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DH - What did he have and has he still got it?

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CesarElDh · 22/04/2017 20:23

I don't mean to lower the tone on here, but I find it interesting how attraction can mean such different things to different people?
What attracted you to your DH/ DP and, perhaps more importantly, did it last or maybe evolve into something else?

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Mustardnowletsnotbesilly · 22/04/2017 20:51

I work in a hospital and saw my husband assist intubating someone while others were flapping. He was so cool and calm and I knew I had to have him!!!

Solarpinlight · 22/04/2017 20:52

Lovely, kind, handsome face.
Loves me unconditionally, clean hands, always smells great.
Big, chunky body. Makes my tummy turn over still after being together 18 years.
I love him.

Turquesa · 22/04/2017 20:52

Squirrels Flowers. Thankyou for your post.

Screwinthetuna · 22/04/2017 20:53

Height and handsome face

Slim, tanned body

He was very affectionate/loving/attentive

He was a 'cool' guy, haha

Out of those, he's still tall and handsome but everything else has evolved. He's the best dad I've ever seen (more like a mum, wants to do everything and has done for years), an extremely hard worker and so loyal. Like a completely different person to the young man I fell in love

Chasingsquirrels · 22/04/2017 20:54

This is a lovely thread, and the STD reference made me laugh!

bushtailadventures · 22/04/2017 20:55

He was the opposite of everything I had ever known I suppose, a 'skinhead' in torn jeans and a harrington jacket when I had only really known 'nice' middle class boys.

Nearly 30 years on, he's as respectable as they come, boring probably to other people, but he is still the best thing that ever happened to me, and we have been through a lot together. Even though he infuriates me sometimes, I can't imagine life without him.

JellyWitch · 22/04/2017 20:55

He was my best friend and still is.

witsender · 22/04/2017 20:55

Calm, unflappable, solid (personality).

All round confident, real person. Treated people well, held on to friends, loved his family. Always honest with me and treated me well. Clever.

Tall. Smile

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 22/04/2017 20:56

Lookswise: lovely eyes, tall, heavily built (I like big men), freckles, sexy smile

Personality: shy yet assertive, kind, affectionate, protective, generous. He has the best sense of humour (it's as sick and black as mine) and despite very different backgrounds we have shared values and agree on most things.

nursy1 · 22/04/2017 20:56

My DH didn't appeal immediately. He helped me out with a work related project so talked on the phone, met up a couple of times.
I think it was the easy conversation, range of subjects, he was really interesting. So I invited him for dinner. For a long time it was just like that. He was getting divorced. I was a single parent. We didn't introduce kids. I didn't want a serious relationship
He just slowly, slowly grew on me. I had broken off key in my patio doors so couldn't open them. Was working from home and a locksmith banged on door - he had sent him round to fix it for me to say thank you for previous weeks barbeque with kids. Thoughtful stuff like this just made me realise I was in love. First time he unexpectedly spent the night he had to iron his previous days shirt for work. My ironing board cover full of holes so, I got flowers AND an ironing board cover. I should mention that he is tall, dark and yes, handsome with lovely arms and very kind eyes.
30 years later he is still thoughtful, no matter what us happening in our lives he always goes the extra miles for me and our kids. We are 60 now so the dark has turned grey but he is still lovely

Turquesa · 22/04/2017 20:56

Zoflora -"I thought you were talking about an STD." GrinGrinGrin

milpool · 22/04/2017 20:56

We met as teenagers. He could skateboard, play guitar and had opinions and a tongue piercing Grin

Later down the line I realised I also really liked his broad shoulders. And forearms.

He doesn't have the tongue piercing any more and he (thankfully) is less opinionated (well, more quiet with it).

I still fancy him though.

crazywriter · 22/04/2017 20:56

Funny, sensitive, supportive...

He put me together when I was broken, even though I pushed him away (and I've since had to do the same)

My love grows for him each day.

UndersecretaryofWhimsy · 22/04/2017 20:57

We 'met' online (though not through OLD) and had been chatting for more than a year when we got around to meeting up. So it was his personality - his kindness, geekiness, feminism, values. I wasn't conscious of fancying him then but other people who knew us both already had bets on whether we would get together Smile

Then we met for the first time in person and, IDK, I just had a shiver run over me. I felt that we were going to be important in each others lives, I didn't know why. I was very attracted to him, although I didn't instantly go 'phwoar' and he wasn't (what I thought was) my type.

It's lasted.

LemonSqueezy0 · 22/04/2017 20:57

We had this amazing chemistry as soon as we met, and it hasn't faded at all. He was the best person id ever met, and I still feel the same way. He's passionate, kind, sexy and totally in love with me too. I've never met someone like him. Grin

witsender · 22/04/2017 20:58

He's the best person I know. My kids are very lucky to have his as their father

Roussette · 22/04/2017 20:58

chasingsquirrels that is so beautiful. Flowers

Me...
Huge brain but modest and understated. Nothing has changed. I learn from him all the time (and don't think that makes me inferior, it doesn't). He's a fascinating bloke actually

Kind

Consistent

Married 0over 30 years. He's a delight

Roussette · 22/04/2017 20:59

p.s. I don't have a huge brain, DH does!

GeekyWombat · 22/04/2017 20:59

Cheeky grin, twinkle in his gorgeous brown eyes, intelligence, filthiness and kindness.

He still has all the, and there's lots of other things I've learned about him that are even more attractive.

I'm a lucky woman.

LuluJakey1 · 22/04/2017 21:00

Eyes, smile, lips, height and build (first things)

Then his sense of humour, his mind, his values, kindness to people, generosity.

Exceptional kissing skills

Still has all of the above in buckets and is now a great dad too. Mind you he drives me mad with other things but never big things.

purplehonesty · 22/04/2017 21:01

He's so funny
Kind
Attentive

And yep still has all that

isittheholidaysyet · 22/04/2017 21:01

His dedication to God.
His maturity.
His wicked sense of humour.

itsnotterrysitsmine · 22/04/2017 21:01

His sense of humour, his cheekiness, so easy to talk to, his honesty, strength, compassion, hardworking & he puts his family first. He is the exact opposite of the abusive alcoholic father I grew up with in every way.

He has seen me at my best & absolute worst, he knows me better than I know myself at times, has never judged me, loves me beyond measure & I know with the exception of our dc's I'm his number 1. He is an amazing father. He is my absolute rock & has made me a better person.

He still has all the things he had when we met (just with less hair 😂) but is a more mature, better version of the man he was then.

DieSchottin93 · 22/04/2017 21:03

I also thought the title was referring to an STD Blush

I'm still young and haven't met The One yet but it's so lovely reading about everyone's wonderful partners...I hope I'm lucky enough to find a man like that Smile

Judydreamsofhorses · 22/04/2017 21:03

Kindness, patience, the ability to make me laugh until I cry, amazing kisser. Still got it, 13 years on, and I love him very much. (Even though he is a lazy arse.)

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