@PhyllisNights - I am going to repeat what I said earlier about not building up such a rosy, romantic, idealistic picture of how parenthood is going to be. Dreams are good, but the reality of parenthood can be a bit of a shock, especially if you have decided in advance how wonderful it is all going to be.
I honestly believe that having a too-rosy picture of how perfect life with a baby is going to be can contribute to PND, when someone finds out that motherhood is not all fluffy blankets, cuddles and rocking chairs, and there is a whole lot of poo, wee, vomit and screaming (not all of it from the baby), and you are trying to hang onto what little tatters remain of your sanity on little or no sleep.
As a previous poster has said, "there is no duller subject in the world than "parenting styles" from someone who doesn't even have children yet." That sounds harsh, I know - but it is true.
Remember that, on MN, you are talking to a bunch of people, the majority of whom actually have children and therefore know a helluva lot more than you do about what it is actually like raising them.
The best advice I can give anyone about parenting is this - yes, by all means read the books, decide which theories you like and dislike - but bear in mind that your child and your family are not going to fit any theory exactly, so take the bits that suit you and your baby from all the theories, and cobble them together into something that suits you. As others have said, choice can be good, but there are some things in life where there is no choice, and a child needs to learn this. For example - choosing what to wear - that is generally OK, but if it is below freezing outside and you have to take the child out, you can't let them choose to wear shorts, t-shirt and sandals. At that point, the good parent has to step in and say that the child's choice is not sensible. So you allow choice but within limits. Then when your child goes to school and has to wear uniform, you have set a precedent and can say "Darling, you can choose what to wear after school and weekends and holidays, but you have to wear the uniform for school".
I only recommend two parenting books - Divas and Doorslammers by Charlie Taylor, which is about the adolescent years, and How Not To Be A Perfect Mother by Libby Purves - which is a wonderful, funny and very realistic look at motherhood, with a lot of very sensible advice - eg. it doesn't matter if the baby is wearing a disposable nappy and one of their brother's jumpers with the arms rolled up, as long as the baby is warm, fed and has a clean bottom. And - even a perfect Madonna needs half an hour off, with her feet up and a drink!