How do you cope with adult DC nocturnal activities

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WAA!

DS1 (19) has started having his GF to stay as they have been together a while now.

She is lovely etc.

He has the room directly above mine and all so have been able to hear for the last hour is the bed banging WAAA!

Argh this is worse than walking in on my parents which was pretty bad - who do people cope?! 🙈😱

Oh no. That's awful. They could have at least did it standing up so that there was no bed noise

He definitely needs a pillow behind the headboard or a new bed. Tell him to sort it because you're not living in a house that goes bump in the night.

My own OH is away 🙈

An hour?

Yes

You need headphones. Honestly, I think I'd never be the same afterwards!

Start singing songs at the top of your voice. That'll put them off

Tell him that's not on! They can shag but either wait til you're out or do it quietly!

I sent him a text

Have a discreet word with the GF. That should freak him out be effective.

Ooh I dunno have only met her about 6 times and we are at the her complimenting my cooking stage

Tell him you can hear him,that should stop it and cause red faces in the morning.OR play 'je t'aime' very loudly everytime you hear them!

Wow an hour, they have stamina.

They are young 😂

My DCs were told that I assumed any "sleepovers" were totally innocent and could only continue as long as that facade was maintained

What text did you send?!

I like your style, Ivor

I have always been quite open about sex etc (was single mum for a long time) so I was the only person available to ask - also work in sexual health so provided condoms etc.

But I draw the line at being party to it 😱

I sent a text saying "what are you doing?! 🙈🙈🙈" in the hope they weren't doing anything and he would reply - he didn't

I think say something, if theyre under your roof they can have a bit of respect and at least pull the bed away from the wall????...

Or have you seen the erotic songs thread? Maybe start dropping some hints??

Get headphones, listen to a podcast, LOUD.

It's a pull out futon (it's like his sofa, as he has a single bed but we use it as a guest bed) so the whole thing is banging on my ceiling 😭😭😭😭

Send a text message saying "what you do is your own business but please do not make me listen to it"

Gosh, I'd be mortified if mine or DH's parents ever heard us having sex! Have they never heard of being discrete?!

Not under my roof is the line you should adopt.

Most people I know even if they were allowed gf/bf to stay at that sort of age weren't allowed to share a bedroom in their parents house. The parents knew they were having sex elsewhere but it was always our house our rules and not here.

They stay at her dads at lot too