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Original poster

To think this child shouldn't show off this way?

340 replies

Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 21:43

One of the children in my dd's school has taken a page out of a brochure and put it on the wrong of a clear plastic pencil case and has been showing everyone.

(She comes from a wealthy family so it's more than likely not a lie.)

Obviously I'm not saying this girl should say nothing. But I feel like it would almost be the equivalent of me buying a Porsche, taking photos of it and showing everyone at work.

I think everyone is entitled to nice things, but I don't think you should rub said things in everyone's face. Other way around I wouldn't want my dd cutting out our holiday from a brochure and taking it into school to show off.

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Willyoujustbequiet · 22/04/2017 23:28

Yabu and mean spirited

The kid is just excited. Its sweet.

hoddtastic · 22/04/2017 23:29

i can understand (maybe) posting photos from/after hols on soc media if that's your thing, but really, taking photos from a brochure of a hotel is as dull as ditchwater for anyone else. Not envious etc. just boring. Although I am not a big shopper/bragger etc. so when people show me shoes/cars/bags they are buying/have bought I just think 'why are you showing me this' (obv, if they're showing a photo of themselves at a wedding wearing said outfit then i can muster a 'you look nice')

doesn't mean I am jealous, just not really that interested- very self centred to assume that anyone/everyone else is. :)

scottishdiem · 22/04/2017 23:29

I cannot see the problem of a child being excited about her holiday.

So, in simple terms, you are being exceptionally unreasonable.

I cannot see why a child should not be excited by their holiday. I cannot see why a child should not tell people where she is going on holiday. There are always going to be people richer or poorer than the person next to them.

If the child was, for example, saying I am going to this place and isnt it funny than you poor people cannot go, then I would be questioning her parents and their parenting style. But a child acting normally is nothing that an adult should be jealous about.

4yoniD · 22/04/2017 23:32

Op: am I being unreasonable?
Mumsnet: yes
Op: you're all wrong!

bigmac4me · 22/04/2017 23:32

I don't quite understand. Don't we all (children included) share stories/photographs of the good things in our lives? Isn't the usual response to be happy for your friends? As a foster carer most of the children I have cared for have missed out on the essentials of life, never mind the luxuries, but still like to see and hear about their friend's happy times. I've never cared for a child that was jealous of a friend's holiday photo, even though they might have never had as much as a day trip before coming into care. Isn't that how we learn, seeing and hearing about other's experiences? Oh well, guess we are all different. Sorry your daughter was upset.

LagunaBubbles · 22/04/2017 23:34

OP you didn't mention the word holiday in your initial post anywhere, no wonder people were confused so you can stop all the pretend indignation "you know holiday brochure."

Empireoftheclouds · 22/04/2017 23:39

Judging a child by adult standards Hmm

GimbleInTheWabe · 22/04/2017 23:39

OP: AIBU about this?

Pretty much everyone: Yes, you really bloody are.

OP: ~plays victim~

GimbleInTheWabe · 22/04/2017 23:40

Great minds, 4yoniD!

ohnothisisme · 22/04/2017 23:41

You sound jealous of her and the fact that you can't give your daughter the same type of holiday. Think back to when you were 12; did you always have everyone's best interests at heart and were you consciously aware of everyone's circumstances? I think not

Runningbutnotscared · 22/04/2017 23:42

Is she going to Maui?

Zhan · 22/04/2017 23:43

YABU! Why shouldn't she be excited about her holiday? It's not her fault her mates can't afford it

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:44

You sound jealous of her and the fact that you can't give your daughter the same type of holiday.

Fact? I've not posted my finances or holidays on here and have no intention of doing so. You are making an assumption. It's not a fact.

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Funnyfarmer · 22/04/2017 23:45

We have a notice board up in work where people put where they have been on holiday. Staff wages range from min wage to 40k per annum. And I work with some pretty bitchy people but never heard about anyone bitching about where people go on there holidays. They all put the count down thing on fb before they go tagg themselves in the airport and post pics from their holidays. Never ever have I that someone is "showing off" about there holidays. I'm going Blackpool this year. A colleague has just come back off safari in Africa. She brought it pics and videos. Everyone has really enjoyed looking at them.

lougle · 22/04/2017 23:45

DD3 is in a class with some very (nice) wealthy girls. They holiday abroad in almost every
school holiday (taking extra days out of school to allow half-term skiing, for e.g.). She hears about the exotic locations they have been to and sees them coming back with their sun tans. But she knows that we can't afford even a UK holiday. She copes. She doesn't feel cheated. She joyfully tells me the story of where her friends have been and is pleased for them. So I wouldn't worry.

zeeboo · 22/04/2017 23:45

If this girl was rich, entitled and spoilt she wouldn't have torn the page out of the brochure. She'd see it as a non remarkable event. Probably this is a once in a lifetime treat and that's why she wants to keep looking at the resort to make boring school days pass.
OP you really are behaving very oddly. From the total gibberish OP, to not understanding why no one could understand what you were on about to your trying to pretend there is a witch hunt against you while pretending you aren't bothered by said imaginary witch hunt because you are oh so impervious.
It's actually a lot of people telling you quite sensibly that your 'issue' with a child you possibly don't even know is really not normal.

SpareASquare · 22/04/2017 23:46

WTF?????

OP you NEED to deal with your issues before you project them onto your child. Seriously,
How did your dd tell you about this? Is it too late?

IloveBanff · 22/04/2017 23:46

Why the hell a grown woman cares that a child has a picture from a holiday brochure on her pencil case is completely beyond me. To care enough to put a thread on Mumsnet about it is unbelievable.

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:46

Op: am I being unreasonable?
Mumsnet: yes
Op: you're all wrong!

Hardly ... I've not said anyone was wrong. I've disagreed with how points have been put across. I also elaborated on my confusing post. Not once have I said that everyone is wrong.

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Herschellmum · 22/04/2017 23:49

I'm confused too, so your upset/annoyed a 12 year old is excited about their holiday and out a picture in her pencil case to show others?

Yes it sucks when others can afford the same things but this doesn't mean others have to hide away theory excitement jus because they can afford it. I've not been aboard in over 10 years and I live hearing about others holiday plans.

WorraLiberty · 22/04/2017 23:49

I'm sending DS to school on Monday with this in his clear pencil case.

Haterz gunna hate.

Oooh they'll be frothing at the mouth.

To think this child shouldn't show off this way?
JigglyTuff · 22/04/2017 23:49

Well you haven't admitted that you and your DD are jealous and that the other kid hasn't done anything wrong.

Funnyfarmer · 22/04/2017 23:51

Where is the holiday? Is it you or dc that finds the girls picture to be showing off?

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Fourtwenty · 22/04/2017 23:51

I'm not jealous of anyone going on holiday. I've been fortunate enough to go to some amazing locations and have lived abroad quite a few times in my life.

I personally find it odd to show everyone in your class where you're going (not a show and tell) ... obviously that is just me and I am being unreasonable about it.

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Zhan · 22/04/2017 23:53

Yeah you are