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DH - What did he have and has he still got it?

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CesarElDh · 22/04/2017 20:23

I don't mean to lower the tone on here, but I find it interesting how attraction can mean such different things to different people?
What attracted you to your DH/ DP and, perhaps more importantly, did it last or maybe evolve into something else?

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Mrsmadevans · 22/04/2017 21:57

My DH was soooo handsome. I thought he was drop dead gorgeous and he was so smart and l thought he would never be interested in me ....I fell in love with him at first sight . I have been really lucky in love .It was at my 18th birthday party he came with a friend .He had a beard and a tash and slightly long hair , he was beautiful to me and he still is .

BreakfastAtStephanies · 22/04/2017 21:58

Chasing- I remember your thread at the time. . .sounds like you have good memories.

DH has sea-green eyes and great legs, looks good in shorts. Just the right amount of hair on his chest. He is always warm to snuggle up to not nice for him when I am often cold . Great sense of humour. Just sat next to him on the sofa and he pulled his gilet over his head and zipped it up when I wasn't looking, then looked at me through the armhole. He looked like a headless body. He does this stuff a lot.

When we were first dating, it was hugely attractive that he wanted to spend time with me and see me so much ( I had been in a LTR with a commitment-phobe previously). He would drive 50 miles to watch me have a horse-riding lesson, then we would go to the pub, then he would go home again.

He was spontaneous before we had the kids, ( out for tea, going to the movies after work ) but less so now.

He is my best friend. Marrying him ten months after meeting him was the best thing I ever did.

Dani240 · 22/04/2017 21:58

I could get teary thinking about this! What attracted me to my DH was without doubt his utter enthusiasm and lust for life. He was like a puppy bouncing up and down telling me about the things that he enjoys. On our second date he asked the waiter for "the cheapest bottle of white you have" without a hint of embarrassment then convinced me to climb a wall hanging over a river to reach a secret place that he knew.

It was only later that I realised that he was also kind, exceptionally intelligent and completely humble Smile

Eight years and two children later and he's still exactly the same! I'm very lucky.

Goingtobeawesome · 22/04/2017 21:58

Mummysrcrazy1 - you'll get help to get out if you just ask.

SelfObsessionHoney · 22/04/2017 22:00

Initially it was his sense of humour and cheeky charm, he was trying to flog me an internet plan. I didn't sign up. Also good forearms.
I think I really fell for him when I realised just how much he loved me.

Chasingsquirrels · 22/04/2017 22:02

Oh gosh wannabe hugs
And motherofdaemons and mummysrcrazy1 and DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep to you all too, and to anyone else feeling like this.

I don't think anything is perfect, everyone had their faults - I know DH did, although they weren't major, and so do I - more than him!
But sometimes it works despite the faults, and when that happens and you just accept and love each other regardless and you both have each others back - well it's just worth having, and worth having had.

n0ne · 22/04/2017 22:03

I know it's a cliche but his sense of humour. It's really odd, like mine, and he knows how to tickle my funny bone like no-one else in the world. Also his intelligence, his knowledge on all topics (not the same thing), and he has this weird kind of suave but sensitive/shy thing going on. And he had this kind of natural poise for a tall, tubby man, which I think comes from doing ballroom dancing as a teen (don't ask). He still has all these qualities so I guess I'll always fancy and love him Smile

Welshmaenad · 22/04/2017 22:05

I'm only six months in so you can ignore it as honeymoonish rose tinted glasses but wankstainwasher there are good ones out there! Didn't really think I'd find anyone nice after separating from my husband and a brief disastrous emotionally abusive relationship with a sociopath that I thought would be as good as I could expect.

The I met this fabulous chap on OLD, chatted to him a while then took myself for a weekend break in his home city so I could take him out for a drink, hoping to Christ that this wonderfully warm and cynically funny, intelligent, interesting man was genuine.

He was. He was also tall, handsome, delightfully beardy, incredibly easy to talk to and had had the good grace to pre plan where he was going to dump my body parts after he murdered me, as my sister fully expected him to (it was thankfully somewhere picturesque, who wants the bag of their seeping entrails to be dumped somewhere ugly??)

I finally got round to kissing him properly on our second date, and not only was he very good at that, he pulled me in and smoothed my hair before safely entrusting me to a taxi driver. That kind of sold it for me.

He has carried on being quite wonderful, and funny, he's also incredibly supportive and talks a remarkable amount of sense. He not only puts up with my stupid health condition but understands it, and takes care of me, he has rebuilt my shattered self esteem and made me feel strong and capable and worthy again. He's also terrific in bed and has the most gorgeous hairy chest that I like to snuggle my face into Grin

He is, frankly, fucking fabulous, and I love him. I should probably get around to telling him that sometime soon.

