c sections with subsequent babies and they were a breeze compared to my 1st and the saggy overhang was a small price to pay. I can honestly say that I felt butchered, and it wasn't easy to recover from with a newborn. Try Arnica tablets, they're great for bruising and lots of baths with epsom salts. Hope you are feeling more human soon......I'd say it took me a good 4 months at least.

a cesarean won't leave you with a vagina that's ruined

No, but pregnancy in general can affect your vagina due to carrying the weight of your baby, the extra blood supply to that area etc. Complications are much more likely when you have a csection. It is major surgery on your tummy and pelvic area. In general you lose more blood during a section than with a vaginal birth. There is a great risk of infections and blood clots. You might have nerve damage and suffer a numb tummy. You can end up with adhesions. You will have a fairly big scar and maybe a tummy overhang, even if you are generally slim. Sex can be very painful for a long time. You have every chance of ending up with a weak bladder due to pelvic damage. So whilst I agree some may feel they have a vagina that's ruined that doesn't downplay how you may feel after a csection.

Obviously had OP had a straightforward csection, that could have been more beneficial for her.

I simply don't ever want to experience that sort of birth again so I won't be having anymore children, if I did BIG IF (more like no), I would simply opt for a c section.

I have decided to chill the fuck out!

After wondering why it's all hurting, I decided to do a check myself & have discovered everything is still very much bruised.

I do however have scar tissue inside my vagina from the haematoma.

As a PP said before, I may speak to gp in regards to fentons procedure.

I will wait 3 more weeks & see how I feel then.

I will be getting dilators at my 6 week app.