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AIBU?

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To think this child shouldn't show off this way?

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 21:43

One of the children in my dd's school has taken a page out of a brochure and put it on the wrong of a clear plastic pencil case and has been showing everyone.

(She comes from a wealthy family so it's more than likely not a lie.)

Obviously I'm not saying this girl should say nothing. But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I think everyone is entitled to nice things, but I don't think you should rub said things in everyone's face. Other way around I wouldn't want my dd cutting out our holiday from a brochure and taking it into school to show off.

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Majorgoodwinschickenbeatstrump · 22/04/2017 23:54

If this is an actual real post then get a hobby or a fulfilling job OP, honestly I'm embarrassed for you.

LovelyJubly111 · 22/04/2017 23:54

Hah.

I remember when I was at school and the GameBoy Colour had just come out. A few kids brought them in. Shoving them into the faces of poorer kids and showing off. By the end of the day one kid's had been stolen. No one deserves such a thing but people should be wary and humble not boasting about the place.

How naive are people saying that friends would be 'happy for you' shoving your wealth in their faces? This isn't a wonderful magic land of happiness. People are envious shits most of the time.

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:54

Just to point out, she physically went and showed everyone in her class and then put it in the front of the pencil case.

My dd isn't jealous, we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two. She just commented to me that she thought it was odd to do that.

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TinselTwins · 22/04/2017 23:56

"so she does things differently to you" would be my reply if my DD said that to me

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:57

If this is an actual real post then get a hobby or a fulfilling job OP, honestly I'm embarrassed for you.

Strange. I don't feel any emotion towards words on a screen so I really couldn't care less how you feel so please save your energy for feeling any emotion towards me

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Funnyfarmer · 22/04/2017 23:58

So why does it bother you?

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 23:58

My dd isn't jealous, we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two. She just commented to me that she thought it was odd to do that.

Probably is odd to her if she gets taken on holiday so often.

However, she should understand that for many children who aren't that lucky, a holiday is a real treat and something they often get very excited about.

Also, plenty of other children will get excited for their friends and will be actually interested in where they're going.

Majorgoodwinschickenbeatstrump · 22/04/2017 23:58

And rather than go "oh that's nice" or "oh right, well hope she has a nice time" you then decided to go on mumsnet and write a long post about a twelve year old and their pencil case decorations. Okaaaaay then

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Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 00:00

Also if a work colleague actually brought in a video for me to watch of their holiday I would cry of boredom. Of course I would show interest to be polite but I wouldn't care.

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LilQueenie · 23/04/2017 00:00

how do you know she went round everyone in the class? If she did its more likely others in the class wanted to know what was going on and she shared with them rather than individually waving it in their face like it or not. Not really much different from a band picture being put in the pencil case.

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Fourtwenty · 23/04/2017 00:03

However, she should understand that for many children who aren't that lucky, a holiday is a real treat and something they often get very excited about.

This child is very fortunate though and the holiday isn't a one off.

So why does it bother you?

Well it doesn't really. But it's obviously got a lot of replies so ... that's why I'm still talking about it.

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Funnyfarmer · 23/04/2017 00:05

It was a really good video. Very close up to some very exotic animals. You never said why it's bothering you so much or where she's going?

WorraLiberty · 23/04/2017 00:05

This child is very fortunate though and the holiday isn't a one off.

Then it's great to know she's still excited about being taken on holiday.

I used to go out of my mind with excitement at that age.

Funnyfarmer · 23/04/2017 00:06

Sorry cross post. But it did bother you to write a thread about it in the 1st place?

steff13 · 23/04/2017 00:06

If it didn't bother you, why start a thread? The kid is 12. 12-year-olds are often unthinking, selfish, etc. It really doesn't deserve that much thought.

Funnyfarmer · 23/04/2017 00:07

Do you just not like this child?

Empireoftheclouds · 23/04/2017 00:07

My dd isn't jealous, we went on holiday over Easter and will be going on a further two. Oooooooo bully for you the only difference between you and this girl is that she is TWELVE so bragging about her holiday is age appropriate and totally acceptable. You on the other hand.........

Gaelach · 23/04/2017 00:07

Also if a work colleague actually brought in a video for me to watch of their holiday I would cry of boredom. Of course I would show interest to be polite but I wouldn't care

Not a bit of wonder your dd is coming home and telling you how odd other children in her class are, clearly being happy for others or sharing in someone else's excitement doesn't run in the family.

WinBigly · 23/04/2017 00:08

So why does it bother you?

Well it doesn't really.

But I'll post a rambling thread about it on Mumsnet anyway.

GimbleInTheWabe · 23/04/2017 00:10

AIBU? I was reading a thread where this woman stated that she went on holiday in Easter and had TWO more holidays planned. I just think she shouldn't show off this way. Some people can't go on that many holidays, it's not fair.

BocaDeTrucha · 23/04/2017 00:11

It actually sounds like the girl is about to go on her first proper holiday judging by how excited she is, not showing off. How unkind of you and your dd to think anything nasty about this.

Zoflorabore · 23/04/2017 00:11

My ds is 14 and in year 9 and is super excited about our holiday in 27 days and counting

So much so that he has told most of his teachers, how do I know that?
I received a call this week from his head of year asking if ds in indeed going on said holiday as she has been alerted by a staff member, so i explained that I booked the holiday on the basis of dd's holidays being published earlier than ds's and as they're in the same borough ( ds secondary and dd primary ) I assumed both were off at the same time.
So my ds could totally be seen as a show off, we live in one of the most deprived boroughs in the country and plenty of dc at his school will not be going abroad, he has AS and just speaks sometimes without thinking but this is genuine excitement and not meant to make anyone jealous etc...

I haven't rtft so apologies if I'm wrong but I'm assuming you have a dc in this class who is affected by the girls actions.

Half of our family are in Florida right now and we were pleased for them going, not envious. They saved for 4 years to go.

Strokethefurrywall · 23/04/2017 00:12

This thread

callmeadoctor · 23/04/2017 00:14

Thats nice :-) Im sure she is really excited :-)

WorraLiberty · 23/04/2017 00:15

we live in one of the most deprived boroughs in the country and plenty of dc at his school will not be going abroad

Same here and yet I've only ever really known people (including kids) to be genuinely pleased for those who are lucky enough to go.

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