NotALottaPot · 22/04/2017 22:06

My very first impression of DH was that he was confident (slightly cocky), good looking and popular with the ladies. Someone who knew exactly how good looking they were. But very soon I saw a side of him that was much more down to earth, sweet, funny, easy to talk to, interesting and just a nice guy. And that's what really made me fall in love with him.

He's still the same sweet, funny, nice guy, good looking of course. He's still got the same confidence in his working life which is so appealing and charming. Tbh, at the moment we're struggling to find any time together so we've drifted apart slightly but when we're spending any time together we're the same as we ever were.

kikicrystalripple · 22/04/2017 22:18

I was 'warned off him' by friends and family. I was instantly attracted to him. Greek, good looking and such a confident personality.

This sounds bad but I was a tourist in his hotel - he asked me out for a drink (numerous times before I accepted due to typical yeah yeah opinion) I finally accepted. We were like soul mates - he absolutely idolises me and I think the world of him. He treats me like a princess and would do anything for me

McPie · 22/04/2017 22:22

I still get the same flutter when his van pulls up after he finishes work as I did the first time I set eyes on him and he still views me the same as he did 20 years and 3 kids ago!

Fl0ellafunbags · 22/04/2017 22:28

wannabestressfree

You found yourself a good one Flowers

magimedi · 22/04/2017 22:36

He is my day, my night, the first thing I say hallo to in the morning & the last thing I say good night to in the evening.

He is everything to me - my rock ,my bread maker, my own special man.

Coming up for 32 years of marriage & I love the very bones of him.

Find it hard to put down in words just how much he means to me.

WildIrishRose1 · 22/04/2017 22:38

My DH is kind, empathetic, intelligent, funny, sexy, etc; but his greatest attribute is his love for his family, and a loyal friend.

I have been known (in younger years) to burst into tears, while I insisted "I love, you, DH, I really do!) 😳🍷🍷#mortified

WildIrishRose1 · 22/04/2017 22:42

Welshmaenad 😀

motherofdaemons · 22/04/2017 22:43

Rousette thank you. He's a good guy, a really great guy actually. So charming. Everyone likes him. He's just a really shitty husband.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 22/04/2017 22:52

His smile (my daughter inherited it so I got lucky)
His humour

Later on, his compassion, he mended my broken life and showed me I wasn't a failure. His way of seeing the positive in most situations. He makes me feel safe and smells like home. He gave me (in my eyes) the most perfect child.

12 years later and he is still as awesome as the day I met him.

wannabe Flowers and Cake

WomblingThree · 22/04/2017 22:57

Our dads worked for the same company and as we'd both just moved to the area, they thought it would be nice if we were friends(I was 16, he was 18). I thought he was a boring twat and he thought I was loud and obnoxious.

We kept bumping into each other and then I realised I actually quite liked him, so I made sure I was where he was 😉.

Eventually he asked me out for a drink and that was it. Twenty-odd years later I still feel the same. I love being with him. He looks after me, puts up with my crazy and my chronic illnesses. Tells me I'm talking bollocks when I am. He's a great dad, son and brother. He just gets me like no one else does.

squirrels and wannabe 💐

AmberNectarine · 22/04/2017 23:01

I still can't put my finger on it, I was just captivated by him. I can list all the things I love about him now that I know him, but what drew me to him in the first place, I can't define. I just couldn't stay away.

And yes, he must still have it, because almost a decade later I still live, work and socialise with the man 😊

MeadowHay · 22/04/2017 23:02

The first things I noticed were: fluffy hair, beautiful big smile, and that he was friendly and polite. All still true Smile.

iklboo · 22/04/2017 23:03

Made me laugh, made me feel appreciated, interesting, intelligent and worth something (ex had spent 14 years destroying my self esteem). Made me feel safe. Still got it.

Paleninteresting · 22/04/2017 23:07

Amazing smile
Lovely firm upper arms and chest
Patience of a saint
Confident and assertive
Soft as butter with those he loves
Cooks everything
Arranges the holidays
Still there and marrying soon.

notangelinajolie · 22/04/2017 23:13

His kind soul.

PickAChew · 22/04/2017 23:17

Kind, funny, practical, good with his hands.

He's middle aged and a little grumpy, now - his sense of humour has taken a hammering, lately, and he's spark out on the sofa with his mouth open (hawt!), but he's still practical (though teaching him to paint walls without painting the carpet and ceiling at the same time is a work in progress - he's been painting the boys' room and his hair is a little greyer than usual!) and definitely turned out to be good with his hands :o

CheeseQueen · 22/04/2017 23:20

Awww, this thread's lovely. I'm used to coming on MN and hearing about how all men are twats and hearing cries of"LTB!" Grin
Men are ace and this thread proves there are lovely ones out there.
With me?
His sense of humour, kindness and general niceness. Smile