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To be uncomfortable with this?

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 11:53

I feel like dp is trying to blackmail his boss into giving him a pay rise. He recently started new job at small family business and is on fairly good money but is asking for c8k more after being unhappy with the way some things are done there. To quote dp his boss "can hardly refuse" - job is 9-5 on the dot, not huge amounts of work - I love and respect my dp but feel a bit put out by his attitude that he deserves significantly more money "just because"... I'm not jealous, I'm on similar money but have had to work so hard to get there and make a lot of sacrifices, it hasn't been easy and I haven't just been able to ask for it either

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Whosthemummynow · 19/04/2017 11:55

I don't understand? How is he blackmailing exactly?

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 11:57

I don't want to go into the details but dp was asked to do something he deemed inappropriate, he refused, boss seemed embarrassed - and now dp's request is coming off the back of this

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stolemyusername · 19/04/2017 11:58

Of course they can refuse, and pack him on his merry way with a flea in his ear.

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 11:58

It's the entitlement that winds me up a bit Blush

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VimFuego101 · 19/04/2017 12:00

A new employee has pretty limited protection against being let go. Why is he so certain they won't just tell him to leave?

clairethewitch70 · 19/04/2017 12:00

My husband and I run a small family business and if one of our members of staff tried to blackmail us they would be straight out of the door. If he recently started he is likely to be on a trial period. I think he is being very silly here, especially if there is not huge amounts of work. How is the business going to afford an extra 8k? Also the staff who have worked there longer are more entitled than he. You can not raise a new staff members pay without raising the others. This situation would make us so angry and we would be on the phone to the FSB.

clairethewitch70 · 19/04/2017 12:01

In a small business, all staff have to muck in and do things outside job description once in a while. thats how small businesses work.

Kidakidder · 19/04/2017 12:11

Depends what the "inappropriate" was. If it was kneecap their debtors, or hide a body, yeah, I'd push for the extra cash.

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 12:14

To wipe boss' search history after he looked at adult websites - dp said no

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Goldfishjane · 19/04/2017 12:15

Oh sounds like your DP was told where the bodies are buried? Otherwise how could he feel he has a hold?
He is being silly, lots of firms get away eith doing all kinds of things so unless this is really eeeevil....

Kidakidder · 19/04/2017 12:16

£8k to hide some internet history? That's terrible!

Goldfishjane · 19/04/2017 12:17

Oh cross post
That's not something your DP can get money for, no.

Did boss ask so it would look like DP had been looking at them?

Floggingmolly · 19/04/2017 12:17

It doesn't matter how inappropriate the request was, really, unles it's documented.
If it's his word against theirs he can't prove a thing, and if he shows signs of trying to extort money on the back of it (cocky little twat!) they've have him out the door so fast his feet won't touch the floor.

Floggingmolly · 19/04/2017 12:17

Why would boss not wipe his own history? Hmm

NinonDeLenclos · 19/04/2017 12:19

He's not very bright is he? Does he want to be unemployed?

Floggingmolly · 19/04/2017 12:19

Tbh, that sounds a bit like a test; and if he demands cash he'll have failed (miserably). He doesn't sound the sharpest tool in the box?

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 12:20

Boss didn't know how

In fairness, dp's role has changed a fair bit which is why he feels he should be compensated to reflect this. But 8k is huge! His logic is boss can afford it and would be a drop in the ocean for him

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muckypup73 · 19/04/2017 12:20

Floggingmolly makes a very goodpoint, why on earth did the boss not delete his own history?? and if this is true your fella is a twat.

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 12:20

He wouldn't phrase it as the above btw, he would go down the route of his job role having changed

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muckypup73 · 19/04/2017 12:21

Sounds like he needs sacking your fella

Floggingmolly · 19/04/2017 12:21

Changed a fair bit from what? You said he'd only recently started

TheFrendo · 19/04/2017 12:22

If I was the boss, I would fire your husband.

If I was your husband I would have shown the boss how to delete his search history.

muckypup73 · 19/04/2017 12:22

Oh Floggginmolly you are well on the ball!!!

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WhydoIfeelWeirdaboutthis · 19/04/2017 12:25

Oh drat let me just come out with it - I'm a troll!! With only my dp's job to troll about #livingthedream

Yes exactly troll hunters. He started 7 months ago. Job has changed from what he was taken on for originally duty-wise - as I assume is the case in many smaller businesses!!

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Kidakidder · 19/04/2017 12:25

Angling for a promotion and rise is one thing. Attempting to use leverage is quite another. If I was his boss, his feet wouldn't touch he'd be gone so fast.

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